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My boyfriend fingered me and I'm sorta sore?

My boyfriend fingered me for the first time and it really hurt. When I got home later that night it hurt so bad I almost couldn't sleep.. when I went to the bathroom it looked like there might have been some blood I don't know. I think it was that his nails were too long so I told him to cut them so he did. Last night he fingered me again and it didn't hurt so I guess that's what it was. Well I think he rubbed my clit too hard because now it really hurts and I don't know what to do about it. If I push to the left side of it I feel like there's a bruise or something I'm not sure but it hurts and while he was doing this I told him it did. He's new to everything so doesn't really know how to touch me I guess. What should I do? If I see him tomorrow I don't think I want him to do that again. At least not now because I don't like how this is hurting.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • He needs to be way more gentle and caring with you. Good call on making him trim his nails! Be assertive like that all the time. If he's doing something don't be afraid to tell him and even make him stop. Would you ever do something to him after he told you it hurt and he didn't like it? Of course not. So he needs to do the same for you. Even if this means sitting down with him before you have sex again and telling him he hurt you twice so he REALLY needs to listen to you.

    Try taking some ibuprofen until you feel better.

  • It's quite normal to be sore after the first time, it happened with me and it may be due to swelling perhaps as well? But just tell him to be more gentle and you could always perhaps move his hand the way you like it when he is fingering you so he knows what you like and don't like and if he's putting more than one finger in your vagina then it could possibly be stretching the walls and with pressure they can start to swell as I was saying before. But good on you for getting him to cut his nails :)

  • The soreness you describe could have something to do with his nails. Although I suspect that the real reason is the stretching of your vagina, if you've never had anything in there things are pretty tight to begin with. If your boyfriend was a little rough with his stretching in his and or your excitement that could make things sore, I know it did me. Ask him to be a bit more gentle with your vagina, tell him he'll get to play with it more if he plays nice!

Most Helpful Guys

  • He has probably watching too much porn and does not yet know how to please a girl. Sow him how you masturbate, so he can learn. Take your time and teach him... guys are not naturally born lovers, they need some feedback. It is ok to talk about sex and show/tell each other what feels good and what does not.

    If/when you give him a handjob, ask him to show you how he does it. (yes over 95% of young guys jerk off frequently... even thought they will never admit it!) What are your thoughts?

    • To be honest I really don't masturbate so I don't know what to tell him. He actually asked me how I like it and what he should do. I told him not to push down near my clit because that's where he continued to rub and it was hurting. I've never touched him and I think he wants me to because he's been dropping hints. I've never touched a guy either so this'll be a first. I don't know what to do lol my friends say it's common sense and that anything will be fine but I'm scared and don't want to mess up but also I don't want to wait too long then him get irritated at me since he fingers me and I've never touched him... When he drops the hints he says things like anytime you want babe but only if you want to. So I'm not really sure if he means that or is trying to make me hurry up and give him a hj/bj.

    • I'm sure he means it when he drops a hint. I am assuming he is a virgin also. If you are comfortable with it start with a handjob. Don't jump into the blowjob thing. Get use to a guys penis first. When you start with a hj on him ask him what feels better..."do you like it like this or perhaps like this?" Get him to show you, there is nothing wrong with asking. You don't masturbate? Well it certainly is a personal choice, but you are missing out on some great orgasms. Take things slow and please do not hesitate to ask me any question, you will always get an honest answer.

  • Well, tell your boyfriend to back off for a bit. Stick to making out and simple oral for a while, maybe? He needs to be more gentle with you. Don't be afraid to stop in the middle of sex when it hurts.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • tell him you are not a keyboard... or piano and he doesn't need to b this forceful...

  • Stop him, tell him u feel pain, that is rough, let him be normal.

  • If I were a girl I'd go to the doctor

  • well... if it hurts then why you keep doing it dipshit

  • Direct him on how to touch you, what feels good and what doesn't. Tell him to stop when it hurts. No more experimenting until you've recovered. I'm not a virgin and I feel sore as hell after being fingered.

  • its normal. just dont do it for a while.

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