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Oral Sex and Hygiene? Guys can Answer Also.

My boyfriend has this routine I have to follow in order for him to perform oral sex on me.I have to shower and wash myself with soap or body wash down there,douche,shower again and wash myself with soap or body wash again,then soak in the tub for a few minutes,like a short bath.And since oral sex is the only way I can orgasm,i do this everyday when we have sex,which is 1-2 times a day.So my Qs are: 1)Girls,what soap or body wash do you prefer to wash yourself with "down there?" Right now I'm using Dial Antibacterial Cranberry Body wash,but it's kind of drying me out. Guys,what soap or body wash do you prefer your girl to wash herself with "down there" before oral? 2)Girls,what's a good douche brand? And I know of Summers Eve,but since I have to buy them almost every other day,would using a store brand douche be bad for me? 3)Girls,What can I use for irritation?I'm pretty dry down there and itchy cause I think the douching is irritating me,but what creams can I use?Can you give me specific brands?(sorry I'm clueless about female products) 4)For Guys and Girls,What's a good lubricant you can recommend?I know of all that KY stuff,but I don't know which one to try?(This would be for vaginal sex).What's one you can recommend that would enhance his pleasure a little more? I would appreciate it if you could answer all of the Qs but it's alright if you can't,I understand
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Could you all please just answer the Questions and not give relationship advice please?I'm asking nicely because I actually do want answers
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  • 1) You don't need to. Normal bathing/showering with green-friendly soap is plenty. Antibacterial soap is extremely bad for you, especially long-term. Get a new boyfriend.

    2) None. Unless you have a particularly urgent vaginal or urinary tract condition you should never douche. Even then you should only use plain water and/or prescribed medicine/antibiotics. Get a new boyfriend.

    3) You nailed it on both counts: the douching and soap are ruining your naturally wonderful body and yes I definitely recommend some better education on health and sex (I am not being mean and please don't take offense).

    4) -----

    A. Water based: Water-based personal lubricants are water soluble and are the most widely available personal lubricant on the market. Because they are mostly water, they evaporate and get absorbed by the skin very quickly and dry out leaving a sticky residue that impedes the intended smooth effect. This is remedied by easily adding more water, saliva or lube. Many formulas require constant reapplication or wetting.

    B. Oil based: Not very common and usually only recommended for perimenopausal and menopausal women. Many different formulas of oil-based personal lubricants are being developed for widespread use but few are currently available.

    C. Silicone-based lubricants: Possess many unique qualities which make them very different from other personal lubricants. Silicone based personal lubricants do not absorb into the skin, instead staying on the surface of the skin to provide a durable glide. Various products have varying characteristics, quality and performance. Not all silicone-based lubricants are certified condom and latex safe so the user must always check the label and use as directed. Silicone-based lubricants are not recommended for use with silicone-based sex toys. The lubricants dissolve the surface of the toys, making them sticky and causing them to slowly disintegrate. Pre-lubricated condoms may use a silicone lubricant and should therefore be checked before using with silicone-based sex toys.

    I truly hope that this helps and that you enjoy your sex life (even with him). I do feel strongly that he seek education regarding health and sex and possibly even counseling (his fear of a woman's body is irrational to say the least).

    Best wishes,

    -Teresa

  • All that washing is terrible for you. This is coming from a pre-med student who has just recently performed tests in lab on this sort of thing. Washing once a day with a gentle soap is ok. But douching/soaking on top of it multiple times a day is going to give you terrible drying/irritation and put you at risk of infections. Your guy is so concerned about you being "clean," but what he's asking you to do will actually increase the bacteria in your vagina. Plus the fact that he's being a jerk. I think it's safe to assume you don't make him go through this entire process before you perform oral on him? He's being a bad guy and I can't give you brands for any of these things as it would be promoting bad health habits. As well as contributing to your boyfriend's idiocy.

    • Well said.

    • *applauds*

    • Agreed.

  • You are blatantly closed-minded, stubborn and misguided if after all these people respond with pretty much the same advice and all you have to say is, "You people are no help." Besides being so closed-minded, you are being very rude by telling everyone who took the time to help you with good sound advice that they are "no help."

    It's like you're asking a room full of people, "How do I breath?" And everyone in the room is telling you how to use your diaphragm muscles to draw in air and you are still convinced that they are not trying to help you. What is the deal? Are you waiting for someone to shout, "Hold your breath?"

    Good luck.

    • No one answered my questions,so there wasn't any thought put into any of these answers.I don't care what people think of my boyfriend or my routine,I simply asked for some questions to be answered

    • Sometimes the answer you get different from the one you wanted. Because people actually CARE.

Most Helpful Guys

  • You shouldn't have to go through all this just for something he should be willing to do to please you. Hell, if need be a quick wipe of a warm washcloth should be enough at that if its such a big deal about "clean". However if he's going to treat you like this, id suggest you do the equal so he knows how much of a pain in the ass it is (unless you actually enjoy having to shower and bath several times a day)

  • For starters,there's a difference between wanting to make sure you're clean,and treating you like a dirty dog.Douching is bad for your vagina,and washing with soap is bad for your vagina too,you should only have to wash with water.

    I hope he washes vigorously before you give him oral

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  • If you really just wanted your questions answered, you would have been better off just asking them without the strange back story. Sorry.

  • Last time I checked I thought the vaj was self cleaning? Perhaps someone can back this up or tell other?

    • You are right Mr. Women are not suppose to douche until they are old and get advised by a doctor...its bad for us chicks...so don't do it....older women don't work as good, so the cleaning enzymes are not as evident.

    • @ihateboston --agreed. The vagina is for all intents and purposes self-cleaning. Douches are extremely bad for you and were invented by ignorant misogynistic men who thought that women were naturally unclean, unpleasant and had to be perfumed to the gills just to go out in public. Sounds just like the question asker's boyfriend.

  • If I were you, instead of a new soap, I'd get a new boyfriend. That is not normal.

  • YOU ARE NOT SUPPOSE TO DOUCHE UNLESS YOUR ARE OVER 65 LOL...PLEASE STOP, THATS HORRIBLE...tell your boyfriend to lighten up, this hole process you take is retarded lol...stand up for yourself. he should be lucky to be able to eat you out.

  • I agree with everyone else on the first 3 questions. I would recommend against the douching and washing excessively. That is what's causing the drying and itching. Regarding lubricant, I use one called Wet Warming Gel. It comes in a red plastic bottle and creates a warming sensation that should feel good for both of you.

  • He is taking it a but far, I only le my husband do oral on me in the shower or just after a shower. But that's me, he would give me oral any time. If men like oral, they don't seem to fussed by much. But guys that don't like giving oral don't usually change. Doich ing is bad for you and totally unessasary

  • your boyfriend is enough douche for both of you

    • I laughed, but I shouldn't have.

    • You should...this is another case of love blindness -.-

    • Can't you just address the questions I have rather than commenting or making smart ass comments about my boyfriend?they are simple questions and he nor I Am doing anything wrong

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  • I don't know what your guy is so paranoid, but sweetie, all the douching is baaad for you.

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    it can introduce bacteria, dry out our vag, or mess up your natural pH balance. Your body has a natural way of cleaning itself, and you need to let it do it's work. Shower like you normally would, use a gentle soap and wash clothe to clean around the outside of your vag, but don't douche unless you're recommended to by a Dr (ie, you have a yest infection or something similiar)

    tell him to relax, and if he can't get over it-either give up oral, or find a guy who understands woman's health a little more.

  • Your boyfriend sounds like a tool. Kinda sad you do that all for him,

  • does he watch you do all the sh*t? washing it out with soap and douching every day isn't good for your vagina..seriously just wash like a regular person and tell him you did your daily routine...bet he doesn't even notice the diff

    • No he doesn't watch,but he knows.We live together.And the only reason he can tell is because I have to be fresh out of the shower for it to happen and I shower with the door open...

    • That's sad...i really doubt you actually smell or anything down there in the first place it's just some dumb mental thing that's stuck in his head when you feel like skipping all that sh*t let me know I'll gladly eat you out without all that unnecessary bullsh*t

    • It isn't that big of a deal.He just wants to make sure I'm clean

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