Women ask the most interesting questions - Cunnalingus, Fellatio, Masturbations, Techniques etc.?

[Bruce]

Now it is my turn. I try to give graphic, detailed, answers to anyone, if they are an adult, 18 years or older, about just about anything. I have answered graphically, a question about Double Penetration, and a woman's question about "grinding" or Dry Sex" and how I felt about it. I have found that many women will ask for a detailed, graphic, answer to questions about sex, (masturbation, how to perform fellatio, and how to masturbate a man to orgasm ) but I don't find very many that are willing to GIVE a graphic, detailed, clinical answer to a man about what they want regarding the same subject. A friend of mine, asked me directly to my face, or rather on the telephone, as to "how do you jack off" and I was surprised, in that she was not willing to tell me HOW she masturbated in graphic, detailed, clinical terms. I was willing to even SHOW her how I masturbated, but it never went that far and I gave her a detailed account of exactly WHAT I did with my penis to bring about an ejaculation. That being said, I find that unless I have been with a woman for a long time, it is difficult to get from them what they want or need, manually, (with my fingers to bring them to an orgasm. I usually succeed with Cunnalingus, after some practice, Most women I know masturbate manually, that is with their fingers and not a vibrator, and I am certain that they are very adept at it after years of practice. How many women (at least 25 y ears or older) or at least 18, are willing to step up and tell me how they masturbate, manually, in a graphic, detailed, clinical way. I would like to have a good answer to that question, if anyone is willing to be so forthcoming about, it. Inquiring minds want to know...You report, we decide. I would like to have some basis in fact about how to start rubbing a woman's clitoris, without having to know her for six months and having to ask her. There must be some basic way that a woman like to have her clitoris manipulated with the fingers. Lets hear it ! Bruce

[Anonymous]

When I masturbate I usually have to use a small vibrator, because my birth control pills mess with my natural libido. However, there are many times when I simply use my hands and masturbate to orgasm. Usually I start off my clenching my pelvic muscles to increase blood flow and I gently rub the outer labia, so that my clit gets a gentle rubbing sensation as the blood flow increases. Then I start gently rubbing the whole area around my clit, especially the crevices, where extra nerves seem to be. I'll circle around my vagina and use the wetness to lubricate more rubbings. Then I will start to directly rub my clit. Not too hard, not too soft, and definitely not fast, but a slow-steady pace so that my clit doesn't get rubbed raw and I lose my orgasm.

I keep that up, mixing it up by rubbing the outside edges of my vagina, and OCCAISIONALLY penetrating myself with my fingers. ( lots of times, having something inside me actually detracts from my orgasm potential ) My sweet spot is right between my vagina and anus. there are lots of nerves there, and orgasm muscles, so when I push gently on that spot, I trigger a very nice pre-orgasm sensation that can build me up to have multiple orgasms in one session. I just keep all of this up, try really hard not to get distracted, and go for the goal!

[Bruce]

You confirmed what I have always thought, that women, by and large, do not like being penetrated, ie with a dildo etc. when they are really trying to orgasm. and I think that kind of thing is only in porn films etc. Thanks for you answer, and it really says what I have always thought, that many of the things you describe, a man could only learn by you telling him specifically, or you having been in a long enough term relationship with you, and you helped him learn what you like and need.

[Opinion Owner]

That is true, for some reason, when I am trying to orgasm, having something inside me, just distracts me from orgasming. it seems to make getting my pelvic muscles to clench, much harder so that if I orgasm at all, it is very weak. Whereas, when I masturbate, I can have really strong orgasms because the muscles can clench tightly. If any guy wants to improve his skills in the sack, he needs to simply pay more attention to his woman and for god's sake, if she needs a vibrator, let her use one!

[Bruce]

Thank you too, for all of the time you took here to answer.

[Anonymous]

Multiple Ways. The method that works for me & I have never heard another woman say they use is laying on my stomach with the fingers of both hands wrapped around a sheet (gives extra friction) and two fingers on my clit with the two fingers from the other hand on top of the other hand's two fingers. By moving my hips in a back and forth & sometimes slowly up & down, I am able to get really strong orgasms. I have done it this way since I was really young & can't even remember how I learned to do it this way. Later, I found out most women seem to just lay on their backs and rub their clits with their finger. I think because this is not the way I had done it for many years, it is harder for me to achieve an orgrasm this way but it can be done..just takes me longer. Recently I discovered that hitting the G-spot with one hand while rubbing my clit with the other is also great. I usually can achieve orgrams with just my own thoughts (fantasies) but sometimes I use porn just for fun. I rarely use any kind of penetration in masturbating.

[Bruce]

Difficult to picture what you do and how you do it but if it works so well for you, why change. Hard to imagine you hitting the "G-Spot" since from what I understand, that area iinside the vagina and in the upper 'roof' of the vagina. I can reach it with my index finger and middle finger with a woman that wants that, but I have to say it is difficult to reach and maintain contact with that area. The main point, I take is that for a woman, there are many different ways to reach orgasm alone.

[Bruce]

After thinking about your answer, I see what you mean. You move your body, hips etc and your clitoris, AGAINST your hands, rather than moving your fingers over your clitoris. More pressure, or more DIRECT pressure against your clitoris. That makes sense. You are basically 'grinding' your clitoris against your fingers instead of the other way around.........Effective. Thank you.

[Opinion Owner]

Re: the G Spot. It is rather difficult to do -- I've only recently tried as I didn't even know much about the G spot until the past few years. For me, I am pretty much getting close to orgasm by touching my clit...and then if I just put pressure on the G-Spot, that does it. The Gspot is more toward the end when I am close to orgasm already. The difficulty is that I really could use two right hands -- left one doesn't work as well :(

[Anonymous]

This is the Anonymous user from below - again. I forgot to comment on your second response and it wouldn't let me add another comment. Anyway, yeah...what you described is a good way to state it -- its like grinding against my hands -- never thought of it that way. I have never told anyone this is the way I do it since it seems really odd now that I know girls do it differently then that. But it gives the quickest and strongest orgasms for me.

[Bruce]

I did not know that girls discussed with each other how they masturbate, . I was pretty sure that most / or no women penetrated themselves. You apparently do not get your clitoris wet before you rub it and I thought that was necessary to avoid irritation, and you also mentioned 'extra friction' by using the sheet that you wrap around your hands. I have a hard time imagining how you use the sheet in wrapped around your hands but I do understand the 'grinding" that you describe.

[Bruce]

Thank you for all the time you took to answer my question.

[Anonymous]

In response to your 2nd paragraph--the reason for that is because anything asked by a man is examined through the lens of prejudice. Any man asking for graphic detailed answers to a sexual question is assumed to be satisfying his desire for sexual pleasure.

Just take a look at the first response to my vagina bomb question.

Our society doesn't have that prejudice about women, so they can ask things much more freely.

[Opinion Owner]

You could always invent a female ID, if you want to get around prejudices like that.