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Small boobs make me feel ugly and unattractive...help...very depressed.

I have always been small breasted but at age 35 and after 2 kids I feel so unattractive with my 34-B's. My boyfriend of a year and a half has never once complimented them, he hardly ever touches them, and doesn't offer to remove my shirt before sex. I am considering breast implants. I am 130 lbs, 5'4", blond hair, blue eyes, tanned, but SMALL deflated boobs. I am miserable, I feel like less than a woman, and I feel like dying because my Boyfriend has never said he likes them, even if I make comments about how deflated my boobs are and how unattractive I feel, he says nothing at all. One night in bed I took my own shirt off and asked him after sex if my boobs were enough for him and all he could say is "yeah they're fine" and he didn't even touch them when he said it. Should I have breast implants or feel like a piece of junk because I can never be considered hot or beautiful due to my B cups. Please guys, give me your honest opinion on the importance of breast size. Because my Boyfriend stares at girls with nice plump breasts.
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well, I finally started 2 feel better about myself. I told my Boyfriend I decided not 2 get breast implants.He didn't comment so I asked him what he thought about me the way I am. He said I was fine like I am but he would like 4 me to get implants :(
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i feel like dying. I feel so pathetic and unworthy.Even after I have told him the dangers of the surgery, he says he would like for me to do it. My heart hurts so bad right now that I can't breath.
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  • I agree 100% that tv, movies, advertising places way more importance on boobs than reality. It's so bad that it actually leads women to believe that a man's attraction to her is completely conditional upon her breast size and I find that both appalling and sad that so many beautiful girls are convinced they are ugly because they don't have large boobs. Boobs are only part of the equation and for most guys they are far from a deal breaker. A hot girl that's an A cup is still a hot girl. An ugly girl with Ds is still ugly.

    I find the best way to explain it is this: A woman's breast size is as important to a man as a man's penis size is to a woman. How many guys do you see on the board that say they feel like less of a man because they think they are small. And how do you ladies feel when you read that? As a woman does your attraction to a man hinge on the size of his junk? Probably not. Well guys are like that with boobs. The two are directly analogous.

    In reality we are much harder on our bodies than the opposite sex. The media sells us the idealized version of what we are attracted to. In other words, if you had your druthers and could pick every feature down to the smallest detail yes maybe we would choose larger boobs and you women probably would go for a larger penis too. But they're like optional features on a car: It's nice that it has the 6 disc cd changer but if the car sucks you still won't buy it.

    Large boobs attract attention because they're large. They stand out. They cry out to us "hey look at me!". For a woman, imagine if all guys had a stark erection 24/7 and all the guys you see walking around the mall are pitching a tent. Maybe that's not quite the same but it's all I can think of. Anyways the point is: you're going to notice. So whether you're a guy or a girl being well endowed is nice but consider it as the icing on the cake, not the cake itself.

    I don't think your boyfriend understands how much this is bothering you and I do think he should be more supportive. He sounds more oblivious than turned off. But implants are something I don't endorse. Are you going to feel better when you get them and guys start staring while you know that you're still the same person?

    I think you and your boobs have a lot of making up to do. Not only is it cheaper than surgery but in the end it's the right thing to do. The best thing to do about your insecurities is to face them head on and work through the emotions. To get surgery is just to run from them.

  • No. Curves definitely look good on a woman, but overall breast size does not matter. You should not feel bad for having small breasts. What really matters is how good your vagina is. A girl with small breasts could definitely rock my world in bed and that's all I care about when it comes to sex. I think fake breasts are kind of a turn off. I would rather have a girl with small breasts that gives me good sex than a girl with big breasts that is no good in bed. Breasts have no impact on a mans overall sexual satisfaction in bed. That's the case with me. I think you are being way too over self conscious of your body. I have a breastbone that protrudes out a little bit (kind of like Michael Phelps) and I learned to not give a fuck. It took me a long time to get to that place mentally though. Best of luck to you.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Wow...your boyfriend sounds like a real DICKHEAD! I know how you feel though when it comes to boobs. I wish mine were bigger. I'm a B-cup as well. I can wear some C-cups but mainly stick with B-cups. Anyways I've been dating this guy for almost a year and he absolutely loves my boobs! I think he likes my boobs more than my butt and I think I have a better butt. I usually say, "What I lack up here I make up for down here!" Anyways the point that I'm trying to make is that guys actually do like small breasts. I know it's hard to believe sometimes but it's true. Honestly sometimes I think women with smaller boobs sometimes have prettier faces than women with big boobs.

    Furthermore, you shouldn't get implants just for your boyfriend. If you're going to get them then you should get them for yourself. Get them to make YOU happy! Besides your boyfriend should already love you for who youi are. He shouldn't ask you to change yourself. He should go out of his way to make you feel beautiful! Obviously though he doesn't. I truly believe you should dump his SORRY BUTT! From what it sounds like he sounds like the type of guy who cheats and goes to strip joints. If he wants to go after big boobed floozeys then let him have at it! He'll end up screwing her and wake up the next day and notice she's gone. More than likely, she'll be screwing someone else, and he'll think to himself, "man I wish I had stayed with my girlfriend! Sure she didn't have big boobs but at least she didn't treat me like crap!"

  • Sounds like you need a better boyfriend. I also have small breasts, but there are more important things to a person than the size of their chest fat deposits. If he was genuine when he said they were fine, he would have looked at you and been reassuring. Sounds like he is very shallow and not worth your time. A real man will love breasts no matter what size, because they are on a woman. If your boyfriend is staring at other women's chests, that's your problem. Get rid of him. I have A cups and I feel disappointed at times too, but there are other things you can do to improve your image. Work on your hair, the way you dress, and most importantly- work out for a sexy body. Look at fashion models, they have no chest but many men would love to be with them.

    Only get breast implants for yourself, whether it be to give you more confidence or to make yourself happy. DO NOT do it for him or anyone else in your life: they do not own you and your life is not centered around their happiness. Breasts implants come with very many health risks and they could come out looking fake or bad.

    • Not to sound rude but you're 21 and she's 35 with 2 kids. Her small breasts and yours will not look the same.

  • Do not get breast implants!! Human body try to push out anything that is not supposed to be there. It might look good maybe ( doubtful ), they will horrible absolutely after 5 and 10 an 20 years. look up breast implants they only show when it is just done and look kinda good but try to look up after years and years later picture if you can find. I discourage you with my passion!!!

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  • 34B? Small? I'll trade you.

    Just kidding. I'm a lot smaller than 34B, I'm like a AA...it's hard to find clothes that fit me, especially brassieres, but other than that, I'd rather be flat than huge-chested.

    As my sister says, "When you get old, you'll still be perky while they're tucking their boobs into their socks."

  • Um B cups are normal sized, I'm a 32A if you don't like your B cups we can trade.

  • This is so depressing to read. Hits close to home.

    • Clearly your testament that boobs don't make a women attractive. clearly :) You have qualities that count for much more

    • @TripleAce when you lack in looks, you have to make it up somehow right? lol Thank you.

    • Wow lol you and your snarky comments, we're the men here lol we do the judging ;) you just sit back and relax señorita

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  • He does not support you. He does not console you. He does not care about the dangers of surgery. His presence makes you feel unworthy. He takes you for granted. He selfishly wants to mold you in his dream image through surgery.

    He is a jerk and you should leave him. How can you even imagine marrying him for the rest of your life?

  • you shouldn't feel depressed sister... small boobs can be eqally attractive with bigger boobs. you shouldn't worry :-)

  • I never like for my friend to take her shirt off simply because boobs look great when they're colorful. Polka dots, pinstripes, plaid, and good old solids. I never met a pair of boobs I didn't like. My apologies Asker, I realize this response is probably not helpful but you sound so disconsolate that I felt compelled to respond. I would suggest that perhaps the problem lies not within you but instead with your @sshole boyfriend.

  • It's not because your chest is unattractive but you chose the wrong man to be with that doesn't appreciate your form.

  • i only read the title but I just want to pitch in my 2 cents:

    personally, girls with small to almost non existing t*ts are the hottest and makes me go nuts.

    • Are you sure ?? Why do guys stare at big boobs so much then ? I'm just curious....LOL. Are you being honest or just trying to make me feel better ?

    • I can possibly be anymore honest and truthful. idk, some guys do like big boobs and that's why they stare at them? I just know I like small ones, nothing is finer. plus girls with big boobs tend to have big and nasty nipples, and nothing is grosser.

    • I meant to say "i can't possibly be anymore honest and truthful"*

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  • all i can say is, many people have regretted plastic surgery

  • You sound like a cute little blonde to me! I LOVE small boobs on a woman

  • Who cares just love yourself and your body. But maybe he's an Ass man or something though. But your boyfriend should give some kind of answers and you should ask questions directly and clear. But you sound fine to me I'd be fine because if I like you then I like you

  • For a long time I had small breasts also, mine were A cup. So I can understand how you feel.

    But, then all of a sudden when I got older they swelled to a C cup.

    As for a B cup, I think that's a wonderful size!

  • He doesn't say anything about them because he doesn't wanna lie through his teeth. It's clear that he doesn't fancy them. If you want surgery and you think this will end your nightmares, go for it. You only live once, just do it if you want to.

  • I love small breasts..34 b or c is a perfect size

  • you sound hot milf :)

  • Small breasts are attractive in my mind and comfortable.. You no need to worry

  • Don't feel bad sometimes you know they say more than a mouthful is a waste

  • omg, get a new boyfriend! I have negative A cup size after 3 kids. I would kill for your size B's! I can't even find clothes that will fit me anymore because there is too much space in the top part of the shirts where the boobs should be! Talk about wanting to die! Yet my husband loves me for who I am. He loves my spirit. We are not our bodies, they are temporary housing for our spirits which will live on forever.

  • how sad. I had implants about 15 years ago. I wish I never had them. they are big and makes me look fat. also takes away from the length of my torso. anyway, small boobies are very cute and "in style" now. don't do it because you think your boyfriend doesn't like your boobies. you will regret it later if that is the reason. it sounds as if your boyfriend is not very passionate and as if he doesn't take time to make you feel like the beautiful woman that YOU ARE! from the little you have mentioned about your relationship, I would say that you guys will not be together forever. BELIEVE me...men love little boobies. BIG BOOBS are just that - BIG. they are not what you think they will do for you. I say MOVE ON to a man that will CHERISH you and your body!

  • hey I'm 17 and I feel the same way:( I can't get a boyfriend and I feel ugly and I think I'm ugly. every other girl have bigger boobs them me I'm a 32 B :(.. even smaller then you.. I want to get boob implants because I don't even have an ass.. if you don't have one your supossed to have the other right? well I don't I'm a size 0 in pants and weigh 108 lbs .. I feel gross :(

    • Trust me with this, just wear a tight black dress next time ur out and you'll get attention from guys if u look confident. Even the smallest of frames look good in a lbd!

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