Ok, so I just met a long distance boyfriend for the 1st time and .... ORAL too much, too soon? HELP!! lol

[Anonymous]

OK, so I've been talking to this GREAT guy that I'm madly in love with for just over 21 months. We currently live on opposite sides of the country so its hard to meet up but we finally did! I saw the love of my life in person for the first time and now I am even more in love with him, which I didn't think was even possible. We talk everyday by phone of text, all throughout the day. We tell each other everything and have been officially boyfriend/girlfriend for 11.5 months =) He came all the way to NY from FL alone just to see me and we stayed together for 5 days. I can tell he really does love me by his actions, the way he talks to me, how he kissed and caressed me. I'm 19 and he gave me my first kiss (and about a million more lol) and he constantly repeated to me how beautiful and sexy I am. He paid for everything (flight, hotel, every time we went out - he didn't let me pay for anything even though I begged to lol) and even bought me a necklace. We were serious before we met but now we're talking about him coming to live all the way in NY just to be with me =), hopefully by this summer. He was so sweet to me and he's smart and funny and caring. He's great! I love everything about him and he made me feel so loved =) He kissed me so gently and passionately and comforted me when I cried on his shoulder because I didn't want him to leave, telling me everything was going to be ok and that we'd be together soon. His eyes even got watery, too. I really do think this is my soul mate, he's the one I'm meant to be with now and forever. He's my other half. I'm madly in love with him, he's on my mind day and night. And I really do think he's feeling the same way about me. He just makes me so good. He makes me happy, he understands me. He has a good head on his shoulders. He's perfect! =) So yeah, to the the point lol I think you get that we're madly in love with each other by now =) But yeah, he stayed over four nights, the last two of which I slept with him at the hotel (NO SEX THOUGH, JUST SLEEPING .. and cuddling =) Well, that's not exactly true lol We gave each other oral, and it was great. He was so gentle and caring and he told me he loved me so many times and he held me tight in his arms. He fed me, he played with my hair, he looked me in the eyes and told me he loved me. BUT, MY QUESTION IS, do you think we went too fast? He's my first real boyfriend, he gave me my first kiss so, was oral and sleeping together too much, too soon? And also, what do you think of our story? 21 months and counting with everyday communication all throughout the day. Almost a year official. Do you think he loves me? Really love me? And also, have you ever been in a LDR? Did it work? Any advice? Oh, and we are both virgins, if that makes a difference lol Thanks, and sorry if I sound too, well, jumpy lol I'm just so happy! Thanks! =)

[achope246]

Well, let me start by saying I'm a bit older than you, and things were different when I was 19. Never would I have kissed someone for the first time, and then given or received oral or had sex during the same weekend, no matter how long we had been talking/dating. I've been in three relationships - none of which I even kissed on the first date. I also consider oral sex to be just as (if not more) intimate than sex, and in my relationships didn't happen until the same time or after "regular" sex. But like I said, things are different now, so you definitely want the opinion of someone closer to your age.

That being said, it seems to me like he really cares for you. I don't think he would invest so much time and money in your relationship and the trip if he didn't.

I've never really been in a long distance relationship, unless you consider a 6 hour drive long distance, lol. My high school boyfriend and I went to different colleges, and we saw each other almost every weekend. We were together 5 years total, but it ended up not working out. He did cheat on me several times, which he confessed to after we broke up (I was 20 when we broke up, he was 21.) Every guy is different, so I can't speak for yours. Best of luck!

[silvak]

well quite a story there I have been in a long distance relationship for about a year and a half now and we live a bit closer so I see her about every couple months. I don't think that you move to quickly since you dint stay the night the first few nights. you guys have been talking very well I think you deserve the chance to show physically that you mean somthing to eachother. which you did so there is nothing wrong with what you guys did at all.

hope this helped!

[Professor_Zoom]

Honestly, it sounds way overdue lol. I don't think that he's judging you or anything like that. So, don't worry about . I hope everything works out.