An approach I think could help is to get in the habit of complimenting him - that can help many people with low self esteem, and isn't a bad habit to be in for people you care about in general ;p But for your boyfriend, you can spend some time on the more physical stuff... But don't only address this particular thing that's bothering him - that doesn't necessarily help as much as one would like.
So... if you like his shoulders, remind him - it can be straight up, like giving him a hug from behind and telling him "I love your big shoulders." No subtlty needed. Or maybe you like his hands, and if he's holding your hand, give him a kiss there and tell him you like them.
As far as his penis goes... if he's wearing tight pants, take a few seconds to be obvious about checking him out. Don't need to say anything. If you're getting in bed together, and his pants come off, stop what you're doing to watch with a smile on your face. Etc. If he says something, you can tell him you like what you see.
And be consistent about it :)
... you're also welcome to compliment his non-physical attributes, too. People like to be complimented, by and large.
Don't go overboard with complimenting it because he will catch on and obviously forced compliments are worse than no compliments. Instead of saying he has a huge cock, tell him that you want his cock or that you've been thinking about it all day and it made you horny. Be enthusiastic when giving head. Instead of a direct complement, make him feel like it is desired and craved.
This ^^^
@gray_sailor Double this ^^
aww poor guy for feeling so bad. what u said is perfect. it takes time to shake off a deep rooted insecurity. people can be realyl awful about a persons genital appearance. it has a toll on a persons self worth sometimes. also maybe remind him that private parts are features only a select few get to see. if those select few are happy, it shouldn't matter anymore :) anyways, just keep loving him. i think he will get past it with time
Literally, tell him it's perfect, and when you guys do the deed, compliment his member during the whole "event." If you will.
Honestly he needs to get over it! Most men are smaller then that!
It's not what most men have, it's what most woman want (or what men think they want) that causes the insecurity.
@xslope I know, it's the same thing woman face with their bodies... we need to be a certain size, have perfect boobs, a round butt...
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It's okay to talk about former partner's physical attributes if the end of the story is "but I dumped that. I want what you've got." Tell him he has the perfect size for you. "Why would you want it to be different from the way I want it? I want it as is."
Tell him to go see a therapist about his issues.
I think a therapist is way too much for a situation like this.
@DBAOracle really? Basing your self worth on the size of a body part into your 20s isn't reason enough to seek professional help?
1) Self esteem is different than self worth. 2) It's very very common for guys to have low self-esteem when it comes to their penis size. 3) I would agree had he stopped having sex with her over it. But, she didn't mention such a thing so I'm going with the assumption that he is still having sex with her and is comfortable enough to show his penis to her. 4) Not every issue deserves "professional help". And there are missing variables for me to agree on the professional help part.
Can u make him cum and cum ur self with it 2 ? dont see problem.
You can explain him that he's perfect for you. But you won't change what he feels about his size. I know because I'm 4"1/2 and my girlfriend told me I'm perfect for her for years and it doesn't work. Unfortunately, from things she told me at the beginning of our relationship I know she had a friend with benefits who was above average in size and was better at sex than her former boyfriends. If your boyfriend doesn't know about your 6" experiences, please don't tell him ever.
I don't know I got a 7.7, not even joking around.
7.7 cm? Oh you poor bastard.
Hard to do, tbh. I am around 7.25 long, and 5.5 in girth, and I still think I'm small and an insecure about it (hence the name)...
Porn really drills it into your mind that you aren't a real man unless you got 8 inches.. (which less than 1 percent of the male population has.. very rare)
I still don't really know how to deal with it.
Just tell him he is perfect, and you think he's a big daddy or something. It's ALL about ego. Feed it and raise him up as high as you can. Cuz I bet he does the same for you.
Yeah ok. Like I'm 9 and a half inches and I still think I'm small. I guess we are never satisfied.
Your encouraging words should do the trick. How is your sex life with him... how often do you have sex? Let him know that he satiisfies you. Do you orgasm with him?
He's average and you can show the study showing him that.
www.telegraph.co.uk/.../...ler-than-you-think.html
You can just keep reassuring him that it's the perfect size and you won't want him to be any bigger.
Measure it with a metric ruler. When he asks you how long is it and you say "10", he'll feel better... 10 centimeters sounds better than 4 inches.
Actually 5 inches are 12.7 centimeters, yet better. :)
You should tell him that any bigger and it would hurt you. and tell him it's easier for you to please him (orally) and that he might enjoy it more because he will "fit" every where better.
Also if he has hair down there tell him to trim it so it will look bigger.
Tell him how much you fantasize about it.
Just keep riding it. He'll eventually get over it. How long have you two been together?
not very long. A few months
A few months is long enough to prove that you enjoy being with him. Just give him time and praise for how good it feels.
It's better not to talk about it, and certainly not dwell on it. As there is nothing you can say or do that will help him.
never ever say, go deeper baby!.
try saying, ouch, not so deep
Get your hands on some vintage porn and watch it with him.
Vintage porn uses random sized male actors that is much more representative of real penis sizes than modern porn.
5 is average.
It's porn and all these other insecure guys who lie about their size.
This is such a tragedy I knew sexualized culture would only do damage and kill everyone's potential.
You say what you told us. He is what you wanted, he has what you wanted.
Those people in the porno videos... it's an act. Some people base their experience on that and wonder 'all guys their D is one meter long, what is wrong with me?'
And not every woman is the same, some like bigger, some don't. His is just perfect for you and you should just say it
It'll just take time.
Don't overdo it with compliments, he knows it's small.
Maybe he’s into sph.
when u guys are having sex tell him how big it is when its inside of you and how good it feels
Bad advice here. She should not lie about size. Size is an objective measure. She can say that he is a perfect fit for her and that would not be a lie.
The only way that will work is to tell him that you like his penis. You HAVE to be genuine about it though.
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