Do girls usually orgasm during one night stands?

[Anonymous]

I know this sounds stupid, but I'm just wondering since the guy is probably focused on trying to get himself off and doesn't give a shit about the girl he's screwing. I also can't cum through penetration only unless I'm receiving some sort of clitorial stimulation whether it's directly or indirectly. My question is, Do girls usually stimulate themselves to orgasm during a one night stand or is the guy usually generous enough to do it for them? Or do you use a certain position that guarantees an orgasm? Please share.

[ccp16]

I actually wonder this myself... I could not imagine having sex with a girl and not trying to get her off too. Even in relationships, I usually get my GFs off by hand or mouth and then have sex right after, or do this right after I came. The only times I have gotten a girlfriend off with out any other stimulation, is the alternative missionary, or from behind and I reached around and helped lol

I only ever had one ONS and I had sex first, came and then got her off by hand (oral seems risky on a ONS). She seemed shocked and said usually she has to get herself off... I feel like I am in between though... I am selfish enough to take care of myself (afraid she might not want to keep going after she cums), and then her- but I would always put the effort in at least.

[i1T2daty]

The ones that I have had the fortune to have a 1 nite or shorter stand all have. I enjoy a woman's arousal and orgasm too much to forgo that. It's even more exciting when you are hearing her and know it's probably the only time. I get turned on listening to audio files of girls coming. W/o that, I'm just jerking off using someone else's body.

[BuchitaBuchys]

I've legit always wondered this. It's one of the reasons I tell women specifically to avoid them at all costs.

Like, I know my exes had trouble getting me off and that's that they somewhat cared about me and my pleasure (my second ex definitely did and he definitely delivered). I cannot imagine a guy I've just met giving a crap if I orgasm.
I've spoken to friends who've done it, and many are selfish lovers.
I'd rather masturbate than have even mediocre sex.

My conclusion despite never have done it, not worth the time. He gets pleasure while you get blue walls and possibly a disease.

[WillowTree]

Not going to lie, it's hard finding a guy who isn't selfish in bed for a one night stand. Like you said they're just in it to get themselves off and don't care if you're getting pleasure out of it. No matter how horny I am I avoid ONS just because of this. Waste of effort. Waste of time.

[Asker]

Why do you think some girls like them so much?

[WillowTree]

Could be several different reasons. They're young and lead with sex to try and get a boyfriend. They're looking for a friends with benefits. They just want someone to touch their body or feel another persons body on theirs. They just want to play the field (lady playa). They're addicted to sex. They're secretly making a living off of it. Etc...

[Red_Arrow]

Or... they actually orgasm from them.

[Asker]

@Red_Arrow Who do you think puts in the effort to make the girl reach the big o in ONS?

[Cmasterson]

I think regardless of the situation, when it comes to sex the girls will be trying to get off and both parties will want to give and receive pleasure.

[Tdieseler]

What makes you think the guy is focused on getting only himself off... i can't speak for other guys but thats not a very smart ploy.

[Asker]

I'm just guessing. If you don't have feelings for someone, I doubt you give a damn as to whether they got off or not.

[Tdieseler]

Its more likely that i wouldn't care if someone i had feelings (and vice versa) for didn't get off... due to feelings, it can be tried again and again until they do... BUT if it were a stranger, i'd try harder because if i wanted them to come back, it would be smarter to give them a reason to right? leave em wanting more? Yes, i know i have a twisted way of thinking... i don't follow the norm.. too boring.

[Mateus1]

Feelings and sex are two different things in mans brain.

[Tdieseler]

@Mateus1 ... but they are one and the same with most women eh lol

[OlderAndWiser]

I had a few ONS when I was much younger and I was as concerned abut getting her off as I was concerned about myself. A lady is always a better partner for me when I am a better partner for her.

[Seawoman1]

the person you were having sex with only cared about their needs and not yours there's nothing wrong with you except the asshole you had sex with

[JuicyBrain]

There are very selfish men. Is it ok? No.
I think he should make an effort and try to please her. You have to tell him how you need to be pleased though. You can't expect a one time partner to know everything about how to get you off...

[AleDeEurope]

Every one night stand girl I've been with has orgasmed at least once.
There's many guys out there that find pleasure in pleasuring, therefore, even though it's a one night stand, he will still put effort into making her cum.
Also, sex is a thing of two, even with one night stands.

[reptocarl]

All have orgasmed orally and vaginally that I've had

[Asker]

What did you do to ensure an orgasm?

[reptocarl]

Ask a lot of questions about what she likes or how she likes things done

[Asker]

Can you give examples of what you've done?

[reptocarl]

Some like their clit licked a certain way and I have them lick my fingertip how they want it done. There's also a technique in the missionary position that the guy is further up on the woman and the penis enters the vagina more vertically that stimulates the clit. Some like their nipple done a certain way like one liked her nipple rolled around between the thumb and index figer

[frozenhorizon]

I've only had one but I don't think either of us got off hahaha.