It took me a long time to realize that my type of guy is very dominant. I mean sexually, and in day to day life. Something about being bossed around/controlled makes me feel really comfortable/loved. Maybe crazy, but hey we all have our kinks. Either way though, somehow I always end up with the sweet guys who would do anything for me and just want to make me happy. I sound like an idiot I know, what girl WOULDN'T want that guy? Well, this girl clearly doesn't. I'm just really down for the whole "Make me a sandwich, and when I'm done with it I'm going to f*** you the way I want to" scenario. Anyways, I'm trying to figure out how to tell earlier on what kind of guy is that type. Personality traits, gestures, the way they talk, etc. Any clues to help me find a guy who is the way I want without going through the whole dating process to find out. Hope you can help!
What rockchickUK said makes a lot of sense to me. I'm def. the happy medium type. Sexually, I want to be in control nearly all the time. Very rarely do women I'm with want to be in control, but on the rare occasion they do, I'll go with it.
Non-sexually, I'm a nice guy. I'd probably say, "Could you make me a sandwich? If it's a good sandwich, when I'm done with it, I'm going to give it to you like I want to give it to you." I doubt I'd say, "Get in that kitchen bitch and make me a friggin sandwich NOW! Because I want a girlfriend not a slave. Chances are I can make a better sandwich then you can anyway, so I'm not going to keep you around for sandwiches.
As far as finding this type of guy you are looking for without the whole dating process? Good luck.
I don't know if you can tell... and I think if you CAN tell, he'd probably not be dominant, but controlling, which is really a different thing. I can see where you're coming from, though, I describe my wife as "sweet on the street, whore in the sheets", and she describes me as "gentleman on the street, pimp in the sheets."
I don't think you can tell right away, though, it just takes time.
Any guy is going to be nice at first. But I bet if you stay with someone for a while, they will figure out that you aren't going to get your feelings hurt when they act more controlling. But unfortunately, that probably means they are going to think you're not that smart, if you need someone to tell you what to do.
I hope I'm not too late for this but you can tell by asking which book/movies/cartoons are his favourites. He might want to hide it, so the best way of asking is starting casually with "What's your favorite movie?" and then continue with "What do you think of book/movie X?", where X should be a book/movie/cartoon that has a dominiant male protagonist with a submissive girlfriend and not a submissive female protagonist with a dominant boyfriend. His fantasy should be complementary to yours, not equal to yours. Of course, letting him know that you like those movies gives him insight into your preference as much as his.
I don't think there are any other clues.
A good-natured nice, shy gentleman and a DearS anime fan.
thats goddamned hot. hell, I'd love a bitch to have fun with like that... I would just say, look out for a guy who treats you right, but who isn't a little bitch; he tells you what he wants and doesn't put up with your bullsh*t