Process in Getting a Blowjob/Etiquette

[Anonymous]

I was at a party the other night and got alone with the girl I was running game on. We were getting along and started making out, she was super hot, a tease, and I was pretty aroused. She wasn't down to fuc* I thought and the situation wasn't conducive to it; but I put her hand on my crotch; she resisted, sorta, but then I put it back and she went with it. She ended up sucking my d*** but is the way I went about it the right one? I usually don't have random hook ups but wanna know for the future. Is it expected for a guy to finger a girl if she is going to blow him? Or is that not always expected? I pulled down her shirt; she was like "i don't know about this, etc." but not in a very emphatic way, and then didn't say anything after I started sucking her t*ts. Why do girls "sorta" resist like this but end up enjoying whatever when a guy starts to do it? I pulled down my pants, put her hand on my crotch, she started to give a handjob, which I HATE. I would rather not get anything and do it myself. So I finally said "suck my d***" and she said "what" I said "i want you to suck my d***" in a confident way. And pushed her head down (not in a crazy way). It was a great BJ. Did I approach stuff the right way? what should I have done differently? I just feel girls want the guy to make the moves and its important to be aggressive/strict about what you want, because girls are always unsure it seems.

[Anonymous]

You raped this woman. You are a rapist. When a woman resists and says "I don't know about this," it does not matter whether or not you feel that it was emphatic enough. You stop, period. There is no such thing as a "no" that becomes a "yes". Do not delude yourself into thinking she enjoyed this. It is sad that she, for whatever reason, did not have the strength to get up and walk away, but she clearly communicated that she was uncomfortable. The "right way to approach stuff" is to ask a girl respectfully to go down on you, and if she says no or expresses discomfort, you take no for an answer and do not rape her.

[Enideqa]

I wouldn't respond very well, if a guy did this to me.

[majg9609]

Maybe you could of said it differently instead of suck my d***, I hate it when my boyfriend says it like that, it makes me feel worthless dirt. I like it better when he says go down on me.

[hollymarieexx]

Idk, I take it as an insult if a guy demands a blowjob. if I wanna give you one you'll get one. but plenty of guys put girls hands on their d***s. and if she didn't say stop or no then I don't think it bothered her

[sockshotholly]

You probably could have been more polite about it. Most girls I know hate guys who just demand blow jobs and push them around. Maybe you could have asked and when she says no - even a little one - she means no.

[Anonymous]

I actually think it was alright, I agree with you that guys should be more aggressive like that, but you still have to maintain a level of respect for her and really appreciate what she's doing for you. Also, I don't agree with the other comments that if girls "sorta" resist they don't want to do it, obviously she wanted to do something or else she would have been more persistent in saying no.

[Anonymous]

no.. I'm pretty sure that she didn't want to do the things that she did, but it was because you were persistant she did it anyways and probably woke up the next day regretting it. when girls "sorta" resist, it's because we don't want to do it. honestly, I don't know why females do things that they don't want to sexually for a man.. it's like programed in our heads and we have a hard time saying no.