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NEED HELP FROM MY FELLOW GAGGERS! What do girls get from going down on a guy?

Guys and Girls I need some encouragement here!!! I am about to be 21 and never gave head before or had the desire to do it. Personally I find it FUCKING DISGUSTING... BUT I dont want to believe that anymore. I'm not gonna go around and start giving blowjobs (ew btw) but when I get a boyfriend I want to be the best girlfriend I can be and that include doing stuff he loves (only of course if he's a good boyfriend to me). I just really REALLY need help with this. How to look at sucking on a dick as something... postive? I find it disgrading and I dont want to think that anymore. Please please help. I always felt this way and being on GAG has made me realized not ALL guys are disgusting and use women and because of that I want to get better at stuff like this No hate help. Just need a little guarence ALSO: I never had sex before and no one has EVER seen me naked... if that helps. Another thing-----> How to be confident enough to actually give my future boyfriend head? And be comfortable with showing my body to him. I hate my body. I'm 5'2 and have extra small A cup boobs and I feel like a kid. I have a bubble butt and hips are wide enough but the boobs are making me insecure. How to love myself?
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Most Helpful Guy

  • You sound like someone I know.

    First, don't let the "perfect" become the enemy of the "good." Don't try to be perfect, you never will be. Nobody will be. Once you accept this, only then can you love yourself. Big boobs are nice. But small or no boobs are not the worst thing in the world. Think Russian or European models, in sleek black dresses open down the middle. They're "thin and fit," they don't need boobs to compensate and take away focus from the rest of their body. Instead, let your face, neckline, shoulders, legs, hips and waist be your sexy assets (from the front). Let your bubble butt be your sexy asset from the back. That's plenty to work with, and it would be silly to feel inadequate because you don't have boobs distracting a guy from everything else that's physically attractive and feminine about you.

    Second, may I recommend getting high on weed. In private, get high on weed. Then, get on the bed and relax. Think about you being with a guy. One girl I know would visualize having a man fucking her from behind, and more importantly, how she would feel feminine accommodating his manhood inside her, and how she would enjoy his masculinity as she felt safe and secure as he grabbed onto her from behind - nesting her under his hard body. Sex starts in the mind. So, put the cucumber and dildo down. Your brain first needs to put sexual acts into symbolic context. You need to discover what context is erotically symbolic for you, in private, alone, free from fear, anxiety and inhibition, and with open mindedness.

    Third, a simple context is to simply not think of a penis as a penis. A penis is not just a penis. A penis belongs to a person. A penis is an extension of the guy it belongs to. Thus, it's not a representation of (men in general), and all the feelings and fears you may have with respect to (men in general). Instead, it's a part of the guy it belongs to. So, it's more (him) than it is (men in general). It's also more (him) than it is (a bodily part on some medical cadaver). So, it can be seen as a symbol of "his" desire and need for "you," and a vessel through which you can feel more feminine, use your sexual power on him, and give "him" affection and pleasure.

    You need to find what context is erotic for you, but that's a starting point for distinguishing the fears you have about men in general (and insecurities), from "him."

    • Wow. I'm at a lost for words. Thank you soooo a million times much. Best answer ever

    • Well, thank you. I appreciate being able to help in some way. If you still want to talk more about it, or have any more pointed questions, feel free to PM me.

    • Will do. Thanks for the invitation :)

Most Helpful Girl

  • You could if you feel comfortable watch some porn involving them, yes you may find that degrading given your views and situation but it definitely can help. What do I get? Satisfaction knowing that I"m the one making my man feel over the moon, you're the one in control and can send him over the edge. It's a boost in confidence too believe or not, don't pretend to enjoy it because it can't easily be faked. Once you're good at it you have even more confidence. BUT before you can make someone else happy ou have to make yourself happy, work on your goals, know that you're a catch and you will make someone very happy.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Suck on a cucumber maybe?

    • Ew, no. You can though?

  • Normal they got a mouth full 💦

    • But that doesn't mean anything

    • Means your doing a great job

  • If your willing to try it, maybe ask him to give you oral first. Then you can at least get a general idea of how good an oral session feels.

  • pleasure!!! :D

    • How is it pleasure for you :/

    • You feel really close to him. touching it feeling it. enz

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