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My stretch marks a turn off to him? What to do?

I'm 18,and I'm not overweight,but as a teen,and when I began going through puberty,i began getting light stretch marks.They are lighter than my flesh,and are smooth,they're on the sides of my thighs and inner thighs.I've tried cocoa butter,shea butter and bleaching cream,but those do nothing.I'm not tall,i'm average height(I think it's average),5'2,125-130 lbs.Well anyways,the gu I've been going out with for about 5 months,we recently had sex.I was insecure about my stretch marks,and didn't wanna let him see me nude,and of course,listening to people's bs of "guys don't care" I did,and he did end up mentioning them and how they were a turn off.What should I do?Laser maybe? I've also heard of Bio-oil,but I'm not sure if that's just for pregnant women.And I've heard of Stri-vectin.Help me?
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  • im not super fat as well but due to multiple reasons over the course of this past year I had gained weight very very fast. unfortunately I have really deep dark stretch marks on my hips, and lighter ones inside my thighs. like you I was sooooooooooo self concious about it. but when my boyfriend and I had sex or anything he never mentioned anything. thinking he was just trying to be sensitive I just accepted it.

    but we would lay together or hang out or whatever and he would stroke my skin, rubbing my hips, moving his fingers across where the marks were and not like pausing or anything like that, just totally normal (and they are very deep, you can feel them) one time I actually brought it up to him and he's just ike "oh. I dunno, I mean, I guess I've noticed they're there before but I've never actually ever thought about them or anything. if I'm close enough to be touching you or looking at your body, why would THAT be something I was thinking about?"

    that's what someone should think. if he has a problem f*** him, that's not what true love and caring is.

  • First of all you need to know that if he really loved you, he would never even notice them! If he has anything you don't think is perfect on him tell him and watch him get mad! Look at the scene in Titanic when Rose poses on the couch so Jack can draw her, look close...she has stretch marks on her boobs. Super models are air brushed before their pix are put in magazines-they look like blotchy skinned heroin addicts without all the tons of make up they have to cake on! Please read "Why men love Bitches" by Sherry Argov. I did after years of dating losers, I'm now 42 years old and finally I met the sweetest guy in the world. Also try this...take a picture of yourself and put it at the bottom of your underwear drawer, don't look at that picture again for about ten years, so on and so on, believe me you will see it, you are no where as bad looking as you think, please love yourself! I thought I was so ugly when I was growing up only to find out 15 years later that the guys I knew thought I was pretty but they were afraid I wouldn't want them!

  • im sure he's got something on his body that turns you off...let him go get surgery for that. they did not bother you until HE said something so he's making you feel bad about yourself and NO man is supposed t do that. bad sign, do not change them for him..do it for you

Most Helpful Guys

  • why didn't you say..."well at least my stretch marks are longer than your little pecker, ASSHOLE"! If that was me, I'd be lick those stretch marks along with the rest of your body! that guy's an ass and I hope whoever he ends up marrying has genital herpes and doesn't tell him and gets pregnant with triplets and swells up like a f***ing whale and then loses all that weight and has so much flabby skin hanging that he can't tell which is her saggin ass breast, and of course, I hope the bitch has stretch marks even on her damn face!

    • Hahaha ..that's funny

    • Lol you are a badass:)))

  • On the many girls I've slept with I have not seen one yet who didn't have at least one stretch mark somewhere on her. The most common areas I've seen stretch marks are on her boobs and/or hips. He's an idiot and you don't need him.

    • I definitely agree with him. Out of the many girls I have been with marks of any sort never really turned me off and even if it did it wasn't bad enough for me to mention it. Girls get them its natural , just try not to sweat it too much. In time he will come to bypass it and if he doesn't well there's lot more guys out there. Besides doubt he complained about getting you naked.

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  • Trust me, if they aren't huge, it isn't a big deal. I wish my stretch marks were like yours. I have huge ugly stretch marks all over my body from medication I had to take when I was sick that caused me to gain weight, and they are dark pink and very obvious. I have to get surgery to remove them, and I can't even expose my waist because of them!

    So trust me, your stretch marks are not a big deal at all. If they were more severe, then Id tell ya you should be worried :)

  • Honey, we all have them.

    i developed at a very young age and have light white ones on my boobs, my hips and the top of my thighs.

    every girl, even skinny ones, have them.

    dont worry bout it, and if the guy said their a turn off, tell him to p*ss off.

  • i have had stretch marks and I have found out that drinking lots of water really help; it makes the skin more elastic and therefore when the skin stretches it won't tear and cause stretch marks. hope this helps

  • Leave him because most guys really don't care. I don't care. This guys a prick for pointing it out to you.

  • I'm thinking keep the stretch marks and replace the guy!

  • My girlfriend and best friend have stretch marks from child birth. I don't seem to notice them at all.

  • Here are a couple of links that might help:

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    It sounds like cocoa butter and anything with Vitamin E are the best bets from all the other sites I saw. Good luck!

    P.S:And wow, unless he was being totally loving & gentle when he was being 'honest', he kind of sounds like an ass.

  • get lotion with colligen elastin and vitamin e oil.. its supose to.. like lighten them are wut ever.. and it is for pregnant wemon to prevent stretch marks, but iv heard itll make them dissapear but for the most part...

    before I got prego I wasn't overweight either but I had stretch marks on my boobs and hips.. it sucks I know it

    thats gay that guys obviously shallow as hell so f*** him..

    all the guys that iv been with have never cared about my stretch marks

  • break up with him!

    he shouldn't put you down like that! why are do even think you need to fix that in order to keep him?

    you have low self esteem!

  • What a douche. Find a better guy, who accepts that ALL females have stretch marks somewhere.

  • sad that he thinks that.

  • yeah I'm 120lbs and thin and have insecurities as well. have marks on my hips and butt.

  • its like o she has stretch mark but she's also naked hmmm suddenly I don't really care about stretch marks

  • well I would say you deserve someone better then a boy like him,stretch marks are common even celeberties have them but cover them up with make up.

    well unfortunally there are no actual solutions for stretch marks, you can try working out and try to control your body weight, surgery for a boy isn't the answer,if he cares he will look beyond that.

    Good luck!

  • well you could try getting a darker tan that may help depending on how dark you already are?

  • NO...for a "MAN" they are not a turn off. You say you're 5'2 125 to 130...this sounds perfect to me. I've dated women with stretch marks and don't find them in anyway a "turn off"...you need someone that appreciates a womans body. Stay away from the boys.

  • For one don't let any man put you down because as a woman we are all beautiful in our own way I'm 5'5" 125lbs and I have stretch marks everywhere before and after I had my child, If he really likes you he won't say anything to make you feel bad about yourself. What works for me is Palmer's cocoa butter tummy butter and vitamin E pills I break them and put them directly on my skin and run in it makes them lighter. But every women gets them not just you don't worry too much about them and keep you head up don't let no man bring you down. Any real man understands that we as women get stretch marks and they shouldnt bug him if they do maybe his insecure with himself and needs to pick at you to make himself feel better about how he looks. Look at youself in the mirror and tell yourself your beautiful just the way you are. And no one can take your Pride and Beauty away from you not even Him!

  • what a loser he is 5 2 and 125 -130 is def a good frame for a women:)

    i have little noticeable stretch marks on me too that I don't like either but if a girl had them and I liked her before sex I would look past it

    but if you really want to do something about it buy a shower brush and scrub that area a lot I have seen some differences on my body and do cardio everyday that for 30 minutes that tightens ur skin up decreasing ur stretch marks

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