How can I get laid?

[Anonymous]

I am soon 23 years old but I have only been laid 3 times in my whole life. I am not super good looking but I am probably above average and I am also tall (6'2"). I am also not socially retarded, I can easily hold a conversation and I am not particularly goofy, nerdy, geeky or anything. I think most people consider me as a normal, intelligent and nice person. I was very shy as a teenager though but I am starting to get better at that. About a year ago I started approaching girls at clubs (my friends thinks I'm really brave) and I have been trying really hard to get laid. I have talked, flirted, danced, and made out with girls but the result has only been 3 one night stands. Now I think I could use some advice on how and where I can find girls to have sex with. I am not interested in a relationship, I just want to get laid. Nightclubs has proved to be incredibly difficult, none of my friends are having much success there so I am not the only one. I think one major problem is that I don't meet girls in my everyday life. I have no work buddies and when hanging out with my friends it's usually just me and the guys. I have decided to hit the gym try and get a super hot body, but that will take a while. And I will try to improve my clothing style. But is it really supposed to be that hard to get laid for an normal average guy? What should I do? Where do I meet these willing girls? Thanks on beforehand!

[Anonymous]

"I am not interested in a relationship, I just want to get laid."

That's going to be a problem. The amount of girls just looking for casual sex is very minor compared to the amount of guys.

Honestly the easiest ways to get laid:

1. Pay for it

Consider how much you pay for cover + alcohol at the clubs compared to how often you get laid. What do you figure you spend before you get some action? $100? $200? More? Find yourself a nice call girl.

2. Be in a relationship

I know you said you don't want a relationship, but people in relationships have sex much more frequently than single people.

[Asker]

Yeah but the girl must want to have sex with me, prostitutes is no fun at all for me. And I would feel like an asshole if I got inte a relationship, because I know that I would break up sooner or later and I am simply not that kind of a guy who uses girls in that way.

[rocksongwriter]

There do seem to be quite a few girls here that have friends with benefits. You could try to set something like that up. Although I can't condone it.

[Asker]

That's what I have been trying to to for over a year now. The problem is not that I can't find girls who is up for that kind of thing, the problem is that I get rejected all the time in the clubs. And the clubs is basically the only place where I meet girls that I try to pick up.

[quinner23x]

the more you try the less chance you hav. they can smell desperate

nd day dnt lik it. play it cool a bit of eye contact ul b gud.

[Asker]

I didn't say I'm desperate. I mainly go out and try to have fun but I also flirt a lot.

[quinner23x]

I never said you wer but it better to play it cool every can b desperate at times its hidden it is the key.

[Anonymous]

youre an asshole.

[Asker]

Why? I think I'm a great guy.

[jmd065]

I have to agree... Civilized women don't like men who are just looking to get laid like some asshole.

[Opinion Owner]

A great guy wouldn't want to use women just for sex.

[Asker]

Well, I see nothing wrong in having a desire for sex. It is a human need after all.

[Opinion Owner]

Nothing wrong with the desire...but the way you are going about it only wanting to have one night stands is completely wrong. Have a little self control and wait til you're ready to have a relationship.

[Asker]

I have nothing against having a friend with benefits, that would be great. The thing is, I have no idea about what I want in a relationship and need to try my wings sexually first. I don't want to get into a relationship only to find out that it didn't work out and break up with her. I think it is a very noble thing of me to try and avoid breaking a girls heart.

[Opinion Owner]

Sure its noble to not break a girls heart, but along the way you are hurting them in some way when you sleep with them because 95% of girls have sex to get love, and then you're not giving them the love, so you're breaking there hearts anyway...or they will just regret it in the morning. either way. you obviously don't know what you want sexually or relationship wise...so why do you feel like you have to try sex first, especially cheap sex.

[Asker]

Okay, then I may just as well get into a relationship to have sex and then dump her when it starts getting boring. I believe that having intimate relationships with girls is the only way to find out what you really want.

[kickboxer1006]

you are not an asshole, . but I get your point why she calls you such, 3 one night stands, is more than a lot of people dream of, I have gotten laid but never in a club, could you help me how did you pull it off in the night club? messege me

[Robertcw]

Calling him an asshole... C’mon. That’s so hypocritical of you to say as a young woman who has probably had numerous flings.

[Anonymous]

Umm how about you get a relationship? Maybe it gives you a good rep now, but when you have a girlfriend or a wife someday you will be sorry.

[Asker]

I don't follow this at all, what do you mean?

[Opinion Owner]

Getting laid might give you a good rep with your friends, but when you decide to have a girlfriend, you will have that hanging over your head.

[Asker]

Lol, why would that give me good rep? Anyways, I don't even plan on telling my friends, it is only for myself I want to get laid. Oh, and I will certainly not have it hanging over my head in a future relationship. What will hang over my head is a lack of previous sexual experience, 'cause then I will have no idea what I have missed and feel frustrated.

[Opinion Owner]

If you talk to anyone who has sex with random people before they have a girlfriend or get married, they will usually say they regret it. When you are really in love, you will feel guilty that you slept with someone you barely knew before you did with someone you love. It's just an unwise thing to do

[Asker]

I won't regret it, I promise you.