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My boyfriend told me that he physically prefers oral than sex. Don't men feel pleasure during intercourse?

My boyfriend told me that he physically prefers oral but we have sex most of the times cause he wants to please me as well. He told me that during oral he it feels better and he feels more than during intercourse. He explained that sex it's pleasurable for men only at the end when they cum. Is it true? I thought you felt pleasure the entire time, what's the point then? I mean, if you all prefer oral then why do you keep asking girls for sex?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Yes, we only feel pleasure at the end from ejaculating. We don't feel anything but blood throbbing in our cocks up until that point. That's why we're in such a rush to get to the climax– all the other stuff is just the race we have to run to reach the finish line. We do not feel pleasure the entire time. Like I said, just a throbbing dick-ache.
    I'm rare I know, but I can't get off from oral sex. I have to fuck. I derive nearly all of my pleasure from satisfying her foremost. I had a girl who loved going down on me a lot and it would drive me crazy (not in the good way) because it was almost like a tease-torture. Here I am ready to go and instead I'm being hindered from jumping in there with a damn blowjob! I must bang, and I get off most from anal. Oh, I love anal! That. Is. My. Oasis. And I'm good enough to make it feel great for her too! No, really. I can.

  • For me it's the same as your boyfriend. Oral stimulates for a greater length of time. But sex is more intimate and is more fulfilling.

Most Helpful Girls

  • The thing is that every man and woman is different. There's a whole spectrum of wants and needs out there among men and women. There is or can be way more to sex than just intercourse. Some men and women can't cum or orgasm from intercourse at all or intercourse does nothing for them, etc. Perhaps oral sex does it instead. That's not usually a problem unless your needs are very incompatible such as if one of you refuses to provide what the other needs in the manner and frequency needed. So if you need intercourse and he's willing to give you intercourse and he needs oral and you're willing to give him oral, then no problem. Enjoy oral, it's great!

  • Different people are into different things.

    My guy prefers oral too that's because I can do things with my tongue that I can't do with my pussy.

    Some other guys on the other hand, prefer sex more.
    Every guy is different.
    It doesn't mean he doesn't like how you feel.
    It just means that oral intensifies the experience more.

    Lets change things around a little bit.
    Have you ever heard a woman saying she orgasms during oral but not penetration?
    Its for the same reason.
    Although sex is fantastic (with the right person), the great pleasurable feeling is heightened during oral.

    • I've had other guys that are crazy about my head game but love the pussy in addition. It really comes down to an individual. Don't take this as an insult he's not saying he doesn't enjoy you

  • Every guy is different, depending on their own personal level's of sensitivity down under, how their member fits according to their girlfriend's parts, etc..

    My boyfriend loves getting head from me, but prefers to finish after sex, even if I sometimes ask if I could just finish him off orally. When giving him head, he'll turn it into 69, even if I occasionally prefer to just focus on him.

    Different strokes for different folks, essentially. I'm sure he still loves sex with you, but it may just be easier for him to cum via oral, hence a bit of a preference for the latter.

  • Oral changes it up. Your tongue can do more than your vagina, hands down.
    So of course they like sex. But, the whole oral experience is less predictable and keeps them in their toes more.
    Plus, its you in total control.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • I'm sure he feels pleasure from intercourse he just prefers oral sex. it's just a preference thing. doesn't mean he doesn't like intercourse and doesn't want to have it

  • That's correct. Males feel no direct pleasure until the orgasm gets close. The act alone of having sex and pleasing the other causes mental pleasure.

  • I think that shows how selfish a guy is. I've actually offered my boyfriend a bj while watching tv and he suggests we go to the bedroom for full sex.

  • Oral, masturbation and vaginal sex all feel good for me. Unless I've brought my girl to climax first I can sometimes feel unsatisfied at climax if being wanked or given oral. Vaginal sex is great and the feeling of both being as one in a clinch is totally satisfying when you both climax together.

  • I find all of it pleasurable. If a woman has a nice body, I like touching her a lot, rubbing my hands all over. Between oral and intercourse, I prefer oral, but only if a woman knows what she is doing and is totally selfish about it. I have been with women who look at my face while pumping at 500mph, and that's a turn-off, because it looks like she's just trying to get a physical response out of me and is not really into it herself.

  • I prefer sex over a BJ.

  • You do feel it the whole time, but for your boyfriend it may just be more intense with oral

  • I prefer a blow job over sex.

  • It's possible that he just doesn't enjoy sex with you for some reason.

  • it does feel good but nothing special until your close to cumming

  • Eh it feels a little more like torture until the end. When I have sex if I just let go and enjoy it all like I do with oral it would all be over in a minute or two. So while actually having sex I'm not actually getting to enjoy it I'm just in a constant battle with myself to keep going for her sake. It's like starving a child, putting a plate of his favorite food in front of him, putting a gun to his head, and demanding that he solve this rubix cube before he can eat. Bonus points for making it sexy. Oral sex on the other hand is like a massage. The actual feeling of a vagina to me is better but the total lack of pressure makes oral sex 100x more pleasurable. But not all guys are like me.

  • We are all different, do not extrapolate major trends over just your boyfriend's tastes.

  • It's all pleasurable in different ways to me. I enjoy sex the whole way through though... I will also say oral feels better in certain way though, but of course you can do way more with your mouth than your vagina haha plus, no effort on my part.

  • Ejaculating can be hardwork and tiring.

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