What age should you lose your virginity?

Question

Ok, so I'm only 14 years old and I get really horny easily. I want to give it up so bad to some nice attractive older guy, cause I like them and they're more experienced and know what to do, but then I want to hold on to it till I'm married but I highly doubt anyone will even want to marry someone like me, and I just don't know if I should let my neighbor take my virginity or wait till I've found me a long term boyfriend/husband. Any advice?

BaileyisDarcy · Accepted Answer

In the long run it's up to you. But I would suggest you wait until you're at least sixteen, that way you're at the age of consent.
Masturbation is a thing that will help you deal with your hormones until then.

I haven't lost mine yet (though not by choice. I would have if i could have) but it's not that big a deal. I have less to worry about than other girls my age who have lost it and have to go through worrying about the fact they're not on any sort of contraception, or they might have an STD or something.

Enjoy life as it is for now, you can spend the time waiting by figuring out for yourself what you like before handing the task to somebody else. Being able to tell somebody for your first time what you like best will just make it better. Less fumbling.

wills_beca_ · Accepted Answer

Don't lose you virginity this young! In my opinion it just proves that you have no self respect for your body and i think you would regret losing it so early! Also to say you lost your virginity at age 14 is nothing to be proud of and if you were to lose it to a guy older than you he would just take advantage of you! The age restriction is set for a reason! At the end of the day, its your decision to make, but i think it would be a mistake if you do and any guy who wants to have sex with you whilst you're this young clearly has no respect for you!

Goldie757 · Accepted Answer

1. Wait til the age if consent. Also an "attractive older guy" can get arrested for statutory rape.
2. Masturbate like the other 14 year olds.
3. Also if you have to ask this then you are not ready for sex.

Jlawson118 · Accepted Answer

I'm 19 in a few weeks and I'm still a virgin. But I often hear stories out there of guys and girls who lose their virginity at a young age like yourself and later regret it but I can imagine your hormones are raging like hell at the moment!

I'm not saying do it and I'm not saying don't, but I would suggest personally that I think you should wait until somebody special comes along and allow them to take it instead, providing you feel that they are the one who's right for you. At least you then you can say you were in love at the time you lost it, rather than just a one time stand with a guy

chuppachup · Accepted Answer

My advice to you is, Don't lose it at your age, 16 at least. Don't wait until you're married, it's a big build up for nothing. Wait until you've found a boyfriend you trust and feel comfortable with. Wait until you have basic knowledge of how sex works and how to do it.

XRabbitHeartX · Answer

When you're a adult. I think sex is for grown ups and requires responsibility and maturity. Sex is actually a pretty big deal even if people don't want to admit it. You're running the risk of a lot long term wise and short term wise.. emotional attachment, STD's, pregnancy, effect on future relationships, reputation... especially when you're a female.

Cookiemonsterrr_ · Answer

Please keep hold of your virginity and value you it because it really is precious. Please please, keep it sacred it isn'g something you coukd take back love.

karleaa · Answer

I think you need to chill, lol you're just 14. I don't know what country you're in but if this older guy is caught having any relationship with you (like sexual) he's going to jail, first off. Secondly you're still young as I said. Wait till your 18 at least? And of course someone would marry you as you are, what ever way. There's someone for everyone. Over all advice don't lose your virginity just cos, find someone who you really love and loves you back. Good luck.

idislikeusernames · Answer

take this advice because i lost it younger than you, wait. wait. wait. you honestly have so much more to learn and experience in life (I'm not saying this to try and treat you like a child, I'm just being completely honest) and more importantly you have so much more to discover about yourself and i highly encourage you to wait until you have really morphed into a stable wise adult to make decisions like that because i can guarantee you that your morals and values right now will be different 5 years down the line and i can also guarantee that those different beliefs down the line will probably make better decisions than the ones you currently hold and also, don't ever settle for less than you deserve. I'm sure you're a wonderful girl with so much to offer to the world whether you think it or not so don't ever think you need to settle, hold yourself on pedestal or else no one else will, i really hope you take my advice into serious consideration

Starfishlover · Answer

Until marriage

Diego9O · Answer

There is no age for that, you can loose it been a teen or been an elder. When it comes to loosing your virginity the best time is when you're 18+, age where you can assume much better all the risk sex brings.

Superfreakpr · Answer

Wait girl!!! Dont give it up so quick!! You can masturbate or have someone give u oral sex

WhaChaChaKing · Answer

I would say 20 is a good age for everyone.

weirdoldmann · Answer

there's no age, but 16 is probably a good one, some are ready at 14

Omar5881 · Answer

Wait till u marry to have sex

Nexxcha · Answer

Wait for sex until you are ready for it, maybe 18 or when you get married, the best...

xiaola · Answer

oh gosh that "I highly doubt anyone will want to marry someone like me" thing, I was just like you too, I started getting super horny when I was like 10 or something but trust me, you CAN wait because when I was 13 I thought to myself "jeez I can't handle this anymore" but really, you can. It's worth it to wait. Don't listen to the "it's just a virginity" comment because your virginity is something you can never get back.

Anonymous · Answer

If your ready let your neighbor have it

Anonymous · Answer

I waited until I was 19. I had a boyfriend of 2 years that I trusted with my life, my dad liked him and my mom approved. Even though we aren't together he is my best friend. I'm very happy that I waited for him. You have to know and trust your first. Just wait it out. You can always flick the bean.

Anonymous · Answer

Try to hold off a bit longer. No need to rush into losing it. If necessary, oral sex should keep you busy for a while. You certainly don't want to get pregnant at an early age, so wait it out.