Threesomes, Why Do Men Want Them, Guys Answer Honestly

So, when I just got with my now fiance, I joked about a threesome, and how I would have one of my friends.. now we are engaged and randomly he brought it up again. so I'm wondering.. why though? am I not good enough? does it mean he wants other women? we have a great sex like I mean grrreeeat...so why? be as blunt and honest as you can.

 

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Most Helpful Opinion

  • You brought it up, don't get mad at him for doing it, and don't get too insecure. 'Good enough' for what? To make him totally ignorant of other girls who are hot? Maybe, who cares? Do you seriously need to be that good? Why does it matter? I'm not sure any girl is really that good. Guys who don't see girls besides the ones they're with don't get that way because the girl's 'good enough' they get that way because they decide to be that way, or they fall so deeply in love they get obsessed with you or force themselves to ignore women by repressing their emotional responses to them.

    I think that's pretty unhealthy, if the guy has interest in other women, he's probably more mentally healthy, and you should be happy for him. Similarly, you should feel free to like other guys. If you don't, maybe you fell in love, and are a bit cuckoo, but in that case, why care if he's cuckoo for you too? This is irrelevant to love, whether or not it is exclusively returned to you or not, a guy really in love should love a girl even if she likes other men. Vice versa's the same.

    Threesomes are hot because women are hot, and the more the better, and also the idea of women in proximity with potential lesbian interactions is hot to a guy. Guys want taboo hot stuff, it doesn't mean you're not great.

What Guys Said 10

  • Personally, it's just something I want to experience, and also I want to see if I actually have the ability to keep two women satisfied since it seems like it should be a challenge and that would translate into self satisfaction (I don't brag openly about these things). You should know who he is by now, and if you don't I don't see why you're getting married - so you should be able to figure out the answer, or at least trust him enough to ask and get the truth.

  • Men want threesomes (with 2 girls) in order to give them less of what they want. Seriously, men love sex without giving attention, like women love getting attention without the sex. Having 2 women at the same time ensures that neither girl is getting the full attention and he is still getting laid. Other guys will insist it is something more cosmic and communal, but there is usually an element of sadism and a$$holism involved.

    I love the comment on the girl's side, and that should be the first answer a girl makes.

    "Yes, 2 guys would be great. Maybe later you can have 2 girls"

    If he squirms, that tells you how cosmic he is being.

  • I believe it is only natural for a good dominant man to crave multiple (sexual) partners. His instincts tell him to spread his genes throughout the community with any woman who is worthy of his seed. In today's society, this practice is no longer acceptable, so they have to settle for one mating partner, but the desire is still there. This instinct does not take away how he feels for you. Moreover, I believe an occasional threesome may enhance your relationship because you will prove to him your commitment to satisfying his needs... and if he is smart, he will double his efforts to satisfy yours.

  • men love more than one pussy, what can I say. NEVER good for a serious relationship, but if its all fun and no commitment, ENJOY!

  • I think it is completely normal and not something you should worry about. It is good you can be honest with each other. You'd better tell him if you were just joking though.

  • It's exciting. It's sexual glutton, and men want it for the same reason women want 2 pieces of chocolate more than they want 1. He can be entirely satisfied and still like the idea of a threesome because it's so exciting.

    If you're under 18, I'd advice you wait with the threesomes, because you need a level of trust with your partner, a level of intimacy and a strong desire and conviction that you are with the right person because threesomes can confuse you with respect to the role of sex in a relationship; do you want it to be an intimate expression of love, or an adventure with unknown consequences?

    Hormonal connection through sex is a mechanism best left alone unless in a relationship that DEFINITELY will stand the test.

    Good luck.

  • I like threesomes (MFM, FMF). They allow for some interesting play and great visuals.

    Personally, I like some variety in my sex. My wife is the best sex I ever had in my life but I still like sleeping with other people too. Threesomes are especially good because I get to share the new person with her.

    Just keep in mind that I love having sex with my wife and I have no interest in leaving her. A desire for different sex need not be a threat to your relationship. It can be an experience you share and makes your relationship stronger.

  • Well honestly you brought it up to him! Sure you were joking with him and took it as such, but he might be think it is something in the back of your mind that really wants to do it. Because he brought it back up doesn't not mean in any way shape or form that he thinks any less of you or wants to be with other women without you. I'm sure your sex is great, and will continue to be, but he just is testing to make sure you were really joking the first time you brought it up. Just be honest with him that you have no intention to having one. If my girlfriend told me she was up for a threesome jokingly, I would have the question in my head of is she actually serious about this, until I found out for sure. In my opinion you have nothing to worry about, you just got to be honest with him that you were joking earlier.

  • To me 3somes is something we don't do it regularly. it is a way to test our power, our limit.

    i would love to try it once, just to get it out of my mind.

  • Threesomes are fun. It doesn't mean anything against the girl in my opinion, though it can be seen that way. I think they are just really fun. I mean there are two or four of everything. Double the pleasure. I guess Id equate it to taking scoops of ice cream. Nothing wrong with one scoop, but the second scoop is good too right?

What Girls Said 2

  • Guys, if you are married you already have one p**** to use! haha.

    Why want more?

    Every vagina is the same so why be greedy?

    If you have a wife, fiance, girlfriend, etc lol then your all set.

    Just be sure to pick one tht loves sex as much as you do.

    This way you won't need to be greedy and you shouldn't even want to have a threesome.

    If you love your girl then you need to show her respect and not make her even think she's not good enough to satisfy your whole being. If you want creative ways to have sex do so in other ways.

    Get her to call you "daddy" or "king" or other ways to kink up the bedroom.

    You do NOT need another person in bed especially if your girl disaproves because she might not like girls.

    Bella5624, you are good enough, just make sure he knows tht. and invite knew ideas to bed...SURPRISE him.

    Remember: There ARE other things you can do to spice up your sex life with your current partner without inviting any other pple.

  • When guys ask me, I always say. 2 guys- sure. Another girl? Only if I am in the middle at all times and you don't touch her :)

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