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GUYS. If you put a girl's hand on your crotch while making out?

Do you EVER just expect her to stroke it? Would it be too frustrating , having her stroke it then moving away without you cumming or without it going towards sex... Would you ever JUST want her to TOUCH it- NO STRINGS ATTACHED? Inversely, if she seemed OK with YOU PUTTING IT THERE would you expect a hand job , blow job, or sex? Would you loose interest in MAKING OUT in general, after putting her hand there, if none of the aforementioned were provided? Would it be a deal breaker , if you did not know her very well yet? I.E it would seem like she had a hag up with sex , or sexual things etc. & sex , was something that you are very comfortable with, & would only want to date people who are comfortable too... ?
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WANACOT: "Pretty much any guy is gonna be disappointed if you just stroke it a bit then move away." What if you stroked it fora loooooooooong time? Do guys ever like there penis to be stroked Lightly, or just Hard? What about Slow Vs. Fast?
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  • um, if its outside the pants then screw that cause it doesn't do anything and might just be uncomfortable with the zipper and all, as for slow or fast it would depend on if I'm trying to come or not at that point cause if its really fast for a good amount of time I'm gonna come and as for hard or gentle...pretty much same concept as the first answer if they are respectively together, if its slow/hard or fast/gentle it probbaly won't do much exept for a good feeling for a while until it gets repetitive, I don't see why you don't just go for it because what's really the difference between just givin the guy the full hand job or teasing him forever other than he isn't going to cum?

    • Well, I guess because I've never been around someone who 'came'... I don't know what I'm supposed to do while he's like in 'abandon'.. Anyways, obviosy if I was 'planning' o playing with him I would be prepared to give him a total hand job , just in case.. The situation I was I was where he giude my hand there - it's fine I am not botherd I just really did not expect it & I wanted to know if he actually was skin me to give him a h/j, or just did it automatically & I couldhave juststroked it.

  • i would honestly love being stroked while making out but if you don't intend do get him off I would rub it through the pants or underwear.


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  • ok first off just because a girl strokes your penis doesn't mean she is going to give you some I left plenty of guys with blue balls especially the one's that was bold enough to just put my hand there in he doesn't even no me like that I show him by stroking it real good then leaving him there with a hard penis lol so good luck at that nasty boy.

    • Lol .....so you think I should have made him feel good, then left? >does that happen to you often- that a guy just puts it there? do you think in all cases it is rude?

    • Yes and no to being rude who should put it there if you touch it in he didn't ask you to and he said what are you doing then you would look dumb and fast. No this doesn't happen to me often when I was younger it happened more often but guys are just nasty

    • Yes and no to being rude who should put it there if you touch it in he didn't ask you to and he said what are you doing then you would look dumb and fast-- So are you saying it is equally rude for him to put it her hand there without asking, as it would be for a girl to to put it there without asking? What if he did it cause he trusts her, like if they had known each other a long time- years? & lol not ALL guys are nasty ha ha

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  • I think that is kind of four play there and depending on the guy they might think some form of sex. The update, Well depending on the relationship you don't wanna give the guy a full handjob so just go light and slow.

  • Typically if a guy is putting your hand there it's because he wants something. Whether that something is a handjob or sex entirely depends on the guy and the situation. Pretty much every guy is going to be disappointed if you stroke it a bit then move away. However, your limits are your own so do not do anything you're not comfortable with.

    • Thank You... Just curious. & Yah, of course I would not do some thing I was not comfortable with.. Somehow if I did, it seems disrespectful to him as well, I am not sure why .... I also wanted to know what a guy expects because , while I do not mind touching him there, I've never been around anyone having an orgasm, & I would worry about making him feel uncomfortable, cause I might get uncomfortable. So I l would not do it if he was expecting HAND JOB... - May have problem talking after.

    • Also, what if a girl just did not know what to do? Could you just go back to making out without that or would it kind of kill things?

    • Great answer, wanacot! To the questioner: I would assume a guy wants some action if he puts your hand on his crotch. And I hear you saying that you're not so comfortable with bringing him to orgasm through a handjob, and if so, I recommend you ask him if you can play with his d*ck a bit, but not necessarily to do any more than that. And ask what he's open to, but as wanacot says, only do what you enjoy! And learn from sites like Make Love, Not Porn. Let someone know if you're new at something.

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  • Well I don't tend to just put a girls hand there but if I did it would be obvious what I wanted. Well If a girl purposefully touches is only to tease that could be a little irritating. If she unzips his zipper and whips it out there's almost a humanitarian code of ethics that require she go through with at least a handjob, a perfectly asseptable and enjoyable thing. If a girl took mine out with no intention of sex or a blowjob or a handjob at all It would make me angry and frusturated. Blue balls may not be deadly like some teenage boys lie and it can't be triggered that bad by just kissing this could trigger some serious and irritating blue balls

    • Yes, I understand you do not put a hand there randomly. I mean if you guys were making out, & you instinctually guided her hand there} "It would be obvious what yo wanted" Did you mean sex, or just that at the time it would be obvious, whatever it happened to be? Umm, if YOU guide HER hand there, then would yo be irritated if she ddi not do anything with it. Cold you just continue making out without that? { What if she did not know what to DO with it? Ha, ha. But seriously ? }

    • Well if I put her hand there I cannot expect her to automatically have sex with me that would be like rape. If she intentionally puts her hand there I am expecting at least a handjob

    • Ha, ha. Ok well I guess you woud not put your hand there.. I want to know what someone would be EXPECTING if they did that - not the girl. I don't mean like forced or anything like that. Just sort of subtle. Put it this way, what would provoke a guy to do that - I don't mean that he was necessarily enticed, just what sort of want would elicit that response.... I know not everyone is the same that I why I am asking different people? It just may not be something you do.

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  • he put your hand there so he's clearly asking, so you should either do somthing or do nothing. being blueballed is horrible .i do like a bit of a tease tho so personalay I wouldn't mind if you just did a liitle so long as it actually was a 'we will continue this later' kind of thing, but if you do that be clear that you will help the poor fellow vent some steam later on

    • Hahaha, how much later on, I mean does that make me like 'committed' lol Seriously you mean like within the hour or like that day... HOw come some say blue ball is myth, & others are like it is real & it is about the worst thing that could happen to a guy....Now being a guy, & not a stupid one, I would assume that he would figure his chances are better if he DOES NOTHING. I mean, I am not exactly - well I do not know what the word is, but we have never gone there before, & don't guys have-

    • This idea that being that direct might be seen as um, too aggressive? honestly I really have no problem with except the obvious one that I don't know what to do with it lol, but lots of people including guys seem to thin it is HORRIBLE^ Now I guess I should have said ' what does it mean to the GUY' not to your moral code cause I really can't get an answer without someone saying ' it;'s wrong he is a pig etc' & I do not think that at all - well maybe two % but just cause I have NO experience^

    • Welll the time frame is up to you haha, how much do you want to sweat him out? blueballs can be physical for some boys, but for me its mostly a mental thing, its very frustrating and can make me very unreasonable and angry. being teased is one thing, but being messed around with is another. I don't think the girl making the first move is bad, I mean if the boy can do it why can't the girl? you can only get experience from practice, if you want to do it, ask him to show you how its not very

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  • Nope, if you are going to go there then you need to finish what you started, teasing is not going to help a situation. If you want to know what a guy wants the best way to find out is to ask him

    • It's not teasing if you did not pt your hand there.. It's not so comfortable asking what he wants, I guess that is why he may not TELL you. 'If YOU put a girls hand on your crotch' I agree things should be clear, but if she should ask, then why can;t he just tell her. Is it s obvious, I mean it's NEVER just ambiguous? People never just have there penis stroked?

    • Well I've never put a girls hand on my crotch unless we had been involved and were in an already sexual relationship. If a guy is putting your hand on his crotch he is looking for something more than just touching. A nice guy isn't going to say that he feels teased if you touch and stroke and nothing goes further then that, just because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings.

    • But you sound like nice guy & above you said you would feel teased - but you mean if she put her hand there, not in reverse? So yo are saying if a guy does that he can't be nice? & Or, he is looking for a 'job' of sorts? Guys can not just be stroked? Why? It happens with woman all the time. A guy could touch you , & it does not mean he is going to 'finish' anything... ?

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  • NO to it all. It's just stupid.

    • Sorry you are so uncomfortable with yourself^

  • just stroke him while your kissing him and stop when he isn't kissing you then if he wants you to keep stroking it he willl kiss you more so then you both get what you wants if he wants to come he will kiss you till you make him

    • Omg Someone ACTUALLY answered my question. Wow.. hahaha Sooo did you just come up with that- case it is clever, or is that a common thing.. It makes a lot of sense... Great idea, sto[ when he stops so he gets the idea.. I was worried he would think it would mean sex tho - & I am a virgin & I amount ready to have sex, but I thought he knew& he doesn't s e may have expected it... I wish there was a particuar way you could stroke or something that would let him know I was not having sex lol

    • Well maybe you too need to discuss your boundires pertaining to sex and yea I did come up with that lol

  • If you start stroking it, it had better lead to going all the way. Otherwise that's just mean, lol

    • Does any one actually read the post.. I did not put my hand on anything lol. :) He sort of guided it there while we were kissing.. He did it so gently, I did not realize it till it was there. I stopped stuff right away, cause in case he would get really aroused{ he already had a very erection ^^} since I knew that I would not be comfortable with ANY KIND OF SEX.. But I was wondering what wouldhave been ok.. I mean if I was expecting that, I'd be fine playing with it, but I have never been

    • Around anyone when they 'came'.. I would not know what I should do, I mean how could I just stand there, & I don't know how intense he reacts to things.. So I was wondering if a guy could just want it stroked, or maybe he just wanted to share with me, how turned on he was? Sometimes guys just want yo to know how you make them feel right? I'm asking, BECAUSE he just finished saying he did not thik we should have sex . He covered that base, & he seemed genuinely concerned, if not convinced.

    • I was just answering the question. You were really interested on how a girl should react to this, and that's what I answered. I was not referring to you, personally. Anywho, if a guy tries putting a girls hand on his crotch.... that's a little weird.

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  • No I wouldn't =p

    But I sure should if she only would standing like frozen too the ground, not even touching me when I'm touching her (that would be frustrating AND a turn-off).

    • I m sorry what did you mean? You would not expect her to do anything, but you would LIKE her to if you are touching her? You do not want her to do noting, but you would not expect her to touch your penis?

    • No I'm sorry.. ;) What I mean is that there would be a really frustrating if I would be the only one taking initiative and touching her, while she is not, I want respons of things. I wouldn't really expect anything, if I put my hands on her stomach and stroking, its mainly because I want to feel her and hold onto something when kissing =p I don't think that much, it would just come spontaneously.

    • That sounds totally reasonable... & I agree, it really takes away al the appeal, if only one person is doing anything... :-) The question I a asking is a bit weird in that I was just wondering what a guy would expect, if HE putHER hand on HIS crotch... ( you know since he DOES that, she should probably not be EXPECTED to do anything in particular.) Tho maybe YOU would not put a girls hand on your crotch lol

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  • f***, so bored!

    • :) Commenting on the length of the post, or is it more of a personal existential thing?

  • Well if I was with a girl for 1 night stand and I put Her hand on my d*** I would want Her to start jaking me off a bit then after that expect to get some HEAD from Her. But if I put Her hand on my d*** and she just moved away I would think strait away that she wasn't going to have sex or give me HEAD .

    • @stevenmakaveli, I hear those are your expectations, and I get why you have them. I think what you express is very normal and typical. And I'd just like you to keep in mind that you ought to be willing to do the same. So if you put your hand on her crotch, please be prepared to also go down on her, if she welcomes you too, and please don't expect her to give you head. She's not obligated to, and that expectation can lead to coercion and oral rape. I've heard about it happening too many times.

    • YEA ok

    • Wow Julien, I neve heard of that? How can someone force them to give them head, I mean doesn't the guy sort of have a compromised position? Is it like shoving her head so hard that she almost chokes kind of thing?

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  • i hate when girls do that, but ima nice guy so I let them know that its ok. usualy when you put sum1s hand on your penis you want a handjob tho

    • - You mean when they just stroke it but don't give an actual hand job? ..If you put their hand there, then maybe you should wait for them to do it themselves. Maybe it's not 'a NICE guy' if you put it there.. I'm not judging I am just trying to figure out both sides. Do you think you could have respect for a girl, if you put her hand there, & she gave you a hand job.. Would you do that in the beginning of a relationship, or when you know them well? {How do you let them 'know' it's ok?) Thanks

    • I think what ur trying to ask me can only be known by you...i don't know how close you and him are. go with your instincs

    • Nope. I am curious about this. My personal situation may have sparked it, but I would like to know how guys feel about this. If it was just my situation would ask about a particular guy & me. I want to know about the contrast of how different people see it. I undesatnd if you don't feel comfortable talking about it. But I do ot wnat info for myself. Sex is so diff. from reg life that you can't necessarily read people the same... I have discovered lots things I took for granted are not the case.

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  • Not this guy.I personally love when am making out and a girl touches me the and strokes it.i have had times where am making out and the girl would unbutton my shirt ad kiss down my abs slowly, which is my A+ spot,I mean if a girl does that to me that's is way in.I have make out for half and hour plus non stop and being stroked and touched and it never went to the bed,after this the girl and I either dated or remained very close friends.

    • Thanks a lot that was really* helpful :)

  • I LOVE SLOW BLOW JOB A GIRL GIVES ME.

    I EXPLODE.

  • First thing is if the guy loses interest in making out then he was never for you ; AS, SEX IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT, TAKE CONTROL. The touching his crotch is pretty much where the control begins, and a Nuva-ring may be for you. Or, if you have given your first blow job you might want to expand your horizons and keep your love making in a room not the back seat of a VW.

    • First thing is if guy loses interest making out ..never 4 you" - yeah I agree :) umm lol we were standing up & we were only kissing (hence my surprise)& if I was in a relAtionship & liked someone a car might be a fun place to make out I would not leave that out. I am not currently sexually active so I'm not worried or interested in a ring lol but thanks. What did you mean by : "The touching his crotch is pretty much where the control begins" What do you mean by that exactly? Thanks.

    • I was at the pub by my house and I saw this gal rubbing on this gentleman and my take on that was she had to get an idea in her mind what she was in for. ;)

    • You mean she was being stupid or that she INTENDED to get into something - sorry, still not sure what you are saying lol

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  • alll of the above BUT for me I'm ok if it was just a touch or lingering touch because I know at some point it won't be once she see what's in store for her

  • hand job blow job and sex but if not its fine

    • You mean it is reasonable to expect all, but one would be ok?

    • Yeah and if you don't want to do it at all that would be ok he would have to get over it

    • Of course, I would not do it if I did not want to, I was just wondering how guy would FEEL about it.. not even how the would respond.. But what they think & feel about situations like tat . Yah, I know MAJOR generalization but well even within that different views still help.

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  • if you stroke his **** a little there's nothing worse than not being jerked off to completion, if he puts your hand on his crotch and you move away straight away that's fine, but if you start you have to finish, hope that helps a bit ! x

    • Yes. That s what I have been asking F. O. R. E. V. E. R. Not, is it ok? "Will he still like me?" "Is it too soon?" " Does he REALLY like me?" Or, " How do I give a blow job" Or " Is it ok if I put my hand there? " Will he like it if I pt my hand there? " " Does he expect sex if I put my hand there?". ETC. I want to know if a GUY puts a girls hand his crotch, what is he most likely expecting & is he ok if she JUST strokes it without having an orgasm,& if NOT what should she do?

    • #bigdanny, "if you start you have to finish"?? I don't think so. No girl or woman HAS to do anything, and is free to change her mind about doing something once it has started. Do GUY'S finish what they start when touching girls and women's genitals? Not from what girls and women tell me! So why the double standard? It's not cool to imply any female "HAS" to do something. Please check your words and advice. If she stops, you can finish the job yourself, right?

    • I did not mean to say she HAS - or I HAVE to , I am really just trying to get a sense of what guys normally expect, or what usually happens, when you did not have an elaborate discussion prior.. Honestly, I did not want to talk about anythig. My choice was eother just stay & continue with stuff I was more comfortable with - which might have made him feel weird, or just explain 'I HAD TO GO ' - which would make us both feel a little dissapointed, but at least it would be for the SAME reason.

  • If he put your hand on his crotch sue him for sexual harassment... JK

    No he wants something sexual perferable something that starts with you using your hand but it esculating to either a bj or full on sex.

    • Haha, I was about to start explaining how I disagreed* .. Do you think that a guy wold EXPECT someone to be on board, or just hope that they would - well, you can't speak for everyone, but you could speculate* Also, do you think guys think of it as something EVERYONE likes ^^.... .....Or do they look at it as someone doing them a favor*, or something they deserve* -depending on what happened* before that particular move? I am just curious, what kind of thought goes into it - if any. haha

  • I put a girl's hand on my crotch while we made out she stroked harder and harder until man juice came out.

    • What'd yah do after -- Tissues? :-)

    • How log did you know her for before that, are you friends, & how long were you making out before you did that?

    • I knew her for two week before this

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