Would you date/marry a former or ex-sex worker?

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OK, society has this biased view that all who work in porn or in prostitution are all nasty, disease-ridden, drugged up losers.  Those with wiser minds know better.  However, what if you met a person who wants a serious relationship and it turns out they are a former porn actor or a current escort?  Would you be open to this?  Or is this a case of, "Once a sinner, always a sinner" as many religious fanatics would think?  I ask this because several women I have hired over the years have declared that they want out and begin a normal life.  Most of them were in their late 20's or so.  Folks, there's a lot of porn and prostitution out there, more than even I would care to keep track of and maintain a life.  The porn industry has a tremendous turnover rate where people either fail to make success or just don't want to do it anymore.  Because of this, I personally wouldn't know a porn chick even if she stood next to me and I watch about as much porn as anyone.  There's also a lot of sex workers too; from the nasty street strollers to the high dollar models you can hire from the internet and the yellow pages.  Don't they deserve a chance?  I understand the strollers would have a rough time of adapting but what about porn workers or the high dollar models?  Touchy subject here, had to ask.  Let's hear it folks, even the moral police can add in their viewpoints of this as the "Story of Saint Paul conversion" or whatever.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Okay here goes,I was working as an escort for one year in a foreign country.It was my own choice,yes it was out of desperation for money and a roof over my head as well.There are a lot more factors to it really.

Anyway with this type of work that's just what it was to me.I never expected to fall in love.

I am a normal girl,with a good education,comfortable with myself and I would have never of dreamed of doing that work before.But things change,its a path I followed and I have learnt a lot from it.You can judge me how you like but I see it as a type of employment which at the end of the day its tax free cash,you earn a hell a lot of money and if your clever you save it.

Yes there is the moral side of it which I do not think I will be ever to fully understand myself,its strange you learn how to shut yourself off and separate that life from your other.Dealing with family and friends and then the seedy side of your work.Anyway to cut a long story short,i fell in love,he knew what I did I told him straight away.He did not like it but never forced me to stop.It was my own choice and I promised myself if I fall in love I would stop and leave that lifestyle and unfortunately the friends but to be honest you cannot trust anyone.Everyone is out for themselves.So now I have my own apartment,i have a honest job working 40 hours a week standard sh*t really.But I would rather have this life now then the one before.To me love is more important.I know what some of you are thinking how can you have sex with men for money when love is more important?! Well to me that was not love.You know when you find love,it just happens you can't explain it or describe it.It just is.

I know girls who are 40 years old and still doing this sh*t.I could never do that.I have no children,no ties,its just me,but some of these girls do this to feed their kids.At the end of the day you get good or you get bad working girls.To some its just a job and they can stop and move onto the next job or to some its a way of life.

I hope this has helped you see things from a different view...

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

From a woman's point of view, I think that it can be quite intimidating for a man to be with a former porn star. For a man with low or average self esteem, I doubt that dating such a woman would ever happen; however, women know that her past only shaped who she is as a person, and if she feels that a particular man she is seeing loves her and could make her happy for the rest of her life but would not accept her past if she told him, that woman is taking her secret to the grave. So the man who states he could not be with a chic like that, will end up with this girl. Kind of ironic isn't it? It is better to suspend all judgement and accept a person for who they are in the present moment. It is those very experiences that makes you like that woman.

Spicy3197 · Accepted Answer

I am a former sex worker and it has been difficult in my relationships... I dated a guy who said he was OK with my porn and escort past but then would use it against me in a heated argument.
It's also not been easy to get a job, if you google my name some of my porn history comes up (thanks to porn wiki leaks).
I have a bachelors degree and nobody seems to care about that.
So far Iv been stuck at a fast food restaurant and scared anyone will find me out. As soon as one person knows the videos and google searching get spend around. I would love a little bit of respect and to be left alone.

Oddjob · Accepted Answer

The fact that a woman had been a prostitute/porn actress, etc. would not in and of itself, be a disqualifying factor.

I would feel more apprehension about things like:

• Her state of mind currently, whether they had any trauma or other psychological baggage relative to her time in the industry, that impinges on her life today;

• Her family and any childhood influences that contributed to her decision to enter the sex industry

and which might bear on her decision making processes today. I wouldn't start a family with someone who has a casual attitude toward high-risk behavior;

• Any past associations, relationships, acquaiintances formed during her time in the industry - She might not be psychologically unstable, drug-addicted, or involved in organized crime, but there are plenty of people in that industry who are. I don't want them in my life or my family's.

eSHkidd · Accepted Answer

The problem with it is, they've choosen to just give away sex and their body so they can make money. "Alright whatever f*** me, as long as I get paid" I would prefer a woman who has the self-esteem and independance to find a real job, but I'm at least happy that the women have choosen to get out of the sex business.

ryanontario · Answer

i'd in all honestly have to say no , that I wouldn't consider marrying  such a girl

l-hedoniste · Answer

Where sex is concerned, society is usually a goddamn fool.

I've dated these women. Most of us probably have. If she suspects you'll be a jerk, however, she'll keep the interesting parts of her past to herself, to her grave if she must.

dtaylor31906 · Answer

after a test to make sure they wre clean or watever I would have no promblem lol I mean if I was in lover with them then that's what matter and plus they have skills in the bedroom what's better than that

swizzcris · Answer

Not all of them enter the business for sexually addicted reasons so I would give them a chance they have the right to find true love too right?

blah52 · Answer

I'm not really sure if I'd date one, but marrying one is definitely out of the question. Its not a religious thing or anything like that, I just don't want to go where hundred of other men have gone, sometimes two at a time.

skyrocketbursts · Answer

i would date one but then I am the sort of person that don't judge, people and well I think  she should tell then see if he still loves her after that if the answer is yes then they should be together if the answer is no then she is deluding herself

mittal78 · Answer

I would like to marry a sexworker or a escort

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