Guys, would you let just anyone give you a hand job? Do you have to 'like' them?

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a hand job { Provided they were clean & your age} How intimate a thing is a hand Job for you? Is it different then a sex- as far as feeling intimate & or vulnerable?... Or not , if you don't feel intimate & or vulnerable of course. :-)

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Trying to look at it, from a guys perspective. How it feels {Emotional to be touched in an intimate place..It is hard enough for me to imagine GIVING one to a guy I LIKE .. It is very hard for me to believe,guys just don't care WHO comes up & touches them.

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33tango Xper 6
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Q1. Guys , would you let just anyone give you a Hand Job?

Um no. But not every guy cares about what the hand is attached to.

Q2. Do you have to 'like' them?

I dunno. I could try enjoying a handjob from a girl that I don't like, but it's never come up. I imagine the whole handjob thing would help me like them more at that moment.

Q3. How intimate a thing is a hand Job for you?

Just shy of a blowjob but more than a warm hug. I'm having a hard time with this question, sorry.

2 : marked by very close association, contact, or familiarity

3 a : marked by a warm friendship developing through long association b : suggesting informal warmth or privacy

4 : of a very personal or private nature

I'd say it's private but not so personal. Sorry I couldn't answer this better.

Q4 Is it different then a sex- as far as feeling intimate & or vulnerable?

Yeah I'd say it's different.

I get the feeling there's a question or situation here that you're not quite getting to. Is there another or more direct question you have to ask?

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- Asker
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  I am just trying to understand how intimate guys feel about there penis' it is amazing t me that guys are saying they would have no problem with anyone giving them a and job.. I do not mean as a fantasy.. I mean some random woman just walking up& saying can I give you a hand job. It's hard enough to imagine giving a guy I LIKE one.. So it is hard for me to believe that guys just do not care. Thanks.
- 33tango
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  Guys are like dogs, they'll take sex at any opportunity if there's no consequences.
- Asker
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  Why?
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- 33tango
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  I blame evolution. Men aren't wired to put as much emotion into sex because the purpose of it is to propegate the species. Women are wired to look at partners as potential providers or protectors, so they need to be pickier. Men are wired to spread their seed wide and far, and secondary sexual characteristics of women are important for fertility (red lips=better circulation system, wide hips better chance of giving birth, widens the pelvis and increases the amount of body fat in hips, thighs
Bruce Xper 7
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"Clean and my age" ? I don't know what "my age" would have to do with it, Clean ? Yes

Your question is not very well asked, I am afraid. There would have to be some intimacy before hand...you see.

I was standing in the parking lot after happy hour, with a group of girls who had called me at home and asked me to join them in Newport Beach. As I stood talking to one girl, she mo ved very close to me and quickly put her hand down the front of my suit trousers, in what obviously was an attempt to grab my penis.

I was really startled, and stepped back quickly because I was so taken aback.

In other circumstances, if we had been in my car and had been kissing and holding and she had done that, ...certainly I would have let her fondle my penis, and if she wanted to, would have let her masturbate me or anything she wanted to do.

We weren't' in love, she was pretty and we worked together.

Does that answer your question ?

Bruce Alan
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- Asker
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  I agree my question is not very well asked at all.. I did not realize how jumbled up it was.. I am not sure exactly what I am asking so thanks for wading thru it anyways..
- Asker
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  So, you would be ok with her just fondling your penis, it would not frustrate you insanely to have her fondle it & not 'finish' ? A lot of guys say they would rather nothing then a half way done job, but I guess everyone is different.. Also I Don't know why, but I am glad you require some intimacy before hand... oh, & yes your question - Answer was helpful. Thanks.
- Bruce
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  Well, usually when women put their hands on my penis, they intend to masturbate me to an orgasm. If they don't it is not a big problem. Men do that to men by rubbing their clitoris and finger them and then even F*** them and don't really care if the woman has a climax or not. I am glad that she was curious enough to want to feel my penis..........good feeling none the less A guy has to has some brains and judgement.........you should be discreet about doing that. for that reason.
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- Asker
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  Sorry, for 'what' reason? A guy having brains about what exactly? YOu mean that it was out in public... I would never do that fir sure.. I am just trying to get used to the idea of doing anything at all, & I am trying to understand how important this kind of touch is for guys.. I hate that I can never tell when my boyfriend is really passionate - caring -sex. OR just lust -sex... Also, I can'y help but see hand / blow job as degrading, Is it hard to respect a woman while she does this ?
- Bruce
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  The question you are asking has to do with the diffeence between 'being intimate" and true intimacy. Big difference. All of those things you mention "Also, I can'y help but see hand / blow job as degrading, Is it hard to respect a woman while she does this ?" are things usually done within the context of some kind of caring, liking, loving, the other person. I have had oral sex with many persons but not with a "stranger" per se. Degrading, perhaps with the wrong person.
- Asker
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  So, if you are with someone you do not care about, you see it as them being degraded or the whole thing feels that way, & then why would you want to enter into anything like tat. {Just in case o were thinking o would go up to some random guy, would not.. As I said I am just trying to wrap my mind around the thing in general... I can't imagine doing that cause I keep thinking he will loose respect - even if he likes the HJ & I don't want my Boyfriend {New} to have deragitory thoughts about me.

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l-hedoniste Master
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Handjobs are sex; they're just not intercourse.

How I felt would depend on the relationship. If she were just a cheerful stranger, I'd be more grateful than vulnerable.
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- Asker
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  Really - hand jobs are sex.. So, if you gave someone a hand job- not you , 'one' :-) then the would no longer be a virgin? does that include fingering & blow jobs I guess so right? How did you come to tat conclusion, I have never heard of that before. Tho I guess ,what else does it men when people say 'sexual acts'.... Can you commit a sexual 'act' without having sex? Logically I say no, but are sexual acts considered sex, I common thought? I guess physical intimacy can cover no genital act
- l-hedoniste
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  In your language, I use "sex" to mean "physical intimacy"; when you treat all physical intimacy similarly, the virginity discussion makes much less sense. I don't bother anymore.
- Asker
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  So, that's a good thing? I mean to just conglomerate everything together so that any type of physical intimacy I sex, wether it is above or below contact.. you personally do not care either way.. I mean there are physical differences to not having ha intercourse , but otherwise everything else changes wether you do that are not.. Or t does not change but not cause of penetration- I think.
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- l-hedoniste
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  1. For many women, ALL physical intimacy is emotional, and must be handled carefully. 2. A good lover and a good f*ck are two very different things. 3. An obsession with virginity is a (deliberate?) distraction from being or seeking a good lover. I conglomerate not because I don't care, but because I do. Just because I'm not penetrating her, that's no excuse for me to be insensitive, selfish, or sloppy. I still have to respect the intimacy of the moment, and the intensity of her emotions.
- Asker
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  Ha, ha. I meant to say "I don't care either way" Meaning that wether it's considered sex or not does not change the fact of wether or not emotions , or the human part o it exists... That for me, anything that was important would exist before the 'technical' issue of virgin or not came up.. I was trying to clarify your meaning of sex, which I found interesting, that's all. I think what you are saying makes sense. Offcially, sex is intercourse right?
- l-hedoniste
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  Officially, sex is physical intimacy. Period. Questions?
Porter21 Xper 6
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Any one who wants to give me a hand job I will let them! I love it when someone else makes me cum!
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Anonymous
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if she's attractive and wanted to do it I surely wouldn't stop her. it's not as intimate as sex or a blowjob even for me
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- Asker
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  You would actually not mind if some random woman walked up to you & said ca I give you a hand job? You would jut say ok.. Not a fantasy- in real life.. that would not make you feel strange? Pretty impressive detachment.. :-)
- Opinion Owner
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  Oh it would be quite strange because stuff like that doesn't happen in real life but yeah, if I knew she was clean and she was pretty cute I'd definitely like her go for it
- Asker
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  That is amazing to me.. IDK. I mean you really don't feel self conscious at all.?... I can't tell if I am envious of that or not. Ha, ha.
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- Opinion Owner
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  About my penis? not really..i wish it were a bit bigger but I know there's nothing I can do to change it so I don't really care when it comes down to it
- Asker
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  Lol... I must be the only person on this site, who thinks standing in front of someone you know, after having an orgasm, would be mildly embarrassing... I was not talking about your little friend :-) I was referring to just the fact of the situation... Standing there, have naked in front of someone who has not the selves just kind of lost it for a couple minutes.... Don't you feel at all exposed - emotionally, or control wise? IDK, just seems like it would be a big deal to be like that .
- Opinion Owner
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  Well I can't speak for every guy... I think I might be a little nervous but that's probably the extent of it...i wouldn't really feel exposed but rather I'd be pretty ecstatic that I got a free handjob from a random, cute girl! :P
- Asker
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  If find that fascinating.... I have no idea why... I mean if I could actually just be happy about getting an experience, rather then worrying about it, be great probably . :-)
Anonymous
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umm I don't know id have to know them and it depends how hot they were, like if it was megan foxx then yes I wouldn't have to know them just un-zip and let her do her thing
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- Asker
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  So you would have to know them ? Ok, good, that sounds more realistic. I think that maybe guys are thinking of this as a fantasy, not like a real situation.. I mean how would it be to come I front of some one you did not really know & or trust ?