Does anyone else besides me, the crazy one, hate having orgasms?

[Anonymous]

Don't get me wrong- the sensation feels great, but the emotional aftermath for me is terrible. I enjoy having sex, I love being with guys, but there is just something about reaching orgasm that completely crushes my spirits. I will be having a great time up until the point I come. Once I do, I immediately feel really relaxed yet I can't stand to be with the guy any second longer. I don't mean I physically can't take him anymore, but I mean, I lose so much attraction and interest. Half the time I have sex with someone, if they were good, I never talk to them again! Say I am soloing and have an orgasm... God forbid I was thinking of a guy at the time otherwise I will think less of him from then on! Orgasms=depressing. I don't get what it is. :( What's wrong with me?

[Starr-1one]

It's nothing wrong with you medically, it's a spiritual thing. What I means is, the Orgasm is a doorway, and everytime you have one, you sink lower into an invisible Dark Abyss. It's symbolic, the more you have them, the more tenebrous entities get in, and you feel like crap, and you dislike the person you did it with. The sex part is great, but you must abstain from the orgasm, or every person you do this with will get thrown away like trash. It's not Depression, you feel like there has to be more, and this cannot be the feeling you have to look forward to. Just say no to the orgasm, and you'll be fine... thanks for reading.

[sa230e]

Do you have any negative sexual experiences in your childhood or maybe early teens? Are you religious in a way that makes you feel bad about your sexuality? Have you been abused? In sexuality, just like in every other part of life, any bad experiences or attitudes we encounter during our formative years can leave a deep impression. It could be that your brain is making a subconscious association between sex and something negative that gets triggered when you climax. I'm not saying that IS the problem, I'm just hypothesizing.

[Asker]

Religious? Not at all. Even if I was, I wouldn't feel guilty or ashamed of being a naturally sexual creature. Negative sexual experiences? Hmmm, that strikes a chord, unfortunately. It's not that I have a problem with my sexuality or feel bad about myself afterward, I just loathe the men. I love sex, it feels amazing, but when I'm done I just try my best to never talk to that person again. I then just move on to someone else. I think I need to fall in love... I just don't believe in it. :(

[sa230e]

Surely loathing the men must come from somewhere? I wouldn't blame you if you don't want to talk about it but if you had a traumatic experience there are people that can help you cope. I think you'll have a hard time falling in love if you loathe men. For years I had negative beliefs about women and when I did some research and reflection I found they had no basis in fact and I love them more than ever. I think if you can sort out the loathing problem you'll take care of the orgasm issue too

[Nakor]

in french the word for orgasm when translated, literally means "little death"

becoming depressed after orgasm is common, I always get it I just fell like 'holy crap what have I done why did I do this what the hell is wrong wiht me' even when I was with my girlfriend. but that's what huggs afterwards are for :p make you feel better

[nextelement]

OK so what you need to do is not have sex with your boyfriend for a long long tine. If you can not hold out and need sex from him. either expect to ruin the relationship or make it 10 times stronger. You might want to think about the fact that he is making you get to the point of orgasm. Some girls can be extremely difficult to get there.

[Asker]

I don't have a boyfriend, I'm saying sex with anyone or even if I am jilling off alone.

[casanova3]

I think part of your problem at least is that your not in love with your partner. maybe it was'nt more than a physical attraction and after you come your sexual needs are fullfilled but your emotional desires are not met.

_cassanova_

[Anonymous]

Orgasms are nothing to be ashamed of or to feel guilty about...