GUYS- please I need some honest answers?

[Anonymous]

OK so my husband won't stop looking at porn, I am 19 and he is 22 but we have been together for 5 years and last October got married, we have a great sex life but he still looks at porn, he tries to hide it because he knows how I feel but I can always tell because he won't want to touch me for a day or two, I have tried to talk to him about it but he wont, I mean he only watches blowjob porn so I researched how to give better blow jobs and I have been much better at them he likes to control it so I worked at it until I completely got rid of my gag reflex, he says that he is extremely happy with me but I feel like when he masturbates he is thinking of someone else (whoever is in the porn) ya know getting off imagining he is with someone else, in my mind this is either because he is unhappy with me or he wants someone or something else right?but all he says is that he enjoys masturbating and he is never gonna change, so my question is why do guys like porn, I mean what do you think about while you watch it and masturbate, and do you think I should get over it or is it something you would or wouldn't do if you were in a relationship that you are happy with the sex?

[insertname]

I went through similar problems with my girlfriend. We had been together for many years but didn't get married. She was upset with my porn viewing so I felt a need to hide it from her. We tried watching it together but that really didn't help as we both thought it would. I can honestly say from my point of view that the porn viewing was harmless.

I don't think that he is viewing it because he is unsatisfied. I do think it's much better to watch movies than to go out and try to meet people. Unless that sort of thing starts to happen you should just try to open some communcation about it and hopefully both come to an understanding.

[Asker]

I have tryed but like I said he won't talk to me about it, do you have any sugestions on how to talk to him about it mabe?

[insertname]

Unfortunatly I don't. My girlfriend and I stayed together but don't live together anymore. Living apart made everything better, she no longer felt threatened by my viewing and I was more concentrated on her when we are together. We really struggled to talk about it beacuse I would get imbarressed. Sorry we never found a better solution.

[Anonymous]

Well in my opinion, you're way too young to be married in the first place. You two don't even know who you yourselves are yet. Porn is harmless, and if you two were in the same relationship only 10 or 15 years older, you wouldn't care. Sometimes porn is a good way to explore new things and get new ideas. Maybe be more receptive. If you open up to him, he will want you. Instead, I feel you're just pushing him away...

[Anonymous]

He has been looking at p*rn long before you came along, and if you let it worry you too much it will be long after your out of his life. Now how can we make this something you can both live with. You worry that he is thinking of someone else, compositing you to them. Well how would you feel if you where the model? It sounds like you have blow jobs down pat. So why dont you guys film a few and ask him to watch them them when he feels the need. It might even help him to think, that was fantastic when she did that, what am I doing here with my dick in my hand? It can't hurt to try. ;)

[blah52]

Its just porn, he's not unhappy with you or thinking about someone else.

[Anonymous]

Look, htere is nothing wrong with porn. Porn jealousy is a common female mental illness.,

BUT--if he is neglecting you, which it sounds like, then you have a right to complain. Just flat out tell him you aren't getting enough.