Why doesn't my boyfriend look at me while having sex?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend took my virginity.. we haven't been together but 3 months but I've none him more than half of my life. He has my heart and I feel like I can't love no one else. Ive told him while having sex that I love when he kisses me and looks at me. But sometimes he doesn't do either and just turns his head, and when at his house he always has the lights out. I know for a fact he isn't cheating, and yes sometimes he does look at me but other times he doesn't... if he knows it makes me feel good then why doesn't he do it all the time? Sometimes I feel like I'm not good enough but that could also be insecurity, since he took my virginity. Help me please?

[hisangel]

I think your boyfriend is trying to give you what you want and doesn't seem to have a problem giving it which is good. He isn't asking you to get in positions where he doesn't have to see your face or trying to turn the lights out! He keeps the lights on so he can look at you, makes sure to look at you occasionally throughout, and he is doing all that while doing some pretty strenuous work. He is balancing a lot of plates there! When he looks away think of it more like him taking a breather from the action as opposed to him not want to look at you cause that doesn't seem to be the case at all. He just needs a few moments to break from the intimacy of kissing and looking at each other and focus on what he is doing. Sometimes if a guy is ready to orgasm and you aren't ready, he can look away or close his eyes for a second so he doesn't get overexcited and tries to last a little longer.

And about him doing it all the time cause you like it, well that's kind of hard for anyone to do! Imagine if he asked you to do something like pull on his ear during sex. He loved it and wanted you to do it nonstop. No matter how you were feeling. No matter if you were getting exhausted or about to orgasm, he wanted you tugging away on his ear. It's pretty hard to do. He is having a whole bunch of feelings rush through his body too. He is just taking a moment to acknowledge how he feels before going back to you.

It just sounds like you are learning the ends and outs of sex. Which is pretty much, even if we like something done a very specific way, it doesn't mean the person in the bed with us likes it too. But he is trying to make you happy, so don't worry too much.

As a young woman one of the best things to learn is that the best sex is giving and receiving from both partners. Men enjoy being giving to in sex also. Even if the thing you are giving is those moments where he can look away.

[HunniBunz94]

Its an insecurity, I don't think for him anyway, that he wants to look at you while he is doing his this. Talk to him about it but if he doesn't want to then I think that he feels weird looking a you while having sex. If its really bothering you definitely tell him.

[Jtmatt]

OMG...this is not hard to figure out... it is not "insecurity", he doesn't look at you because he is trying to FEEL how good you are inside and out! You know...every time he thrust inside you. He is doing all the work in bed and he is getting tired from the action he is giving you. He doesn't want you to look too often because he won't be able to concentrate and he for you to see his face all sweaty from sex! He is also trying to hear you moan and groan because that turns guys on! Every man has a way or style they have sex, that is his style and you gotta accept that. It may be easy for you to look at him because your not doing much work but he is doing a lot! Believe me I know! And besides, he looks at you everyday when you hang out with him, and that should be good enough.

[Camilus]

I don't know why he doesn't look at you because you look pretty hot to me

[l-hedoniste]

Some of us find looking at our partner during sex, distracting.

[bankai]

i think he just tired or maybe too relaxing !