He doesn't want me to touch him down there?

[Anonymous]

so I started hooking up with this guy... the making is always really hot but when we get into the other stuff I get kinda uncomfortable just because I'm self-conscious... sometimes he isn't as hard which really freaks me out... like he will always be hard but not AS hard... is this a sign he is not interested and just wanting to me to help "meet" his needs? and recently he started doing this thing where he fingers me and when I start to touch him down there he will let me but ask me to stop because he wants me to "just enjoy yourself"... I don't understand. am I doing something wrong? why would he just want to please me?

[TeresaTiger]

I wouldn't read too much into it. It is probably stress and nervousness. He could be a little shy. It sounds like he really wants to please you and impress you. Take this as a compliment, not a bad sign. I would strongly suggest giving some more time and letting him please you the way he seems to want to, but definitely talk about it. Communication is the key. At some point he is going to have to know that he should let you do want you want to do. Enjoy and don't worry. His "hardness" is not uncommon with guys when they are first having sexual contact with a girl they really like a lot. They don't want to seem selfish so they go a bit overboard on the pleasing you. A hard-on is never a guarantee that a guy likes you or especially vice versa.

[dollme777]

Because maybe he likes to dominate during sexual activities there is nothing wrong with that, an it may turn him on to see and hear you moan...next time you guys are having a moment try to take control and if he says "just enjoy yourself", say in a sexy way "but I want to enjoy you" and see what he says

[wanacot]

Any number of things can cause a guy to not be as hard as other times. Stress, diet, fatigue, sexual excitement, etc. It could be you, but chances are it's not so don't worry.

About why he doesn't want you touching him, I have no idea. Most guys are doing anything and everything so that you WILL touch them. Ask him about it, he's the only one that really knows for sure.

[Nacelunk]

That's a bit strange, what kinda man would not want a girl touch his penis? My guess is most likely he is a too nervous, or stressed out about something, not necessarily related to you.

[Anonymous]

Just let him do his thing first so that he will know your enjoying it. Because he probably thinks that you are not enjoying what he is giving you because you are too busy trying to satisfy him. Guys love to please girls! The part about why he is not hard that much, I have no clue.