Like I've always advised, sex outside a relationship is NEVER a good idea. You're giving him one of the major perks of being in a relationship (sex) with none of the emotional pressures. Obviously, you still have feelings for your ex and you probably went into this "friends with benefits" type relationship, hoping that, eventually, you would win him back or he'd some how wake up and figure out what a great catch you are and break up with his current girlfriend.
You are only emotionally torturing yourself here. Stop and think about whether or not this guy is the prince you really think he is. Would you want to be with someone who:
1) Broke up with you when you refused to have an abortion.
2) Cheated on you with his pregnant ex girlfriend.
3) Continually, claims that he's going to leave his girlfriend for you, but has not made one move to do so.
4) Disappears for days at a time and feels no need to explain himself to you.
5) Claims that YOU are stressing HIM out, when you went through 9 months of pregnancy and excruciatingly painful labor.
6) Has made no move to step up and be a responsible father and role model to his child.
Is that the kind of man you could fall in love with?
That doesn't sound like love to me. It sounds to me like he's having his cake and eating it too. If he couldn't get any sex from his girlfriend because she wasn't around, he could just go see you, because you were always waiting around for him. And what a bonus, he can have unprotected sex with you because you're already pregnant. He leads you on by feeding you these promises that he'll eventually break up with his girlfriend for you, it "just isn't the right time". WAKE UP, it's never going to be the right time. He's using you and you're only hurting yourself by thinking that you can win him back by letting him have sex with you.
It's painful, devastating, emotional torture that you're putting yourself through and yes, I am speaking from experience here. The fact that this guy is willing to have sex with you knowing full well that you still love him and then summarily march right back to his girlfriend indicates a serious lack of respect for you, your child, and his girlfriend. If he can cheat on his girlfriend with you, what do you think is going to happen if you two got back together? Not only that, think about what sort of message you're sending to your child. Do you want your son or daughter growing up thinking that it's okay for a man to disrespect a woman that way? Is that how a responsible father acts?
My advice would be to move on. Any man who can treat you like your feelings don't matter--doesn't deserve you. You DESERVE a man that will love you, your child, and treat you like royalty. A man who will ALWAYS make time for you---not just when he thinks his girlfriend won't find out. And just think, all the time you are wasting pining away for this guy, you might be missing out on the man who will be all of the things you're looking for.1 0 1 0Forget him. The guy broke up with you because you wouldn't kill your baby and found a new girl. Now he's just playing you. He is a complete jerk and taking advantage of the fact you still love him and your the mother of his child. Stop giving your p**** away to a man who doesn't deserve it. Don't show your child this terrible example of how to treat a woman/be treated by a man.
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