Why is it anyone else's business that you're a virgin or not?
In a workplace environment, your own life should be your own business as long as it doesn't affect your work.
I have had a lot of different feelings when the topic has come up throughout my life.
I've felt encouraged by people who applauded my decision to keep myself for my husband.
I've felt annoyed by people who considered me a hypocrite or stupid or unreasonable for my decision.
Awkward? I've felt that way probably once in my life when I went on an overnight camping trip with some friends last year. I was the only one without a partner, so to speak. lol.
Though I am a virgin, I see having sex as something like drinking alcohol. (bear with my explanation, haha)
Some people choose not to drink alcohol for many reasons like they don't want to do something stupid or they're waiting until they're old enough to buy it.
In the same way, people choose not to have sex because of the consequences it can possibly have. You can get pregnant, get your heart broken, get an STD, and so on.
By abstaining from alcohol or sex, you reap the benefits of not having to deal with some bad things. At the same time, you have to deal with the comments from the peanut gallery who think you should indulge (as well as the people who applaud your decision).
I disagree with the anonymous user who said you should sleep with other people. In that way, the alcohol/sex connection analogy ends.
I believe in being able to experiment wholly with one person sexually. You reduce the chances for spreading STDs. With STDs and such on the rise (not all STDs can be stopped by a condom, btw) I think it is everyone's duty to do as much as they can to prevent disease. ((sorry for sounding a bit preachy there.))
I don't think its something to be shame full about at all. I am 18 and I am a virgin and I don't give a damn about whether its bad or good. Firstly, because I don't need to lay someone just to feel like I can be "hot" and feel like I can "fit in". I don't need that. In fact, people that I know. That HAVE lost their virginity prefer to be a virgin. And in some aspects regret it. And they have always told me NOT to give in. So learning from them. I have no certain interest.
I don't feel weird about it at all. I am very happy being a virgin. Lol I mean. Sure. I won't stay a virgin forever. But for now NO THANX!
Being a virgin these days is not a shame! I'm not one myself and I regret it. The majority of young people these days say they wish they never had sex. I think that is awesome how you have held out for so long. Your virginity is very very sacred. Not just anybody should take that away from you! It should be someone you truly and honestly love. Someone special to you. But Preferably is should DEFINITELY be your husband. So honey, there is nothing wrong with you being a virgin. Take pride in that ok!
I'm 20 and I am still a virgin too... and I am proud of it. and most guys like that I am still a virgin and it seems like they respect me much more because of it.
so you shouldn't be ashamed of it !! but be proud and if you find the right guy 1 day and you feel like having sex... then go for it ;)
People have always justified their actions by speaking as if the opposite is incorrect. So those who lost their virginity early can feel better about it by acting like it was the "right" or "cool" thing to do. I've found that most people who say things jokingly in groups about virgins being less than non-virgins, actually don't judge people who are virgins when they interact with them. They're just trying to impress other people (and make it clear that they're not a virgin [or cover up that they ARE a virgin] because they think they'll get judged for it).
There's no shame in it. But because sex has such a stigma in this country, everyone feels that there has to be a right and wrong answer. Naturally they'll assume that their choice was the "right" answer. Everyone should just do what they're most comfortable with. That's honorable, not shameful.
Most people are fine with it, but there's a certain judgmental crowd out there that DOES shame virgins. It's far worse for a guy to be a virgin, because they think he's either a pussy or a closet queer. I know, because I was a virgin until I was 25, and after I lost my virginity, the shaming crap stopped immediately.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Well I really don't think there's anything wrong with it. especially for a girl. but for a guy, then I'll have to question why he's still a virgin :P. double standard, I know.
You should never feel ashamed of being a virgin.
It means you are still pure and a lot of guys like when a girl hasn't been with anyone.
So don't go losing your v-card just so you won't feel awkward in those social situations.
Good for you anonymous. Here in the United States you are exceptional but in most non-Western cultures you are closer to the NORM.so don't feel bad Even in Western cultures outside the US you would not have to feel ashamed
The universal prostitution that is the norm in the US has many other exceptions. Don't think you are alone. Most are afraid to speak up just like you. I myself was a virgin until your age.
Best of luck to you. Feel good about yourself.
babygirl I'm with you all the way on this topic your 2yrs older then me and we are in the same boat. SO YOUR NOT ALONE
I'm 26, I'm not afraid to say I'm a virgin. I'm not waiting for anyone special or "the one". I could easily go out and pay for it but I don't. If the question ever comes up in the workplace or elsewhere, heads do turn but at the same time they give me the thumbs up because I stand tall and proud for believing that I don't need sex to keep on living. When will I have sex? I have no idea, I just know that I'm in no way obligated to do the deed just to satisfy everyone around me.
I'm 23 and a virgin and it doesn't bother me at all. Never has, never will. I'll lose my virginity when I'm ready. Being a virgin is not a shame at all. I'm proud of the fact that I have waited.
Only idiots put value on virginity and precieved sexual purity or a lack thereof
me.. in our culture it's a shame that if a single girl like you loss her virginity.. and no one like to marry a used girl.. I advice you to keep your virginity for your coming husband.. you can read in the Islamic rules.. it will help you how to behave with your life habits ( it will help you a lot )..
you are doing good..
Please the girl I want to marry better be a virgin. Because if you think about it... would you want to lose it to a dude whos your High School Boy Friend... or the man you love for the rest of your life.
Our society treats it as if it's a shame. We hear a lot about how we shouldn't slut shame, yet those same people will gladly virgin shame. No, there is nothing wrong with being a virgin and 23 is really not that old anyway.
You have nothing to be ashamed about.
I didn't lose my virginity until I was 29, and I would not have changed a thing. Don't let outside or peer pressure make you lose sleep over this. Believe it or not, some people, including myself, think that's really cool.
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If you're a virgin, you're losing out on a lot of practice before the big choices make it harder to "live out fantasies", and you won't discover your sexuality independently from a steady partner either. I wouldn't say it's a shame, but you are denying yourself practice for how to have a better sexual life, and you are certainly not doing anything for equality, as girls with experience along the norm of society seem slutty in comparison to you, instead of seeming independent and freed, as they are. Ultimately, the choice is yours, and you shouldn't do anything you don't feel comfortable with. However, if you want to try it, you should just get over yourself and do it instead of pondering. It's worth it.
I would never be in a relationship, or consider a relationship with someone without sexual experience. If you don't learn to like it before you settle your opinions on the subject, you will be a boring lover, and THAT, my good woman, is a damn shame and a waste of pussy!
I would most definitely not be ashamed of it. I am 17 and lost it at 16 I am ashamed of it. I felt so bad when my Boyfriend asked me if I was still a virgin and I said no, he is 26 and has only been with one girl. That made me feel bad.
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