My boyfriend bought me a viberator, He wants me to let him watch what should I do?

[Anonymous]

We have been going out for about 3 monthes all we have done is make out. He knows I play withmyself and one day we were talking and somehow a viberator came into convo and were joking. He knows I don't want to let him touch me and I don't want to touch him and I want to keep my virginity. We were at the mall walking around and there's a store caleld spencers and they sell viberators and some clothes an belts an puzzles etc. He spend almost 200 bucks on 3 of them he wants me to use them in front of him. Should I or shouldnt I.

[nightlifelover]

Only do it if you are completely comfortable with it. My girlfriend has a vibrator and she absolutely loves it. Sometimes she will use it in front of me and let me watch. So one time she was doing it in front of me while I watched but this time I just couldn't help it and pulled out my **** and began masturbating too. She was surprised at first, but then got into it. Within minutes, we both came at the same time. So now, its customary that I will watch her use her vibrator and masturbate. Sometimes she gives me head while she uses it. We always have this goal to finish at the same time. Its pretty hot, I suggest you try it when you're good and ready.

[TheAnswerer]

I totally agree with Arizona RX. If I were you, I would set some rules , but I would let him masturbate too. Rules:

1-) You will always be at least 5 feet apart from each other all the time.

2-) No cameras, voice recorders, etc.

3-) If one of you wants to stop, the other person will NOT pressure one to keep going.

4-) If any of these rules are violated, it is game over and it is a clear sign that the violator is an untrustable person.

Under these rules, you two can watch each other masturbate and not have any problems, right?

[Gianni]

what are you comfortable with? if yu have a religious belief that yu think will influence yur decision then don't do it...sex is supposed to be with someone special...take it from me when I tell yu that if yu start compromising yur beliefs now then yu will just continue to compromise until yu've lost sight of where you were going. and if this guy really cares about yu then he will get it, he'll be disappointed but he'll understand

[lafeeverte]

bottom line: if you feel comfortable with it, then go for it. maybe you want to try it out by yourself at first, and then when you're fine with that you can let him watch... it says you're under 18 and I don't know how old exactly you are but you may just not be ready, and that's okay, he should respect your boundaries if you say no.

[XxSaMeEeX]

Coming from a girl who has never masturbated before and never will, I wouldn't do it. the first time you shove anything up your vagina should be when you lose your virginity to the man you love, not to a toy. P.S I'm not trying to disrespect people who masturbate, I'm catholic and as a catholic its wrong..so I apologize if I do.

[12345]

I'm not trying to be rude, I'm just curious, but what does the catholic religion say is wrong with masturbating? like, what are the reasons for it being wrong?

[lele745]

How can it be wrong to touch your own body... babys do it... I learned in my health class that people discover there genitals verry young as young as 6 mnths old. I'm sorry I just don't get why god would say its wrong to touch ure own body.

[XxSaMeEeX]

Sexual intercourse is something special between to people who are married and in love. It is supose to be a beautiful thing and a gift between to people from God. When we become more in love with the gift then sharing it with someone, it becomes dirty and "unclean". An old definition of masturbation is self abuse. God cares about what we do to our bodies.

[royalwalter3]

Idk about all the god stuff but your answer is wonderful and sweet I wish there was a lot more girls like you on this planet

[XxSaMeEeX]

Haha thank you. that's very nice of you

[kittycat933]

Ha! I wish there were more GUYS like that on this planet! :)

[kittycat933]

It's entirely up to how you feel about it. If you are not comfortable, then you don't do it! If you think you might be okay with it, then you could just use it first and get used to it, then let him watch.. But once again, don't do it if you don't want to - don't do it just for him.

[enigma2win]

Very clever manipulation tactic, or is it?

Dont compromise ur beliefs for any guy my dear.

The day you let a guy manipulate u, is the day you get used. The day a guy wants to manipulate u, is the day you discover he doesn't care about you or respect you.

So what should you do?

I think you know the answer to that.. ;)

[saphirasilverwings]

If you want to you should. If you feel uncomfortable about it for any reason you shouldn't. No one can make that decision for you.

He should have asked you BEFORE spending the money, so don't do it out of guilt about that. It's your choice and he has no right to expect you to do something you don't feel comfortable with. If he complains or tries to persuade you, he isn't respecting your feelings.

[ankurunderdog]

You Should'nt he must respect ur feeling and situation I think that he feels if you use viberator in front of him den you m8t get aroused & end up doing sex wid him.or maybe he is just eager to know sumthing about u.in anyway he shud not disrespect u,if you feel its not r8t just don't do it.

if he respects you and loves u,he'll value ur decision.If he feels bad den give him a kiss & tell him to wait for sometime till you are ready,of course he will wait till you say,if he loves and respects U.

[ArizonaRX]

It all depends on how comfortable you are with this guy watching you masturbate. I've made it clear that you don't want him to touch you and you don't want to touch him, so what is left? Allowing him to watch you masturbate while he does what? (Pulls up a seat and pops a bag of popcorn?)

I mean if you like this guy enough and would feel comfortable with him watching and think it's right for the relationship at this point, you should lay down the guidelines first before letting him watch.

"If I let you watch, there will be no attempts at helping me, touching me, touching you etc... There will be no iphones or video cameras or audio recording devices..." - Also decide if you'd like or allow him to masturbate with you. Because I'll tell you one thing, MONKEY SEE, MONKEY DO... It's almost going to be a natural instinct for him to participate.

If you don't want to let him watch, tell him you appreciate the gift, use it in private and tell him, sorry, I'm not ready for that.

[ArizonaRX]

Typo - YOU'VE MADE IT CLEAR

[joraz]

Don't do ANYTHING that you're uncomfortable with...EVER!

[setcheck67]

I'm sorry can you say that again? I got all confused when a girl apparently doesn't like the concept of giving herself orgasms. Why is it really an issue? There is no consequences FOR using the vibrator, but a possible consequences not using it. After all he spent this money for you to pleasure yourself and you merely throw it back in his face that won't make him very happy.

[royalwalter3]

I believe the gift was more to pleasure himself through her masturbation comes his masturbation

[setcheck67]

Irregardless there are no possible consequences for her using a vibrator so there is no reason not to.

[hugytd]

I find this rude. She obviously doesn't want to use them, that's why she's on here. giving her the option that there's no consequences isn't even close. she'd be going against what she wants for some perv that want to see her get off. which is probably what you'd do with your girlfriend.

[setcheck67]

No I'm not the type of guy that loves to watch... I mean sure I enjoy a good start of her rubbing herself before we get to it, because that's hot.

[SCU2013]

just make sure you are confident. and just act like you know what ur doing. I can understand it can be awkward especially since you haven't really done anything. but whatever you want. don't let him put you up to it if you don't want to

[katiesmuff]

Yes go ahead let him watch you. Maybe you can get him to work it into you after you get use to it. Great turn on for him and maybe he will masturbate for you. If you like him let him see your pu**y!

[MrWizard]

That would be like covering yourself in honey, jumping into the bear cage at the zoo, and hoping the bear wouldn't eat you.

Don't put yourself into situations that will very likely lead to compromising the lines you have drawn.

[fezmonki]

Letting a guy watch while masturbating is good.

A guy making a virgin, that doesn't really want to, do it, is bad.

Dont.

[oceanavenue]

You seem unsure about it and uncomfortable. Don't do it. If he really loves you, he'll love you regardless.

[MsNikki_Nicole]

yeah but not all the time it'll get old and he'll want more..(my thoughts)you should if your comfortable enough to do it..if your not then you shouldn't its up to you not us you know its on how you feel

[Reginelli]

Just depends on what you are comfortable with. If you are not ready for all that and not comfortable with doing that in front of him then you shouldnt do it. Just go with what you feel, but he can't expect you to do it in front of him just because he knows that you play with yoursef.

[JustHateTheGame]

well I don't think you should break your hymen with a vibrator, stimulate the outside maybe, but most importantly DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO. I don't even consider a girl my girlfriend if we never had sex, and I would never wait three months so he must really dig you or have no game whatsoever. you don't even give him head or jerk him off?! this guy is a total girl for putting up with that crap. and 200 bucks for vibrators? that's freaking ridiculous he should've bought some jewelry or earrings, pearls or sexy lingerie with that money. but seriously what should you do? c'mon DO WHAT YOU WANT.

[royalwalter3]

The only half way intelligent thing you said was do what you want

[Loveisall700]

Which clearly she doesn't WANT this as she stated. If you don't consider a girl ur girl until you have sex.....u don't deserve to have any girl.

[snowlfak3]

use it in front of him. what will happen? he get's fun out of watching you pleasure yourself, there's nothing wrong with tht.

[jacquesvol]

(Age:Under 18)

"I don't want to let him touch me and I don't want to touch him and I want to keep my virginity."

Tell him to get lost.

[sm_vt]

well, guys do find it really hot, but from making out to that, I don't think so, I personally think cross the other stepping stones first

[marcsk8ter121]

I gotta be honest, this is pretty funny but what you can do is turn the vibrater on and ram it right up his ass and ask him how it feels then stick it in his mouth and say tonight we're doing facials! Then bring the vibrater to the sex shop and say, "I wore it out, can I please have another one?"

[mischiefmouth69]

If you are comfortable with it and feel like you would enjoy it, do it. I know it'd be a great turn-on for me to see something like that. But if not, thank him for the present but tell him you're not ready to share your solo experiencs yet. Maybe fantasize about being watched (by your boyfriend, who will presumably jerk off while watching) the next few times you use them, and see if it enhances or detracts from the experience.

[DezziDarling]

I WOULD not. that is just perverted and discusting at the same time. that is crazy. Do what you want and don't let him make you do anything you don't want to do.