Thinking about hiring a prostitute to lose my virginity?

[Anonymous]

I'm 21 and still a virgin. I've been really horny lately and have been sexually frustrated since I can remember because all girls I've liked have either not liked me back, played me, or changed their mind. I'm sick and tired of it, and I just want to have sex. My guy friends and family think I'm a great guy and will definitely find an awesome girl some day, but I've lost my patience. I want to fuck a girl so badly just to know what it feels like. Masturbation is ok but I heard sex is a lot better. I imagine it's better if it's with someone you truly love, but that doesn't seem to be in the cards for me. I've always been horrible with girls I like because I'm too afraid to tell them my feelings directly. I usually ask them to hang out at a park or go to lunch (kinda lets them know I'm interested in who they really are) and they either make some lame excuse that they can't or she agrees and completely blows me off and I feel horribly about myself and resent them afterwards. I wouldn't mind paying a couple hundred to have a great night of sex just to know what it feels like, then I can get on with my life. I used to really want to meet a girl and get married when I'm older, but getting treated horribly time and time again has made me want to move to an island when I retire and live there by myself. I have plenty of hobbies to keep myself occupied, and getting rejected and stepped on by women is not one of them. If I were to do it all over again, I would've completely ignored women from age 14-now, nothing but horrible experiences that I didn't really learn anything good from.

[Barrabus_the_Free]

Go for it. Just try to find a clean one.

There's no difference between a pro and a regulr ho, when you get right down to it. The pro is at least honest and upfront about what the price is going to be, and after you're done, she's gone. She doesn't try to get you to buy her things, you don't have to listen to her talk, she doesn't take advantage of your Feelz, none of that shit. You hand her the cash and she gets the fuck OUT. Or, I should say, you hand her the cash and YOU get the fuck out, since you should be either going to her place or a hotel room. Or an actual brothel, if you're in Nevada, Europe, or Asia.

Don't let anyone shame you about this. If it's what you want, go for it. I have a friend who did that while we were in the Middle East. Bunch of us went to a whorehouse, that bastard picked the best looking Russian bitch there while I was checking out all of the girls.

[trevorv90]

I wouldn't recommend it. I was kinda thinking the same thing when I was in your situation but it feels so much more rewarding and special when you earn it. Just go out, get hammered and it'll happen. Trust me it's a lot easier than you think it is.

by the way I'm still horrible with girls. It's something that takes time and practice but you gotta put yourself out there.

FYI a couple hundred will get you only get you an hour or two not a night ;)

[Asker]

I just feel so dejected from all the bad times, whenever I even think about approaching girls I immediately am turned off by the idea because I foresee the outcome. With so many other things in my life, I feel like I can do anything because I'm so confident. But getting girls to like me and want to bang me, nope, just nope

[trevorv90]

Try getting Tinder... really quick way to meet girls who like you at a first glance and you don't have to worry about rejection because you don't know who swiped who. Make sure you google how to set up a good profile though so you get as many matches as possible. Trust me it will get easier, I was the same way as you about fearing rejection. It's gonna happen regardless at times so you gotta get used to it... but then there will be times where you score one. It's like sports the more you practice the better you get at it. Just put yourself out there. Maybe go to a strip club and get a full contact dance or go to an exotic massage parlor... that might help get the ball rolling for you. I respect your decision but keep in mind prostitutes are dirty and that decision could "stick" with you the rest of your life.

[Asker]

Honestly I'm probably not going to do it, but I'll still keep it as an option. And nah I'm not doing Tinder haha, although it's not a bad suggestion. I kind of disagree that it's like sports because in sports the more you practice the more you will definitely get better because you get to know the game. But every girl is different in their own way, some more crazy and dumber than others, and it's essentially all about luck as to whether they will like you or not. But I appreciate the support, hopefully I'll get out of my funk eventually

[Anonymous]

It'll be masturbation with a body. Save your money and do something else you like. Sorry you seem to be having negative experiences, but a prostitute isn't likely to be a positive one and may make you feel worse.

Try building up your confidence being direct at asking them out. Finding people to date is a numbers game.

[Asker]

I think trying to take a break could work, and maybe taking something to significantly lower my testosterone so that it doesn't consume my thoughts as much. I'll consume my free time with hobbies and sports that I'm good at and that give me confidence, and put the whole finding a partner thing on the back burner, or throw it out the window

[Opinion Owner]

Sometimes a break is what you need. Time spent just doing things that are enjoyable and not a pain the butt like dating or trying to date is.

[Asker]

I honestly hate the idea of it at this point. I'll admit to being a very sensitive guy, so I unfortunately take rejection pretty hard, and it's difficult for me to half ass things. Therefore it's impossible for me to go into the dating scene trying to not care and play it cool, you know? I want to love and I want to treat a beautiful girl like a princess and have her love me back, but it just can't happen. If there was a way I could accept that, and then get rid of all sexual urges, I'd do it right now. So much time has been wasted and pain has been endured because of the urges, I want them to go the fuck away

[MaLifeBeLikeOooAaah]

Hey man, don't feel that way it's totally not true that women play you or reject you. Like you said, you find it hard to admit feelings to a girl maybe that's your issue? Or a lack in confidence? There's millions of girls out there for you.

[Asker]

I feel like asking them to hang out is enough though. Then from there nothing good happens. The best result I've got is a girl hangs out and we have a seemingly fun time, and then she never wants to do it again, or says oh yeah let's go out to Olive Garden on Saturday! and then doesn't text back when I'm asking when she wants to go when I text her on Friday evening (random example). I feel like I have plenty of confidence, I go to a top 20 college in the US, have a 3.7 GPA and am really good at a couple sports. I'm 5'11 150 (pretty light I know), and have a lot of friends who are guys. It's just not happening for me. Thankfully I still know how to be very happy without sex, but the urges, god I hate the urges

[Anonymous]

Unless you go somewhere like Nevada and pay a couple thousand at least for a "girlfriend experience" at a high-class brothel, then you're not going to "have a great night of sex." Anything less than that and you'll probably regret it. Maybe 5-20 minutes of awkward sex, depending on how long you last. The woman isn't going to give a crap about you.

Not that I'm advocating going to a brothel, but I'm just pointing that out.

[Opinion Owner]

It will literally be like masturbating with a blowup doll. There's no comparison at all to sex with someone who cares about you.

[Asker]

Yeah you're probably right :( well, being a virgin isn't the worst thing. I'm going to try to do everything in my power to look at girls less and try to forget it. Maybe when I'm older things will work out better, but I just can't put myself through it anymore for right now