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Should I let him touch me down there or should he respect my boundaries?

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years now. I'm 20 and he's 21. During the two years we've been kissing and making out. We touched each other down there a few times but only with clothes on. Last time he wanted to touch me under my clothes and I kept refusing, keeping in mind that it wasn't the first time he tries to do so and I refuse. However, this time he got mad and sad and I don't know what to do. I still don't feel ready for that step but he says he's waited a lot and respected my boundaries many times but that he can't wait anymore. He suggested that we never touch or kiss each other again so no one will get upset again but I really love the romance between and I can't do it this way. Should I let him do what he wants or should he respect my boundaries even after all this time?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Talk to him again about your boundaries and make sure you are not comfortable doing anything. If you're willing to take things slow and try new things tell him that but also establish a safe word under no circumstances is he allowed to continue.
    You will regret if you allow him to do things you're not comfortable with.
    If he's not okay with that then maybe you need to not be with him.
    When I first started dating my boyfriend I was not comfortable comfortable with anything but kissing and he understood that, he actually thought I was asexual and still wanted to be with me even if nothing ever happened. Your boyfriend should be Abel to offer the same

    • *able

  • Break it off with this one. He is not into you, doesn't care about you, he just wants the prize, and when he gets it, he will be done with you. When you find the right one, he won't have to ask or pressure you into anything, it will be natural, and perfect.

    • What if he Keeps saying that he feels that I don't trust him if I'm not letting him do that? (Although I really do otherwise I wouldn't have been with him on the first place) And he said he can't control it more and I need to respect his needs too?

    • He should respect your boundaries.

    • I don't think anyone would wait for two years to have sex, and then dump her after.

  • I honestly think that guy have been very patient. I mean, it's not like you guys are 14, and two years is a long time. Of course you shouldn't do anything you aren't ready for, but maybe a boyfriend is just one of those things.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Wow, I got together with my girlfriend around the same time and we ended up going all the way about a month into the relationship (we had been friends for about 4 months prior) but that relationship lasted for about 5 years and I couldn't have been happier. Point is sex can be important in keeping a relationship, and it's never too late to start :)

  • I have heard that couples start doing it a couple months after they get together or just save themselves for marriage. NOT 2 YEARS ! If u wanna save ur self till marriage , then just tell him. If u dont , then wtf r u doing?

    • Complete sex will be after marriage we both have agreed on that. The thing is touching my spot and feeling me; he wants that but I'm not comfortable with that at the moment.

    • I don't know why u r uncomfortable. Most couples do that without having any problem ,,,,,

    • Because if I let him do that now then he'll keep asking for more stuff, and at some point nothing but sex will be left for us to do together and we're too young to get married until maybe ~4 years.

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  • He should respect your boundaries.

  • Try getting comfortable with it first ease yourself into it very slowly not fast give him a little not a lot

  • If you don't feel ready, you aren't. Until you feel 100% ready I would not recommend it. Especially if you think he's trying to go farther than that.

  • hmm he should always respect your boundaries,, IS YOUR BODY FAM! you get me fam?

    • What does FAM mean?

    • fam= blad, burh, bruv, m8, buddy

  • 2 years!! My god this guy has the patience of a saint. I would've been out of there after a few months.

  • Depends on whether or not you're comfortable with it or not.

    2 years is a mighty long time to have only touched private parts with hands.

  • if that man has a being with you all this time it is obvious that he cares for you, if you want to hold back on sex because you're not ready daddy's fine and he needs to respect that, but you can incorporate for play action into your relationship, touching oral sex and masturbation between the two of you..

  • Hahaha... man... what a stupid question. .
    U hv ur boundaries to b respected. .. right? ... or u want him to touch u down ere... and do u need people to answer that for u?
    Oh ma fukin sheeet

  • If you don't feel comfortable he should respect that. If he can't deal with that then break up with him.

  • He waited too long. Sex is normal, why are you so afraid? If you were 17 or 18 I would understand, but you're both mature people already.

  • There your boundaries if you don't feel confertable don't do it that being said I would have dumped your aas after a year with progress

  • You should learn him how to respect you. To learn a guy to show some respect is the only way to successful relationship.

  • wtf i u just asked this question? i told you he must respect your BODY, ITS YOURS NOT HIS YOU GET ME FAM?

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