Sexual Health
+1 y

First time at a strip club...what to do about erections?

I've never been to a strip club before and I'm pretty sure that my friends are going to take me to one for my 20th birthday soon. And they're probably going to buy me either a private lap dance or a private bed dance (a special at our local club where I would lay down on a bed and the dancer would be on top of me dancing/grinding). What do I do if I get an erection during these? What will the dancer do? Will she get offended? Will she ignore it or will she use it to her advantage while dancing on me? What about if I come while she's dancing on me?
0 0

Most Helpful Girls

  • If you go to a strip club, why do you have to do exactly what your friends want you to do. Can't you just go, look have a few drinks and have fun? Do you have to get all actively involved intimate with the dancers to the point of worrying if she'll feel your erection or if you're gong to come or whatever else? Why not just be a man and not let yourself go ape over the girls. If this is what having fun is all about to you, you'll never make a good boyfriend or even less, a good husband for any girl. Learn to stand your ground for the sake of decency. Be am example rather than being stupid and someone to laugh at. If on the other hand, if that's what you wanna do, then don't worry what happens. I'm sure she couldn't care less what happens to you. She's there to make money. Nothing else other than her safety or some guy trying to go too far.

  • I'm not a stripper, but I have given one of my guy friends a lap dance and he definitely got an erection. It was a turn on for me when I felt it through his pants, it meant I was doing it right. I think he came while I was doing it too, but I'm not sure.

    • I once came when a girl was sitting on my lap. it was just the little movemetns caused by her crossed leg's dangling foot, making her butt cheeks rub against my erection. so I guess it's absolutely possible your guy friend came during the lap dance...

  • well I'm not a dude. But if she's a stripper I'm sure she wil not care if you get hard during it. She's only doing it to get paid. So just enjoy it.

Most Helpful Guys

  • I don't think they care much about it... the last time I went to the strip club (which was also the 1st time ), the stripper tried to grab my penis, and I cought her hand... they want to see people get a boner, I guess... I don't feel like s stripper touching my penis... I didn't even allow myself get the lap dance despite of my friends forcing me to do it... stripper is just good for show I guess ( at least for me)...

  • No need to do anything about erections; they come with the territory (no pun intended). In fact, some dancers get insulted if you *don't* show.

    If you came, most dancers would take it as a compliment. Those who get offended are very much in the wrong line of work.

Scroll Down to Read Other Opinions

What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!

Related Questions

Girls, do you have sex drive?
I just want to get fucked! How to get a guy to approach you/notice you at a party?
Are you mentally ill or mentally healthy, and is it difficult or easy for you to orgasm during masturbation?
If a guy told you he could cum farther than he can pee, what would be your reaction?

What Girls & Guys Said

0 2

  • i THINK erections are totally common and expected but orgasms are a little frowned upon.

  • If your that worried about an erection drink before you go. I can barely get it up after a 40.

Latest Questions

Is getting a circumcision the right answer in my case?
What is the safest way to dispose a used condom that was not your husband?
Sexually frustrated, am I in the wrong?
I caught my girlfriend reading erotica on her ipad -- should I be concerned?
Home >  Sexual Health  > First time at a strip club...what to do about erections?