My boyfriend calls me a good girl when I do sexual things?

[Anonymous]

When we're fooling around and I do something that's just a little beyond what I think he expects, he'll say "good girl" and encourage me to keep doing whatever I'm doing. It makes me feel weird, like I'm a little kid and he's just tricked me into doing something naughty. I've told him that I don't like this, but he keeps doing it. He's usually pretty considerate, so I think this is just what's in his head, but it really makes me feel weird. Guys, do you say or think that if a girl does something like go a bit further down on you than you thought she could? And girls, have you ever heard that one? If so, how did it make you feel?

[s0ciopxth__]

I think it's pretty normal, I'm 18 and my boyfriend says that to me a lot, sometimes when he comes to see me and I make dinner for him he'll give me a kiss and tell me I'm a good girl. He says it in bed too, at first I thought it was a little odd but I didn't say anything because it seemed like it made him happy and that was fine with me but now I Love it, it lets me know that I'm doing what he likes. I think it probably just gives your boyfriend a sense of control or encouraging you, I think he means to be comforting

[Levin]

This is it. It's about subtle, playful, domination.

[vipinhinger]

hi,

as per my xpernce wit gals I wll say, he want 2 make you undstand he like sexual things you do, indirectly he want to make ur mind set that wen you do sexual things for him he feels good, and you are a good gal ( hope you undstand) he wants you to start everything he wants by yourself, did you got it.?

[Asker]

Are you typing this from a blackberry while wearing a cast or two?

[mia92]

hahahahaaha that cracked me up :p

[l-hedoniste]

I exude encouragement, like a fog. It provides excellent results.

As for you, try this: "I appreciate the encouragement, but I would prefer you said something like..."

[Asker]

I've said that or something really close. I've said to knock it off. I've even told him that it cools me off sexually. It doesn't matter. Clearly this notion is so ingrained in his head that it's really hard for him not to say it.

[l-hedoniste]

A puppy needs to hear a command 500 times, on average, before it can obey it consistently. This means you have a 50-50 chance of puppy obeying the command the 250th it hears it. Training is a long-term prospect.

[Asker]

You're slow.

[Ambivalentbuttercup]

Agreed

[stevenmakaveli]

Yea I always said that to my ex It turned here on to Its like the guys just playing a dominant role saying good girl feels kind of notty saying it so it turns you on that little bit more to .

[Happysunshine]

My guy calls me good girl when I do something sexual he likes or when I "obey" him. It totally turns me on.

[rustydog]

Never called her a good girl. But I would let her know I liked or was enjoying what she was doing.

[Asker]

Yeah, that's more like what I'm comfortable with.

[DemsBones]

if you called him good boy would it seem less dirty? either way, just tell him to stop because you find it weird. he probably won't care as long as you don't stop fooling around with him

[Asker]

"Good boy" would sound silly most of the time. I think it would work when I was taking charge a bit. It doesn't matter though, because I'm not interested in calling him that.

[Greyestofgreys]

Probably a weird take, but I love getting called good girl by my girlfriend. I know its probably weird for me, a guy, to enjoy that, but I don't care. I like being feminine and submissive in the bedroom, its just my thing. So when I get called a good girl, it makes me feel cute, feminine, and submissive. Its part of a power dynamic for us, I love to submit willingly, and being praised by her makes me tingle. I wouldn't appreciate her using it outside the bedroom though, except for teasing me ;). I think that if you don't like it, tell him, and if he truly likes and respects you, he'll understand.