Did I just give him a sexual favor? he was uncomfortable about? lol

[Anonymous]

This might get graphic, so if you don't wanna read about naughty stuff, stop here! lol So, I was at my boyfriend's place last night. It was a big family party, but near the end of the night we snuck upstairs to kiss and fool around. He was definitely wanting it, because he usually never asks for anything, but he requested that I might slip my hand underneath his boxers... which I did. I basically had him squirming for a good 10 minutes. I should emphasize that I actually love being the giver when it comes to sexual acts. I find it difficult orgasming and I don't have strong ones, which makes me self conscious, and I really enjoy being the one to make my guy go crazy. I also feel bad about this, because I know it can make my boyfriends feel selfish. My current boyfriend, I know, feels especially embarrassed and selfish when I get him off, since I'm shy when it comes to helping him get me off. :/ Anyway... we took turns playing with one another and at one point he was sucking on my fingers, which really turned me on. I let him know that this was making me want to suck on him. He was all, "damn! you shouldn't have told me that!" (At this point, we were still doing things through clothes just in case anyone came upstairs.) He decided he didn't care enough about being caught, and stood up, and pulled down his pants a little. I've usually never been hugely into blow jobs... it's not the taste or the act, since I really enjoy both... but I realized in hindsight that I wasn't as attracted to my previous bfs as I should have been. But my current boyfriend is an absolute GOD when it comes to attractiveness. He makes me want to do anything and everything to him... so I'm sitting on the couch while he's standing up with his pants down, and it's pretty much like a gift from heaven... lol. So anyway, I get to sucking on him, which I couldn't enjoy more... but all that previous fooling around has gotten him close to orgasm, so not long afterwards he tells me he is about to come and that I should watch / stop. I'm thinking, "damnit!" because I was really enjoying getting my mouth on him, so I stop for a moment but... start up again. lol. So naturally, he's all panting and telling me I should let him go to the washroom to finish off... but that just didn't feel right to me. I don't want my boyfriend to finish off in the washroom -- I want him to finish off with me! He basically indicated, "I don't think you want to.. you know.. swallow. And that I should warn you. Seriously. You don't have to do that." I told him I didn't take issue with it, and put him in my mouth again. So -- I basically swallowed. He immediately felt guilty and was "ok, I HAVE to make this up to you." I think he secretly wanted me to swallow him, but for some reason it made him uncomfortable afterwards. He told me this was the first time he'd done that. I'm actually happy with that, though, and it's only the 2nd time I've done it. I feel like confronting him about it but... too late?

[Anonymous]

Well guys definitely loved being swallowed cuming on girls faces stuff like that. It seems a little dominant or porny though and that can make us self counsious. I am sure there are a lot of fantasies girls have that are really hot in their heads that they feel weird about trying in real life. In the context of a loving relationship I don't think that's porny at all, I mean there is something very intimate about her keeping it in her mouth and looking up at you while your lost in orgasm. Anyways yeah If you like doin something dirty he probably likes it too or should try it he's just polite which is good. He also probably wants to get you off, maybe you should let him try to eat you out. Give him some time to learn make some encouraging sounds when he hits the right spot lol. You deserved to be pleased and he deserves to please you. Guys who are worth going out with find pleasing a woman to be one of their most favorite things, hearing a woman give a real moan not a fake one that we caused is enough to make some of us cream ourselves anyway have fun

[Snorkledorf]

"Confronting" him? About what? (What is it with girls and confrontation?) It sounds to me like the two of you are at the beginning of exploring a new facet of your sexuality. Nothing wrong with that!

I know I've sometimes been halfway on edge that I'm going to hurt a girl when she's going down on me, that I'm making her uncomfortable or enjoying myself at her expense. "Making" her swallow might well fit into that category. If I thought she wasn't into it, it'd feel amazingly selfish on my part. It's definitely a huge turn-on for most guys (me included!), but there's also a little voice saying, "But isn't it gross? I don't want to hurt her."

You should just tell him that you enjoyed it if you did, because he's probably unsure about that. But if he learns that you were honestly getting off on it, and that you might even like to do it some more to get over the initial awkwardness, then chances are he should warm right up to it.

Lucky guy! :)

[KimmyB]

I'm not sure what you want to confront him about?! It sounds like since it was the first time he had a girl swallow he was nervous about it and was being polite.. Cute! It sounds like he cares enough to consider that you might not enjoy it. I mean, you already basically told him, but you can just tell him that you don't mind it and he shouldn't feel bad about anything. Then he'll be more comfortable and prob enjoy it more! :o)

[iformshadears]

what the hell are you talking about? You gave him head.. what's the big deal?

[Asker]

Giving head and swallowing, I put in different categories... and the reason I originally asked this question is because I spoke to a male friend about it and he said he finds oral disgusting... which I didn't think was possible amongst men. Suffice to say, I was worried that my boyfriend didn't actually want me to swallow him.

[iformshadears]

Your boyfriend loved it... and even if he didnt.. so what? there really isn't a big thing to be made about this. head is head

[Asker]

So I found out.

[Snorkledorf]

Note: do not take your other friend's advice in the future about sexual matters, as he is apparently mildly insane. :D

[ambermarie]

he liked it lolz most guys like it :D

[imin34]

yeah he wanted you to swallow but felt bad admitting that so played it to like he did to make it seems like he didn't want it and wanted to stop but put you in a situation where you wanted to finish the job. you did him a favor, any girl swallowing is doing a favor to her man.

[nice_guy7]

just tell him you like it and that you want him to come in your mouth.

[JBMAN04]

Just a word of advice for you and all girls. If you want something tell the guy. Tell him you want him to go in your mouth that is such a turn on. Saying you don't mind makes him or any guy feel insecure about it. When your feeling naughty or want something naughty just say it out loud so we know. by the way you sound like a great GF!

[Anonymous]

he could be like me, I'm sure he wanted you to swallow [it's one of the biggest turn ons for me] but after you did it he was pretty shocked that you were so willing because a lot of girls don't want to and now he's like "holy sh*t..this chick is amazing and I want her to feel good too"

[Asker]

I hope so... haha :)

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, and since you like giving more than receiving he probably felt some selfishness. I think I'd have the same reaction if I were him haha

[Dimonik]

Jup this is it!

[johnnychimpo]

Totally. this is the right answer. if your curious, just try it again, and see what he does!