Sexual attention vs. romantic attention from men?

[pineappleshortcare]

How do guys decide who to give romantic attention to vs. just sexual attention? Is it mostly looks? A guy friend of mine insinuated that guy's will often try to sleep with girls they consider 4-6's, but only date what they consider 7-9's. Is this true? He felt kind of awkward in the conversation, so I don't know if I misunderstood or what. I've had several of guy friends tell me they like sleeping with girls they don't really find attractive ... so is a guy hitting on you an insult?

[Dylan1989]

Well me personally, I have never had to make a decision about which girls to give romantic or sexual attention to. I only give ROMANTIC attention, but only to girls that are genuinely interested in me and who I have a genuine interest in. Back in high school there were many girls that were after me but it turned out they all were all just giving me sexual attention and had no intention of having a loving, passionate relationship with me which was a shame because most of them were gorgeous (sorry if that sounds shallow because I know it's not all about looks but I'm pretty sure there are many guys out there would love the chance to make any of the girls feel like a princess). Me being the guy I am I didn't bother to pursue them knowing we wanted different things. I wanted to be the guy who takes a girl out for a romantic dinner, takes a walk on the beach with her and watches the sunset with her, picks out flowers for her for no reason at all and even just sits down with her and share things with her and tell her she is gorgeous just randomly. Obviously I wouldn't do this all the time because then it would all get a bit too much. I know how to keep a perfect balance.

Anyway, when I got to university I stupidly thought girls would have grown up and they would be looking for real relationships but I also forgot that uni is full of horny guys who just wanna get inside any girl they can get their hands on. I ended up in the same scenario. Girls only giving me sexual attention. I guess you could say my upbringing and my background has taught me to either give girls the real deal or just leave them alone.

Well, now I am 21 and still in uni for another 2 years and still have not had my first girlfriend (sigh), wondering if it will ever happen for me. Such a shame that my personality is going to waste (sorry if I sounded conceited).

Guys and girls, feel free to laugh at me if you want.

[Anonymous]

its by how you carry yourself. if you respect yourself and have more going on than just being a sex object you can get romantic attention from guys. your guy friends sound like douchebags. there are girls who feel unattractive because they aren't hot so they will allow themselves to be used by guys for attention. also they try harder because they really want to impress him. guys hit on any girls they want to have sex with. its not necessarily an insult because even the 7-9 girls that ur guy friends want to date have to get hit on to even make it to relationship status

[Anonymous]

It has nothing to do with looks. When cupid's arrow hits you in the butt, she could be homely as a mouse. It doesn't matter. You're in love, and a seven nation army can't help you.

[ArtistBboy]

Amazinggggggggggggggg Omg dude- I love you, no homo.

[Standingpretty]

Wow, that's beautiful.