How do you tell your new boyfriend you tested positive for chlamydia?

[Anonymous]

First off - I want to start this off as can people please not judge. We all make mistakes. I've started seeing this guy, we've been seeing each other for about a week now and yes, okay, we've slept together. We slept together three times. Before I started seeing him around 2 weeks ago I did a chlamydia test because I slept with someone in November and around December time I though okay I should get checked out. I had no symptoms or anything but in women it doesn't come up. Before the new guy and me slept together he did say to me "i don't have any condoms" to which I replied "I'm not going to get pregnant, I have the implant" I assumed that my test would be negative because it had been over two weeks and I hadn't heard anything and I've never had anything before. However the test came back positive so I went to the clinic, got the tablets and so by next Wednesday I shall be fine. HOWEVER I now have to tell the new boyfriend as we have slept together three times without a condom.. I just don't know how to tell him.. Or if I even should? Like what are the chances that I have even given it to him?

[aimeestuart]

DEFINITELY tell him. You've only been seeing each other for a week, and unless you told him that you have never been with anyone else, then it shouldn't be a huge deal. Tell him the truth, you had sex with someone months before you two were together, and that you had no idea that you had chlamydia, it came up in a routine check, and now you know and he should get tested. And as far as STIs go, chlamydia is about as good as it gets. Easy to treat. Not a big deal, especially if you haven't had any symptoms. And assume that you are both mature adults, he should understand, because you didn't lie to him. But not telling, and if he finds out later, then he would have every right to be pissed because not only would you have broken his trust, but put his health at risk.

And as far as I can see, you didn't make any mistakes, other than not using a condom when frequently changing between partners. So you should use a condom until you are both cleared, and use one whenever you have a new partner, and if condoms really cramp your style that much, ask each serious or potentially recurring partner to take a STI panel with you, and if are both clean and you are confident in your birthcontrol, then condoms are explicitly necessary.

[rsstanford]

Tell him he has it if you didn't use condoms. And why are you having unprotected sex after you got something you might have reinfected yourself. Is it hard to have the guy wear a condom? Why are you risking your health? Use condoms always you only get some many chances of fucking before it actually becomes something you have for the rest of your life. Tell him get retested and I would totally stop talking to you if you gave me something and hid it from me. It says a lot about your character. I'm not judging you but if someone had something would you want them to tell you or lie to you?

[KhloeMom]

Bitch, You better tell him thats nasty as hell. How you going to tell people not to judge you but then turn around and say "or should you even tell him". See that's exactly why people are walking around with stds and not knowing because of nasty ass bitches like your ass. GTFU and take responsibility for your actions. Use a damn condom next time since you want to be so careless and irresponsible for your actions.

[aussiegirl1997]

You should definitely let him know. Chances are almost positive that you gave it to him as well. Being honest is the way to go. Make sure you guys refrain from having sex until you are BOTH cleared. It isn't too difficult to give back and forth.

[Chuga]

You absolutely, positively, without a doubt have to tell him and tell him soon. There is a very good chance that you have already given it to him seeing that you slept together three times and what I think will be worse is that he carries it and gives it to someone else unknowingly. Let him also get the treatment and clear yourself of this STI. Remember that not telling him about it will most likely lead to more problems if he develops symptoms and finds out that you didn't tell him about it and you knew you had it.

Get treated, both of you. Be true to him and he will be true to you.

[AleDeEurope]

You gotta tell him, what kind of "girlfriend" will hide that? It's not something minor, it's a fucking STD, he HAS to know so he can get checked.
Just tell him, woman up and tell him.
Next time you have sex with someone you barely know, use condoms, for fucks sake, it's common sense... -_-

[Cmasterson]

You have to be honest and say the person you slept with prior to meeting him gave you it, and you got the results back recently, and that he should get checked too so he can take the antibiotics.

[REALisRARE]

Doesn't matter if his chances of getting it are 1%, he deserves to be told and has a right to know. That is HIS health at risk. Unfortunately, that is one of those things where you just have to bite the bullet and lay it out there for him. Think of it like this: what reaaon could you have for not telling him? The only one I can come up with is that it's embarrassing, you like him and don't want to mess it up. Now ask yourself: are those selfish reasons? The answer is yes. Tell him.

[summiter]

You have to tell him so he does not give it to someone else. It can be cured which is good. I would tell him face to face... don't tell him via text.

[GingerGuy]

You definitely should tell him, he has a right to know (how would you feel it was reversed and he didn't tell you?). Maybe chances are low he's got it but he needs to know and find out for himself if he wants to. It will be hard to tell him but there's no "easy" way... you've just got to do it. Be honest and just say it.