She had scratches on her bum and back? Cheating?

[swagger]

My Girlfriend have a really happy relationship. Our sex life is great but the other day I went out with a friend to discuss being his best man and shop for suits. During the day she text me saying she is really Horny for me. Later on we went for a meal and then went home. I went to instigate intimacy but she said she was tired and then all of a sudden I noticed the scratches on her butt and then her back. Does this mean she has definitely cheated?

[QueenKatie]

It doesn't necessarily mean she's cheating. I have quite sensitive skin, to the point that I can take a soft, blunt pencil, and write something softly on my arm, and you will still be able to see the marks a couple of hours later! I also bruise really easily, so even if I am just carrying a plastic bag of shopping and it bounces against my leg, it will look like I've fallen over. I'm pretty active, and sometimes I have a big bruise, and I don't even know how I did it.

If she was out shopping, she might have tried on a scratchy dress (sequins can be really hard on soft skin). What does she do occupationally? If she's outdoors a lot, there's all kinds of ways your skin can get scratched without even being naked.

Also, it is quite normal for people (girls and boys) to feel like sex during the afternoon, but to be too tired by the time night gets around. Just because she turned you down doesn't mean she had cheated on you. She might just have been worn out after being on her feet most of the day.

I'm not saying she didn't cheat. I'm saying there could be other explanations and that you shouldn't jump to conclusions or make assumptions. Clearly, this is a major worry for you, and you need to talk about it with her, in a calm and adult way, not leap to suspicions that will eat away at you. Please remember that trust is absolutely fundamental to all human relationships, and romantic ones in particular. Good luck.

[cutemassi]

Ok this Dino looking two good...

she could e sleepwalking or she could have fainted and not remeberd it, but you should jump to conclusions anything could of happand,ask he again if she has done anything that might have made her get those scratches and bruises,maybe she was in the mood befor but then she felt tied after being so Horney. Also say to her that you don't want to keep secrets from each other and that you want you're relationship to e stron and they make up something tht you havnt told her, but not something so bad that shed dump you, and ask now that I'd told if there's ANYTHING at all that she wants to say to you? If she answers no while looking into ur eyes then she is telling the truth and there's mo need to worrie,if she looks away and looks back and says no then she is ovuisly hiding something from you, go a bit closer and ask again if she is sure, if she says yes and tells you she cheated once looks sad and talk about it don't just yell at her and dump her strait away.also don't get two angry or worried I'm not trying to think of bad things but...she could of been rapped, because it happend to heaps of people, my bestfriend angel got rapped:(it was quite sad now she's pregnant but she didn't no unroll 5months in and it was two late for am obortion she she now has to have the baby...,good lick I hope this helps you if not sortie I tried (:

[Rangersno01]

Hi,

Just because she has scratches on her doesn't mean she is cheating on you, I am TOTALLY against cheating I hate it but give her a chance she might be innocent, Trust her until you have proof then she can't say you don't trust me or believe me. Just watch her closer than ou ever have if you love her then give her a chance to prove herself.

Good luck.

By L

[wolverine88]

Maybe ... I had a girlfriend like that I really wish I could tell you hopefully a girl answers tyhis one for the both of us ... my ex- didn't just have scratches she would have brussing on her inner legs and butt neck and around her breasts so any honest girls let us guys know now are these girls cheating or does it matter at all lol P.S. glad I got out of that relationship with that girl took four long years and it ended with her cheating on me for a final time even after we had a bab y together lmao if its that kinda relationship end it if the girls say yes she is cheating for the both of us (now if I only had a time machine?)

[swagger]

Harsh times bro.

[Bruce]

Swagger, don't feel bad I went to my GF's, apartment, on a Monday morning, (she forgot to lock the door, was probably smashed when she came home) Opened the door and there she stood ...stark naked, in the living room, and a guy in her bed...Not much doubt, there. I have to agree with you...not a good explanation. My opinion only. I would be dubious of her explanation also...Your decision

[verychatty30]

i admit it don't look good but don't jump to ur own conclusions you need to ask her about it but do it in way that ur not accusing her becasue once you have accused her of cheating it's pretty hard to get that trust back.

just ask her outright what has happend and why she has scratches on her butt and back

[swagger]

Apologies, should have mentioned that I did ask where they came from and she couldn't explain. She said she didn't know.

[verychatty30]

Ok I still stand by what I said before a friend of mine who is married had bruises on her theigh that she couldn't explain to her husband she never cheated so things like that do happen she could have done it to her self

[l-hedoniste]

She's cheating. When's the last time you've taken major abrasion injuries without knowing where they came from?

She was either too slow or gentle-hearted to lie.

[Bexiie]

Not necessarily, I have really soft skin which means I can get cuts and bruises without having a clue where they came from like at the moment I have a 3 inch bruise on my leg and I don't have a clue where it came from. the scratches on the back could've come from something as simple as sitting on a rough wall or something similar. It happens to me all the time and I am definitely not cheating.

[l-hedoniste]

Two problems with this hypothesis: 1. You know this about yourself, and you say so. If she knew this about herself, she would have said so. 2. If this were the case, he would have discovered this long before now, and he wouldn't ask the question. He asks about the scratches because he finds them unusual.

[swagger]

I Agree

[swagger]

I'm dubious because she was at home. No Rough walls to scratch herself on. We'd had sex the night before and the marks definitely weren't there then. I'm pretty sure she hadn't been asleep or doing anything remotely active enough (well...) to get them any other way. And when I say scratches I mean finger nail type scratches. So either she was giving herself a good seeing and getting a bit carried away by scratching herself or she must have been having sex with another man/woman surely?

[swagger]

I sure hope its the prior than the latter. And I coudl see how she would be embarrassed to say that. But maybe that's just wishfull thinking?...

[l-hedoniste]

That might be the case, and she might even feed it to you if she thinks you'll believe it. But really, what's done, is done. You can either trust her, or not.

[dallascheerleader]

aw, don't go thinking she's cheating, it could be something embrassing that she doesn't want you to know about, like there are sooo many possibilities, I mean ur idea is possible, but its not the only possibilty, try talking to her again, let her know its worrying you but that your not completely assuming she's cheating, but as her boyfriend that's the first and worste thing that comes to mind, and if it is comething embrassing you won't think differently of her but you want to know.