First time sex, how to make it special and all about her?

[Anonymous]

I am a virgin, 21, and I'm dating this girl for a while now she's 19, and we are just made for each other it's pretty unique experience... I can feel that we are getting a lot more intimate physically recently and it is going to lead to sex at some point.. I just would like pointers or advice from girls and guys(romantic kind because I'm one myself lol) What is it a guy can do foreplay/sex/afterwards... I'm pretty knowledgeable on sex related stuff lol so don't hesitate to use big words like cunnilingus(which I have a huge thing for) on me SO what can I do to make it all about her, personally I want to make it slow and sensual at first and see where it goes when it gets hot and heavy... I guess I would like some advice on what to do and what not to do, tips, personal likes/dislikes. thanks I really appreciate and help out a 21 year old virgin :)

[Anonymous]

I recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend (he hasn't been a virgin for 10 years) but he was amazing about it. Once we started discussing having sex he immediately said that it should be special for me since it was my first time and that he could leave the details to me or take care of it himself. I let him do it so when I came to his house he had gotten tons of rose petals from the store where we work and scattered them everywhere and lit candles and had a playlist of songs going...it sounds kind of cheesy but it was really beautiful. You can do something similar to set the mood; if you have to go for anything go for the candles because harsh lighting can make you feel uncomfortable your first time and in the dark...could be tricky..lol.

Its hard to tell you what to do exactly since ur a virgin too but I would suggest not rushing into anything that night...lots and lots of foreplay. Make sure you tell her that she doesn't have to do anything she doesn't want to do and that you can stop at any time she wants. Then I would definitely go down on her...this will help her feel less inhibited and will get her wet so sex will hurt less. You can also have some kind of lubricant at hand just in case.

Also, its important to remember when entering her go very slowly because it will definitely hurt her at least in the beginning. I can't stress enough the importance of going slow your first time..you don't have to feel like you have to do anything too complicated. I hope this helps : )

[Opinion Owner]

P.s. you sound like a really caring guy...i'm sure you will do everything right for her

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

Read Kamasutra, it talks about things you can do before sex like give her a massage or some thing. Don't make it to technical, don't focuse too much on the hips, start slow, and remember to kiss her before, during and after sex, caress her breasts. Women hate it when guys just make sex a hip action thing. Also buy the right size of condoms once my ex got XXL size it did'nt fit well it also made him limp. Also make sure to groom yourself down there too much pubes is a turn of, trimming or shaving will make it look bigger. Give her oral sex, since it is a way to show a woman that she is special. Do not complain about trying different positions, ( my ex used to do that, sex with him was awful). After sex cuddle with her or else she will feel emo. Do not make her watch a lame movie after wards (another mistake my ex made it was a movie about guys without testicles). Or you could take a shower or bath together after wards.

[Anonymous]

Well I'm not sure if I can be of much help to you. From reading it I'm assuming that ure girl is a virgin as well. But speaking from the perspective of a 21 year old virgin myself I think I can give you a little input on what a virgin girl may one. First you should make sure she's totally comfortable and wants to continue. As foreplay, touching is good. A girl can get wet by a dude caressing her lol. Of course kissing works to set the mood not just on the lips and of course fingering her will help because it will keep her wet and prepare her for penetration. Afterwards you should definitely cuddle with her no matter how exhausted you may be and fall asleep together in each other arms. You may find more help for the non virgins out there lol but this is a start. have fun!

[bigred7667]

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remember slow and steady wins the race...

if you know how to do it enough you can make ur girl have multiple organisms b4 starting oral> just has to passionate and slow...

nothing like making ur girl happy though ...yep... : )

kinda jealous of how girls experiences are way more intense than a guys

[xXMissMelissaAnnXx]

I think you mean orgasms, not organisms.

[sonic241928]

No, I think he meant organisms. Especially if they don't use a condom.

[Asker]

Lolol.

[Buckminsterfuller]

Intensity...oh yea! lol

[prymtym3]

Alright, start with some light kissing on the neck and nibbling on the ear... all girls like that. Kiss your way down to her vagina and do your thing. When you have sex you should be on top for her first time. You should be in control. And after wards it is always nice to cuddle. Good Luck.

[katiesmuff]

Just wondering how it went. Did you f**k her good

[Asker]

Not yet lol :( but we both want to do it like rabbits xept she wants to be extra cautious and get on the pill first, then have sex obviously with condoms.. but when I do, ill definitely come back with detailssssss if you want lol

[katiesmuff]

Seems like you two are being smart about it. Once she is on the pill and the fact that the both of you are virgins, wouldn't need the condom as no chance of an STD would exist. Feels so much better skin to skin and you could properly come in her without the getting pregnant risk.

[Asker]

Well I don't know much about the whole % chances of getting pregnant, but the pill isn't 100% and neither is the condom... there's always a really small chance she could get pregnant at least that's what I gathered from "research" lol im sure it feels better skin on skin but she believes that its safer if we use both... is it really necessary to use a condom when she's on the pill(since we are virgins) or is that just for paranoic safety?

[katiesmuff]

Here is the deal with sex. Short of a partner being sterile or female historecomy there is the chance of pregnancy no matter how much protection you use. This is why if you are going to have sex at all think about what is the plan if all goes wrong?

[Asker]

Ya I did talk about that with her, and she said she will not get an abortion or use plan b because of her beliefs(shes just alittle religious..)

[hispWanItal1name]

Wow! You don't 'Fu*k' a virgin. You make love to her.

[krissadd]

This question was so sweet :)

made my heart melt.

[ironman52241]

be gentle ... if she is a virgin too you can hurt her and turn her off to sex .

dont expect to last long the first time you accually are inside a woman you will probably come right away .. don't be freaked out ... you'll be ready to go again soon .

enjoy , afterward hold her most ladies like to be held close after don't just jump up and run out so to speak that just makes them feel like they did something wrong

[thuniga]

LOTS AND LOTSSSS for foreplay. If its her firs time too then you have to ease her into it so that she is not scared.

[Anonymous]

I think it's important to talk. before, during & after. Virgins need a lot of support in the form of tender loving care to be sure things go smoothly. Topics to address are readiness, expectations, concerns, family planning, pain management, and anything else you feel will help it along. I hope this helps.

[Anonymous]

My first time my boyfriend made sure we were 100% alone and made me an amazing dinner then ran a bubble bath and r washed my hair and body and made everything candle lit and relaxing an then he took me into his room where everything was candle lit and looked beautiful and layed me down he took it super slow and made everything about me for the whole day al that night and he brought me breakfast in bed the next morning

[Anonymous]

Make it a special night for her to remember, dinner, and something else ... maybe a nice hotel if you can ... give each other massages, lots of kisses (everywhere), tell her she's special, have a glass of water beside the bed (you'll get thirsty) ... have fun!

[Anonymous]

making out, kissing, touching, rubbing against each other is foreplay. do lots of that so it's enjoyable.

[Anonymous]

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