Is it normal for guys to fantasize about other girls?

[Anonymous]

Okayyy - so this is probably an issue for a lot of people. Anyways, my boyfriend and I were texting tonight and I took his virginity and am his first everything. I brought up how it doesn't even cross my mind to think about having sex with another guy. I asked him if it ever crossed his mind to have sex with another girl.. or fantasizing. He wouldn't reply and when he did he totally changed the subject. My boyfriend is not an asshole - nor would he EVER cheat but I have soo many questions going through my mind now. Would he have sex with her if given the chance? Does he like her? Is he bored with our sex life? ... AHHH it's going to be the death of me! HEEEEEELP!

[RockchickUK]

There are some questions you should never ask guys, this is one of them! Its one of those loaded questions where pretty much any answer will make you suspicious.

I have learnt and asked many of the 'questions you should never ask guys' and made myself sick with worry over the stuff I MYSELF made a problem.

Your guy probably has thought about another girl...maybe someone famous on TV, could be your friends Great Grandma, it really doesn't matter! he is with you and you say he is not an asshole, then that's the bit you have to remember.

Yes he could cheat given the chance, anyone could...if you thought about bumping uglies with someone else does that mean that you're going to cheat?. No.

Trust is one of the most precious things to have, once its broken you will never get it back. Your trust for him hasn't been broken, you're clouding your own (natural) fears on him.

I can say, pretty much hand on my heart that he wouldn't cheat and isn't bored...you just asked a question that you weren't prepared for the answer to.

PLEASE don't let this be the death of you or your relationship.

You are his first everything, and that is special. Some people in life only ever need one everything, he could be one of them.

Enjoy what you have and try and forget about something that hasn't happened and probably never will.

Take care <3

[katiesmuff]

Ask yourself the very same question and the answer would be yes you have fantasized about other guys? Now would you have sex with them is a much different thing and in some cases I would bet yes and others no. Very same thing turned around for the guys.

It sounds like things in your relationship are just fine. Don't dwell on it or nag at him about or it could cause things to change and he will be dipping his wick somewhere else. It is pretty much a normal thing for everyone so just let it in one ear and out the other.

[Anonymous]

Men are so different. I am like you in that it would never cross my mind to even encourage another guy to kiss me but to men its a macho thing. You ask him, its an in thing for men to want to engage in a threesome. It worries the heck out of me but the more I talk to other guys about it, I feel that I need to worry less. Its not that they do not love you. Its just a 'male' thing.

[Travesty]

When you ask this kind of question, you're pretty much going to get 1 of 2 answers.

1) No, I don't think about having sex with other girls. (This is a lie 99.99% of the time. Almost every guy thinks about having sex with other girls, it's part of our nature. It's whether they act on it or not which shows their character.)

2) Yes, I think about having sex with other girls. (Congratulations, you at least have a guy who is honest.)

The vast majority of the time, the answer to this question is not a reflection on the quality of your sex life, relationship, how much he likes you, or whether he'd cheat on you. It's just a fact of the sexes. Guys think about having sex with other chicks. That doesn't mean they're any less dedicated to you.

PS: I'm betting that, somewhere in the back of your mind, you knew what the real answer to the question was before you asked it. In the future, save yourself the stress and just don't ask these kinds of questions.

[drummerdude27]

when I'm in a relationship, I will admit that I could think about another girl once in a while but I wouldn't do anything past thinking about her. I would never dump my girl for another, cheat or do anything with another girl as long as I'm dateing her. the only people who are enough of a bastard to do anything like that is someone who doesn't deserve to have a girlfriend because that is just horrible. if you trust him then he probably isn't cheating or anything but fantasizing is no big deal

[JustWondering6]

Okay, I don't think you have anything to worry about, I'm a guy and I have a girlfriend who I love very much and would never do anything to betray, cheat on, etc and I believe its just common for men to fantasize about other women, it's a lame excuse but its a very common thing that men are interested in sex with more than one girl, even if he does only truly care about that one special person.

[mistriss]

i don't think he would ever cheet on you, but I think why he didn't respond is mabe be cause if you two ever broke up he mite consider having sex with another girl

[MaxPrime]

Yes we do think about sex...a lot. And we may fantasize about having sex with other girls but they are VERY brief fantasies. A girl walks down the street, she passes you... "I'd do her." (You think in your head) and then life goes on and you go on your way. We don't sit there thinking it over. So ya we think about it but that doesn't mean we actually want to sleep with someone else.

-MaxPrime

[joraz]

Most men fantasize about women. I think it's safe to say that probably women do the same thing.

That doesn't mean he would ever cheat on you. All you can do is try to talk about it with him. Communication is the key to a happy relationship.

[jcoldstream]

Of course he would sleep with another woman if he had the chance. It's not a question of not loving you, nor of preferring another woman to you. He loves you, but he needs variety.

[mf-ibmj]

did you ask him about a particular girl ?

why would you do such a thing, your loosing either way.

If he thinks YES, then u'll be heart broken.

If he replies NO then ure image will still be hurt since you compared ure self to hir.

[Zoeebearr]

Yeah, guys fantasize. You could have THE BEST relationship ever, but he's still gonna wonder what it would be like to have sex with megan fox...or his really hot neighbor. It's no big deal hun, so don't worry about it. They allll do. But if he takes it to another level, as in flirting or cheating, then dump his ass.

[silence8520]

To be completely and also very bluntly honest, most all guys will fantasize about sex with a "hot" woman. It's our nature. Remember, though, that these are just fantasies. Not knowing the guy personally, I can't answer definitively, but if what you said is true about him never cheating, then no, he will not have sex with her. He does not "like" her. He is not bored with your sex life. He will stay true to you. Don't worry. And if you are really tearing your hair out over this, ask him. It's the simplest way. (A lot of guys see jealousy as "she must really like me")

[Anonymous]

Yes guys fantasise, about other girls, your friends, sisters, mother etc... deal with it...