Should I just accept that he doesn't like to go down on me?

[MichelleJustAsking]

The few times my SO has gone down on me, he told me that I didn't really smell/taste like anything. I have ALWAYS gone down on him & personally enjoy it & love how it makes him feel. I can count on 1 hand the number of times he's gone down on me. Once after a night out drinking we were having a small argument and I mentioned that he never goes down on me, so he decided to announce: "Do you want to know why I never go down on you? Your vagina smells TERRIBLE." Okay. From a woman's standpoint, that's probably one of the most damaging things you could tell a girl when we already feel the pressure to look and smell perfect 100% of the time. I realize that some times I'm sure it does smell terrible; after working out, no-shower days, sitting on an airplane all day. But I would never let him go down on me if I had a reason to think I smelled. Not only that, but I monitor my own smell. I have great hygeine. I go to the gyno regularly and don't have any infections. I eat super healthy. When I smell myself, it smells like nothing or sometimes like Elmer's glue depending on my cycle. Should I just accept that he's grossed out by the smell of vagina? I mean, I'm grossed out by the thought of swallowing so I don't do that. I just don't know where to go from here. I did express my feelings the next day and how hurt I was. Although he was listening and soaking it all in, he never has apologized for that comment nor has he attempted to go down on me. I have made it very obvious I'm putting in more effort by eating a lot of pineapple (I've heard that helps). This occurred over a month ago and has really been eating away at me that he hasn't apologized, nor attempted to go down on me. Aside from this single issue, everything else in our life/relationship is beyond amazing. I'm wondering if I just let this go and accept it or if there is an appropriate way to revisit it without causing more damage.

[FakeName123]

Maybe go to a doc and let yourself getting checked. If your smell is really quite strong and your boyfriend isn't known to have a very sensitive nose there might be something off.

Aside from that now to the key part. There seems to be a key issue between the two of you in terms of communication as well as the giving and taking process. You should take a step back and look at your relationship as a whole with all the goods and bads and how much effort each puts into it, etc.

[MichelleJustAsking]

I have been to the gyno and she said nothing is wrong and even she can't smell anything. I know I don't have a strong scent because I'll check myself and it literally doesn't have a smell. Of course, if I'm sitting all day traveling and I have swamp-ass, then of course it doesn't smell great LOL.

[ArrowheadSW]

Well I'm just thinking he might be a bit inhibited. I think when I was younger I wasn't so inclined to do that because I didn't feel I knew enough about what I was doing. At my point in life now I really have a craving to go down on a woman. I just need to get a girlfriend. LOL...

[TinyDancingBean]

Pineapple juice improves the smell and taste I'd suggest drinking some everyday to solve your little problem

[MichelleJustAsking]

I feel like no one is actually reading my question, because I already said I eat Pineapple daily.

[bryon]

Not tone crass or make a tender spot more sore but have you tried using any type of douch before y'all get frisky

[MichelleJustAsking]

I was told by my doctor that you're not supposed to douche. It alters your vagina's pH and can become a breeding ground for bacteria.

[bryon]

I had never heard that before , I'll keep that in mind

[MichelleJustAsking]

I think older generations were told to do that, but now doctors are finding out that it can cause more harm than good. The vagina is self-cleaning and the pH is supposed to be slightly acidic to kill the bad bacteria and prevent infections. When you douche, it alters the pH and makes room for yeast infections and bacterial infections that really DO smell terrible. Knock on wood, I've never suffered a yeast infection or vaginal infection.

[ethanallen]

Wanting your partner to go down on you is perfectly reasonable especially since you are so generous sucking his cock and you enjoy it. I do think you husband was terribly unkind with his remarks. Sexuality and our bodies are sensitive matters. We hope that the ones we will be intimate with will treat us with dignity and respect. I have two suggestions; one is easy, the other difficult. First the easy one. This may be too much information but if you are having sex after you get home from work, you may not be as clean as your partner would like. Have you ever taking a shower before sex so that you smell amazing when he goes down on you? The other way is to find a man who you respect and trust who will have oral sex with you. Ask his opinion afterwards. I have married women friends who I have known for many years. If any one of them came to me and asked for a one time sexual encounter, I would do it out of friendship and a lifetime of affection. Lastly, I hate to go here because I don't have much information but don't rule out the possibility that your husband is a closeted gay man. Married gay men are so far in the closet that their wives never know. I have had sex with more married men than single men. Most times, they stay married for their careers and kids. The husband never wants to stop cumming in my mouth though.

[ethanallen]

Your doctor is 100% correct. Do not douche.

[Keruso]

Wow he's harsh... I can imagine a penis doesn't fucking taste like candy. Tell your boyfriend to get lost. Problem solved.

[MichelleJustAsking]

Well... he doesn't smell or taste like anything. He's also my husband, sooooo... I'm not letting him go anywhere. It's actually a relationship I want to work on so it lasts.

[ethanallen]

I have sucked a lot of guys cocks and never thought any of them tasted bad. I thought it was awesome.

[Nomad69]

Sounds like my ex girlfriend she had a really hairy vag I couldn't go down on her for more than 5 minutes cause do to allergies and her hair tickling my nose it felt like I was suffocating when I went down on her

[re-pete]

If he doesn't like going down on you, and it grosses him out that you smell and taste bad, there isn't much you can do. He isn't magically going to say yes, and you're going to feel bad when he tells you the truth again.

Best just to accept that it isn't going to happen, and move on.

[TheRealQuestion]

Promise/demand equal oral, no more, no less. One for one.

[Polocrew]

Yoi feel pressure cos u pressurize yourself lol

Go 69 OP

[Anonymous]

vaginas are disgusting. if they were natural food they'd be hanging down from trees or something... .

[ethanallen]

Dude, are you gay?