Male ejaculation - area of female interest or just porn promotion ?

[Anonymous]

This is a question for women that have more than a limited amount of sexual experience. Most women I have known and almost EVERY porn film I have ever seen, focuses on the man's ejaculation, volume, force of it or lack of it, as the prime ingredient in sex. One girl friend said to me at one point, "I'm glad that I don't shoot anything when I cum" , but yet she was fascinated with watching when I did. Just on the face of it, it seems that it really is an interest in the "mechanical" (for lack of a better word) aspect of ejaculation. My wife was always checking after sex for the amount of my ejaculation, and I always thought that was a really strange thing to do. I read on this site, several women comment that when they masturbated while watching a video, they liked to, or most often, had their orgasm as close to the guy in the video 'shooting" as was possible to make happen. For the women that answer, do you think this is a kind of 'universal fascination' with the ejaculation, or is this just something that porn has made a 'thing to see" ?

[koala_bear]

I agree with audreymarie21. Just seeing him enjoy the sex and seeing his face and hearing him moan when he explodes is like dang! Like when I watch porn (don't judge me), I look for ones that have good cumshots. Not on the girls face because that's gross and disrespectful. But I just imagine what it feels like to feel it in me and that gets me off. God I feel so gross after typing this =(

[Asker]

I think that is great to another woman say basically the same thing. I just wondered if women really like to see the cumshot, and why. A lady friend told me about the same thing that you said. I don't understand why you would feel gross at all after typing this ? Here I am being the 'coward' and asking the question anomyously. FYI - the more cum, the better the orgasm is for the man. My Girlfriend and I wish we could trade sex organs for one session of sex to feel what the other one feels.

[Bvroon]

Please don't feel embarrassed by your honesty. I am always happy to hear about what women have to say on such issues and feel it's good to know such things. Thank you for your honesty Koala bear.

[bruce147]

Have your smaller loads ever felt good? I do think it has more to do with the level of stimulation than the load size. The added stimulation creates more tension, greater relief, a bigger load, and greater pleasure. I don't really know what is causing what, but I am thinking the greater tension results in more relief. Anyways, I am a little cummer and want to think it feels as good for me as it does for you average to big cummers.

[audreymarie21]

it's the ultimate turn on for me. I like seeing a guy enjoying sex and getting off. I search for porns that show the guys face while he's having sex or getting a bj, I also open my eyes during sex to look at my bfs face, it helps me to get off. and when I'm watching porn and touching myself, I put it on a bukkake porn right before I'm about to cum.

[Asker]

Is seeing the ejaculation what excites you, and if so why does it excite you that way ?

[audreymarie21]

Yes, because like I said, I get off knowing the guy is getting off. do you enjoy seeing a girl get off?

[Asker]

Yes, I do, but like my Girlfriend said, she doesn't 'shoot" anything, and her orgasm is more movement and contractions and not much 'fluid' to speak of

[audreymarie21]

What does it matter if one person 'shoots fluid' and the other doesn't? it's the getting off part that is a turn on, no matter how they do it, they're getting off, and that's hot.

[audreymarie21]

=) well thank you for having me in the running. I just read koala's answer, and she said she doesn't like seeing the girls face (which they basically focus on), and I completely agree with her, but not because I think it's gross or disrespectful, but because it's not real. the women fake it and act in porn, the men aren't acting (for the most part), you can't fake ejaculate.

[Asker]

Agreed. I see porn that makes me almost laugh out loud and then shut it off, because it is so far from reality, and then some of the men bay like a donkey when they are ejaculating.........I never have done that it just makes the scene look like a farce. I have watched some GOOD video that was made by amatures (spelling) and neither one of the partners do that kind of goofy stuff during sex. Amazingly I saw a man actually ejaculate in his partners vagina !!!!!!!

[yofuknutz]

^^^ that's the way you supposed to be

[ISendNuttVidz]

Do you like bukkake because it’s watching guy after guy cum?

[KimmyB]

Wow, that is a long question! Umm, yes I am fascinated by it :o)

[Tamera952]

It's the focus of porn because it's the most exciting and tangible aspect of sex. It is the end goal of everything penis, and It is verifiable proof of climax. That's why they call it the money shot. Otherwise, it would be a bunch of phony stupid bitches moaning and rolling around shrieking, and it would be 100% fake, because it currently is about 95% fake, as nobody "knows" what's going on in some bitch's poontang, as there is no ostensible sign of orgasm.

[bruce147]

So, are guys who are non-shooting little cummers boring or less exciting?

[Tamera952]

@bruce147 No, not at all -- but in terms of porn, & what sells in porn -- absolutely.

[bruce147]

Thank you, I do feel a little better. Guys make a huge deal out of it.

[RavVid]

Likewise I'd like to thank Koala and audreymarie for their candor and Stormmistress elsewhere. I have seen an academic paper which found that about a third of girls are more satisfied when subjectively they think their man has ejaculated a lot.

One girlfriend liked to occasionally check my condom but not all the time. Asker, great office event story by the way. A couple of girlfriends past liked to hold my penis whilst peeing too.

[Anonymous]

I hav not had a lot of experience but I have had some & I am a very sensual person.. I just saw your title & I wanted to respond. I think it always makes me feel sick whenever I see porn that is all about men pulling out there di88 & shove it I some womans face & the rest. All the really beautiful aspects of sex are just pushed aside.. I always wonder why they do not have porn for really intense sensual deep creative sex - not just sucking & squirting, makes me want to throw up!

[Anikaj]

They do have pron like that, its called softcore

[Asker]

I agree with you, and I think most women would agree with the way you feel. There are some women that direct porn films, and they seem to be the best at it, from the point of view that you expressed. The pulling out and shooting in the womans face or elsewhere is, for some reason a 'turn on' for some men. I never have done that to any woman, much less someone that I loved or cared for. That part of it is really trashy and why women don't want to watch porn Thank you very much. Bruce

[Asker]

The other responder commented that your answer is "soft porn" which is not porn at all in that there is no real penetration of the woman and is only 'simulated" sex. Porn like you ae talking about does exist, and you can bet that it is produced / directed by a woman. I have seen "port" where the man "actor" actually did ejaculate inside the woman, just like "regular" LOVERS.

[Kevin]

Dude, if a woman you loved and cared for wanted you do it, would you?

[kaybee]

I agree! That's why I watch girl-on-girl. It's not about men having power over women or cumming on their face etc.