Younger guys and older women?

I asked a question on here before commenting on how younger guys hit on me. I am 33. Someone answered that younger guys will f*** anything. I work hard on my body and appearance and always took it as a compliment when men 10 years younger then me showed interest. So my question is it true will younger men hit on anyone they think they can get into bed? Does it not matter what she looks like?


Most Helpful Guy

  • That's not 100% true.

    Speaking as a guy, and from what I know about other guys.

    * When we're young boys (say 13) see any hole, animal mineral or vegetable, as a potential partner. "Ohh look a vaccuum cleaner / knot in a tree / slightly curved rock / good god a GIRL!"

    * When we get a tad older (say 15) we loose the mineral and vegetble bits, and start to focus on any girl or our hands.

    * By the time were 18, we'll have developed some "preferences", but it still tends to be pretty flexible.

    * By say 25, whilst you will have distinct preferences, say an age preference, there's certainly flexibility and examples still break it.

    Give you an example. I'm 29, but I have no shame in saying that I still find Meryl Streep good looking, and for that matter Jane Seymor. (I have a long term girlfriend). A good friend of mine is 27 and he has a wife and kid, but on his 'safe' list is Sharon Stone.


    The funny thing is, 33 just isn't "old" anyway. When I was a teenager one of the hottest women was Diane Lane. When I saw Judge Dredd I thought she was sex on legs. She was 30 (I think) at the time.

    This is a good thing for you. If your 33 and attracting comments from 23yr olds, it's not the "milf" crowd your getting... it's the "damn she's hot wonder if I can bed her" crowd.

    Enjoy it.

    • So what if you are 33yrs old and guys as younger as highschoolers are after you, and a 19yr old wants to be in a relationship with you and have babies with you, even though you have a 15yr old and 13yr old? is that MILF attraction only or can he really be into her?

    • The point was that I was trying to make is that the MILF attraction and the whole MILF craze isn't so much as "anyone" that's a mother, but moreso "old enough to be MY mother" (according to the guy). That is, for me, a good looking work collegue that's a mother isn't a "milf" to me, she's simply a hot woman I know. Where as someone like Jane Seymour is old enough to be my mother, yet I find her hot.

      As for ur Q. I highly doubt 33 is 'milf', it's just plain old hot.

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  • An older woman has experience and generally knows what she likes and wants more than a younger woman. If she says yes to having sex with you its assumed she will be more dominant then a younger women will be and if you happen to look young and are older its a fantasy come true. Take note though its a fling thing and not serious to him emotionally.

  • After reading your response to my first answer, you seem sincere and real...when I was a sophomore in College, taking night classes, I met a beautiful RN in one of my classes...that I was immediately attracted to and she was probably ten years older than I. We went out for several months...and she moved to Denver...broke my heart.

    I don't know where some of the comments below originate from: gross ignorance about the subject of older women...this is not 1980, and the "older woman" of today in many cases looks much better than the fat assed men that are 10 or even 20 years younger...I had a woman in my office that I interviewed...and when I saw her birthdate, ( she was near 70 !)

    and didn't have a line on her face...and I'm sure she has a wonderful plastic surgeon...but what the hell...she wouldn't give most of the younger 'toads' a second look.

    I'm guessing, and with good cause, that "Pedroknows" ...below is one of those 'Toads"...

    I wouldn't worry about being 'used' by one of those have enough maturity at this stage to know which dumb ass to stiff arm out of your face and out of your life...

    Enjoy yourself, Cutie...


  • Strange question...I was alway in the opposite position...OLDER women usually make a pass at younger men...that has been my experience...Very odd describe...young men want young women...not OLDER women.

    I have been approached by older women since I was around 20 years old..., I am thinking only a hard pressed younger guy would present himself to an older woman...

    My experience only and ...I have had a few

    Older women want younger men, for obvious reasons...

    Are you just presenting us with an ego illusion here ?



    • I am quite attractive and look much younger then I am so maybe they do not realize they are hitting on someone who is so much older then them. I am not really sure why a woman would want a younger guy. They tend to be very immature and it is all about them most of the time. I would never actually date someone much younger I was just curious is all.

    • You are spot on Bruce - I ama 23yr old guy and I get 40 something women flirting with me all the time - I love it!!

    • Lol. I am hit on constantly by younger men, so I guess it depends on who you are, Bruce.

  • If you've done all this work on your body it's a shame you have such low self-esteem that you need to ask this question. Maybe that's the thing you can work on next.

    Surely by now you know that "younger guys" are as varied in their attitudes as snowflakes (i.e. no two are identical).

    I'm sure there are some that will f*** anything, just as I'm sure that there are others that won't f*** anything because they think it would be disrespectful.

    Pay attention to the individual who is giving you attention and ask yourself what you want in the situation and you won't go wrong.

    • I do not consider myself to have low self-esteem it was more I was just curious then anything.

  • For the most part yes. Since your older, it will seem like nothing more than a conquest for a younger guy to land you. More than likely, it will only be about getting you in bed and live to tell the tale.

  • This is a very broad question, it's hard to answer on behalf of all guys. Yes there are some guys who will hit on anyone they can get into bed with, but there are also those who don't... like me. I leave sex to only the people that I love.

  • for me personally, it's a total TURN ON when older women (like in their 40s) still look hot!

  • im 16 buh if I ever had a chance to hook up with a 33 y.o woman I would..idk why, I just love older women

  • Younger men will generally go after anything that moves, but on the same account they will go more after anything that moves which is beautiful, so if you get lots of attention your work payed off.

  • Yes and no. Men, no matter what age but, particularly when they are young, revert to the basic instinct of race preservation. Meaning, a young man wants to leave his seed in as many places as possible to help the human race thrive.

    On the other hand, if the "older" woman is attractive and he thinks he has ANY possible shot at sleeping with her, yes he will hit on her . It's quite a thing for a young guy to add an older woman to his "conquest " list. She has the experience he does not have, and in knowing this, a young man will "use" her to help in his learning curve. The young man doesn't necessarily have a conscious understanding of this. And on top of the sexual side, there is something of a feeling of stability with an older woman. She has sexual experience as well as life experience.

    On the downside, yes, some guys will fu#& anything. Even a snake if they could hold it still long enough. All in all though, I'd take it more as a compliment than anything.

  • Pedro agrees with the man who says that mens will f*** anything. Even you you wrinkly old hotty.



    PS - Some other mixed up Sheila was asking about some guy called clit who she's been smacking around with belts...

    I bet he'd f*** you.

    • Hey, stupid...........that is probably one of the most idiotic, irresonsible answers I have ever read. Pedro in New Zealand, huh ? Long way from Tijuana.....Pedro

  • Get into bed, get dinner with (yes, dinner), get a date in general, get a smile, get approval, get a flirting buddy, anything like that. it's sort of common for girls my age (20) to constantly stress about what they look like. so when an older woman does it, not only is it sexy because she's older but you're usually wiser as well. I don't know maybe its just me but I like brains as well as body.

    not sure if this is a good example, but just last week we were at lunch and we saw this woman walk in with her little boy. it was a cute baby, and probably because the mother was a fox! so if she's old enough to have a kid, then she's obviously older than me. and she took very good care of herself, I had an instant crush lol

  • Oh it maters all right. When I was 18 I hit on women in their 40's. I was cougar bait at that age. I loved the older women's maturity and depth the way they looked the little wrinkles around the eyes they looked tough and seasoned and like they knew what they were doing. I loved that. Now I'm in my 40's and I can GET women like that so it's worked out pretty well for me.

  • well I'm 21, and personally I only will "hit" on girls that I am attracted to, so no I will not just go for just any girl... although there are a lot of girls I find attractive

    also, just because I find them attractive enough to hit on doesn't mean its someone I want to have something long term with

    ...and there are very few women over 26 that I will bother to hit on, so if I do it probably means you are very attractive and take good care of yourself

    im sure that lots of guys have the same or similar views... so yes keep taking it as a compliment, unless ur just guna tease us cause that's not nice : P

  • kinda it also boiles down to the fact you look some people age dossent matter I find women from 18 to mid to late thirties attractive

  • if they are interested then they are attracted to you and wanna have sex with you or actually wanna have something with you... whenever things start happening make sure the person your with isn't only in it for sex and I'm 21 and I love older women lol

  • It matters to guys what she looks like and if she's a nice person...although if its a booty call then it matters what they look like. Id still like to hook up with an older woman though, as long as she's not to old...the age doesn't really matter, if she's got a nice booty, and nice curves in the right places

  • well some will f*** anything I have friends that f*** fat girls. I tried once but I turns out I can't f*** anything, so I don't try.

  • im 17 and speaking as a younger guy and some of us do have a big preference to who no matter what people may say not all of us will just f*** anything that can walk.

    people must think you are attractive other wise they wouldn't make the comments


  • Well I depends on the guy some of my friends do sleep with every girl they meet, me on the other hand do hit on older and younger women but do not sleep with everyone I meet. And yes looks are important as long as she takes good care of herself. I'd definitely hit on you :)

  • i think your sexy, and I don't just f*** anything. I'd definitely hit on you

  • Naw we only like the attarctive ones.

  • Physical attraction is important, if you are just looking for some fun with no long term prospects enjoy, most young guys want to play the field, you are in your sexual peek, confortable with your body and sexuality so its a perfect match. Some guys will go for anything that moves some don't just depends on the guy...

  • Personally I've always liked older women (make better lovers ;) ) anyway, I don't think that's true about younger men hitting on anyone they think they can have sex with. I was 18 when I had my first older woman experience. She was in her late 30's. WOW! Now I will say from that time on however I did have more of a preference for older women and often and still do hit on them. No so much out of hopes of sleeping with them as it is flirting and appreciating them as mature sexy and the elegance they bring. You're fine...wish I was younger and then I could hit on you ;)


What Girls Said 9

  • I can't think of any logical reason why a young guy wouldn't want to bang an older good looking woman.

  • Yes and no.

    When men are younger they are much more, I don't want to use the word desperate, but...they are more desperate for sex so they are willing to sleep with women they find less attractive cause they just want sex. But on the flip side, younger guys are more focused on appearance than older men. Also, there is a difference between a woman a man just wants to have sex with and a woman a man wants on his arm. Younger guys will sleep with less attractive women but are pickier then older guys about who they want on their arm.

    Younger men are usually drawn to older women because they exude sexuality, not just beauty. That doesn't mean you aren't beautiful, it just means, to a younger guy, your beauty isn't your best feature. With age, women become much more confident in their sexuality and young guys suck that attitude up because women their age aren't as sexual. Or the ones that are come off more slutty then sensual. Older women are more kickback about things which can make for a great sex life for a younger guy. As well as a better life in general if she is kickback in and out of the bedroom.

    My partner is younger than me and his friends that are his age definitely treat me with an odd sense of awe as if I am teaching him things no man has ever known! haha The other half act like they are afraid on me. Like I can see in their souls that they are inexperienced. It's definitely a fascinate experience.

    It's a compliment if a young guy hits on you. They are saying that they see the sensuality in you and they definitely want to get close to it. Because older women can have more baggage or require more than younger women, a guy is far less likely to hit on an older woman unless he is really attracted to her on some level. Simply because his chances of getting her are far less likely. But he is risking it cause he thinks he has a lot of gain if she says yes.

  • I am 38 and my boyfriend is 33, wouldn't have it any other way! I am young at heart and the men my age just can't keep up. More men than you know just don't have the time to be teaching some of these young girls. Not knocking them but some guys (like mines) has been around and has found that older women knows what he needs, emotionally, physically and we can place a mean plate in front of Let it go! Younger doesn't mean anything less than older...Ty_lady!

  • Most guys don't care. I've been hit on by mostly younger guys also. Just means you take good care of yourself.

    • You are 22............what do you mean "younger" guys..............High School ?

  • i never heard of that before. I did hear though that women are at there "peak" in having sex in their early 30's and guys early 20's

    so it might be true, but I depends on the guys personality and how he see's that stuff.

    for example...

    my brother was talking to his best friend who is a girl and she was saying "I hate it when guys act all sweet to you and go out with you and stuff, but then they really just want to get head, you know?" and my brother was just like "uh no Emma 'cas I'm not a perve and a jerk haha." so I really depends on the guy

    • ..................their "peak" .............not there "peak"............stay in school......... you advice to this thirty three year old woman is directly from your Sophomore English class ?

    • I mean from "your" Sophmore english class.

    • No it wasn't from my "sophomore english class"

      the example was just an example but I didn't hear the whole "peak" thing from school

  • It is rare in the case of younger guys to stay on in a relation with older woman. You can expect them to move in and out. Only brutes go after everything taht moves around. People do pay attention to your person, persona and personality. A guy insensitive to these is no better than a vibrator. Rather worse than it. If you just want sex go ahead with everyone.

  • hhhmm, I'm getting close to 30 these days, and I also have the (slightly) younger male contingency hitting on me (19-24 year olds mostly) as a general rule.

    my boyfriend is 2yrs younger. the ex 3 years younger, and the ex ex 5yrs younger.

    my male friends all say that in 10yrs time, I'll still have the young boys hitting on me.

    lelebear - it's bs. it's not just about hitting anything that moves for the younger guys. well, not necessarily anyway. I think the question should be: the 1s that hit on you, do you ever allow them in, and do they pursue a relationship?

  • I am 36 now in my 20's older men hit on me not I get older I have noticed that its ALL younger men! Guys my own age or older do not hit on me...only 20 something guys! Its so weird! I get told all the time by women and men I should be a model so I am attractive..but why the younger guys hitting on me ...I don't understand that either...I mean 22 and 23 year olds too...ummm I am 36! Weird!

    • Funny! I've noticed that the majority are young that go after me too now. I'm 33yrs old and I'm involved with my first cougarish relationship......19yrs old and 33 years old. we are going on 7mo. he intentionally got me pregnant, but I got rid of it, he is mad about it, but I feel its to soon cause I don't know what's going to happen between us longterm. now he keeps tryin to get me pregnant again, says he loves me and wants to spend forever with me, but I don't know because the odd 4 this age are 2 low.

  • In my experience, I think younger guys hit on older women for the challenge, not to say that they may not be genuinely interested. I think looks have a lot to do with it. Even if they are just looking for a one night stand most of them still have standards. I think you should still take the majority of them as compliments. I'm older and it makes me feel great when a younger man finds me attractive.