I need a dominant guy, how do I know?
It took me a long time to realize that my type of guy is very dominant. I mean sexually, and in day to day life. Something about being bossed...
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What rockchickUK said makes a lot of sense to me. I'm def. the happy medium type. Sexually, I want to be in control nearly all the time. Very rarely do women I'm with want to be in control, but on the rare occasion they do, I'll go with it.
Non-sexually, I'm a nice guy. I'd probably say, "Could you make me a sandwich? If it's a good sandwich, when I'm done with it, I'm going to give it to you like I want to give it to you." I doubt I'd say, "Get in that kitchen bitch and make me a friggin sandwich NOW! Because I want a girlfriend not a slave. Chances are I can make a better sandwich then you can anyway, so I'm not going to keep you around for sandwiches.
As far as finding this type of guy you are looking for without the whole dating process? Good luck.
What Guys Said 5
Any guy is going to be nice at first. But I bet if you stay with someone for a while, they will figure out that you aren't going to get your feelings hurt when they act more controlling. But unfortunately, that probably means they are going to think you're not that smart, if you need someone to tell you what to do.
I don't know if you can tell... and I think if you CAN tell, he'd probably not be dominant, but controlling, which is really a different thing. I can see where you're coming from, though, I describe my wife as "sweet on the street, whore in the sheets", and she describes me as "gentleman on the street, pimp in the sheets."
I don't think you can tell right away, though, it just takes time.
thats goddamned hot. hell, I'd love a bitch to have fun with like that... I would just say, look out for a guy who treats you right, but who isn't a little bitch; he tells you what he wants and doesn't put up with your bullsh*t
I hope I'm not too late for this but you can tell by asking which book/movies/cartoons are his favourites. He might want to hide it, so the best way of asking is starting casually with "What's your favorite movie?" and then continue with "What do you think of book/movie X?", where X should be a book/movie/cartoon that has a dominiant male protagonist with a submissive girlfriend and not a submissive female protagonist with a dominant boyfriend. His fantasy should be complementary to yours, not equal to yours. Of course, letting him know that you like those movies gives him insight into your preference as much as his.
I don't think there are any other clues.
A good-natured nice, shy gentleman and a DearS anime fan.
What Girls Said 1
I'd say be careful what you *think* you wish for!
I think maybe it would be better to get a 'nice guy' who feels comfortable to play that dominant role in the bedroom etc.
Nice guys don't mean boring guys.
You genuinely might want someone to boss you around but I have found over the years, girls actually want a happy medium.
The kind of guy you are seeking is probably a lot harder to find than you think, as they are usually the 'nice guy' until they actually get you.
Myself, being a strong woman who ended up with a controlling guy, I shudder at that's what you actually are looking for.
It looks again as if they nice guy is going to lose out over the bad boys...such a shame.
Good Luck though ! :o)
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