Why doesn't my boyfriend like blowjobs?

We've been dating for almost 3 years, but he hates it when I give him a blowjob. He used to tolerate it, but now he doesn't even do that. I actually want to do this to him, but he genuinly hates it and acts like I'm being completely selfish. What is going on here? Don't al guys like blowjobs?

Updates:
I find giving blowjobs, ironically, to be really sexy. It's not like I'm trying to "do my good deed" or anything like that. I mean, when I watch porn, it tends to be about giving blowjobs. I just feel that once or twice a year isn't too much to ask for
Ugh, sorry for the double update.
 

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  • As weird as it may sound, no, not all guys like blow jobs.Really, you can apply that logic to anything.For example, not all girls like anal sex.Not all guys want children,Not all mothers want what's best for their children.So, as kind as you are for trying your hardest, and I know I appreciate you, I'd say stop pushing the issue and let it go. Being respectful of your partner comes before anything else.

    • Reading your update indicates that you are really wanting to give oral sex.Dare I say, you enjoy nothing more?If that's the case, I can see where this is going to be a problem for you, in terms of a lasting relationship with someone who doesn't enjoy your favorite act.Sex is a very important part of any comitted relationship, and is usually a big part of why people break up/divorce. You may want to consider if this is something you can compromise on.

What Guys Said 7

  • He just doesn't like blowjobs. There's no law that says he has to. You could ask him to grit his teeth and endure every once in a while, but otherwise, I wouldn't force the issue. If he doesn't want them, he doesn't want them. That's that.

  • I don't like them much either... I know none of the girls have ever been doing anything wrong, but it just doesn't feel good for me, I don't really like the idea of them anyway, sort of cuts the intimacy out of it for me, like I'm trying to be in a porn film or something. Its also awkward as your just supposed to lie there while they expect a reaction from you and I'm definately not the kind of guy who makes a lot of noise.

  • You are probably doing it wrong.Read some books about blow jobs. How to make love like a porn star is a good one.Most guys are going to like blow jobs, they are going to also like the fact that you at least are trying.Ive had terrible blow jobs before, and I have had good ones. Me telling them that I don't like blow jobs in general is a good way to let them down without hurting their feelings.Terrible blow jobs are usually too aggressive, too much teeth, and sometimes not enough deep throat.We like a lot of coverage and be really careful with the teeth. it hurts.Id rather never have a blow job again from a girl if it meant scraping of the teeth. Its terrible and needs to stop.Having good sex has nothing to do with a persons looks it has to do with 2 things.1. Having a good connection to the person.2. Technique.If you don't have those 2 things, sex is terrible.

    • I agree...your probably bad at it? Talk to him about it...ask what kind of things he likes...or do what this guy said, read about it...i did for the first time I gave head to my guy...and you can find some sexy ways to lure him into it... :D

  • Not all guys enjoy that.I do however love it. The girl has to be good at it though or it is detrimental. There are few girls that actually know how to give a good BJ. Best advise it to talk to him before and find out what he likes.

  • i wana meet you :) lol no but I don't know maybe your boyfriend feels weird idk? if my girlfriend would of gae me head I would love to 69 on her

  • One, he's goddamn crazy. I only wish my girlfriend would pretend to like giving them. And maybe give me more than one a month >_>

  • I can't imagine what kind of guy (straight or gay) doesn't like to have his **** sucked...

What Girls Said 8

  • I've never heard of this before but...It is possible for a guy not to like bjs.Us women have this stereotypical male in our head...That he's a big horn dog and likes anything that has to do with sex.WRONG! Every guy is different. Just like how some girls hate oralmen can dislike it too.If he's simply not into it there's not much you can do.

    • Intercourse is so much better than bjs.

  • It depends on how big he is cause bigger guys like bj's less from what a friend told me. Maybe your technique is wrong. Are you using teeth? Don't use teeth unless he asks. First how big is he? and ask him what you're doing wrong,?

  • Maybe you cheese grater and he doesn't like it. Or maybe he doesn't like kissing you after that some guys are weird like that my boyfriend was freaked if I tried to kiss him after a bj but now He's over that and doesn't care.

  • Don't force him into it. Let him ask for them, if he never does, then oh well. Maybe brush up on your techniques and see what happens after that.

  • I have never met a guy who didn't like blowjobs. I agree with you blowjobsare fun and sexy! Find out if maybe he just doesn't likesomething you're doing, or if maybe he has some kind of past trauma..

  • its a personal thing. he may have been conditioned at a younger age to think its disgusting or had a bad experience... or he just may not like the feeling. all guys are different, as are their preferences and sensitivities. you can't force somebody to do something they don't want to do sexually, because that could cause an aversion to sex completely. talk to him... work out a compromise... but don't be angry with him if he doesn't want it. would you be all too willing if he wanted to do somehting you didn't like? you're going to have to be patient and caring with him... there's a good chance hell come around.

  • ya I had a boyfriend that was the same way and tried to change him. But never worked. I know it sux but ya I guess they don't feel nething with a bj. Atleast thas wut he told me and he also said it's useless because he can't come that way.

  • Maybe your not doing it right and he doesn't want to hurt your feelings so he just tells you he doesn't like it

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