I feel like my married friend kinda cheats on his wife with me? In a way I don't know I'm confused..?

[Lucky1227]

OK so let me start from the beginning my friend is married I met him when I used to work he was my coworker I've met his wife she's nice... well anyways we go to the same college but he is older than me so yeah we don't see each other much well we text a lot and he gave me advice on the situation with the guy who has the pregnant girlfriend (actually he was there when I met him and HATED him at first sight lol) but yeah me and my guy friend (I won't use names) he asks me for sexy pics like he asks what I've sent other guys and to send it to him and I never had a problem with it but its like he asks for it then he'll say something back like "oh I didn't know you were gonna send that my wife would kill me" and I mean but you asked for it? and he always tells me how horny he is when his wife isn't around and stuff like I don't know I mean he's married and I would be upset if I was his wife... is it wrong?

[saphirasilverwings]

It seems like he wants the pictures but he knows it would hurt his wife so he's trying to put all the responsibility on you. I wouldn't consider just looking at pictures technically cheating myself, but if it would bother his wife it's definitely wrong. It's his business though; you can't make him stop doing anything. If YOU feel it's wrong though you should definitely stop sending him the pictures. Because he asked for them it does seem like more his responsibility than yours, but that doesn't mean it's okay to aid and abed. You wouldn't help someone plan a murder just because you're not the one being killed or doing the killing, right? That's an extreme example, but it's the same principle.

[cndycotdcunt]

Replying back with, I didn't know you would send it.. sounds like his way of trying to escape the blame. Saying things like he is horny to you, especially when his wife is not present and has no idea, is wrong.

If you're willing to encourage it, by sending pictures and things when he asks.. then it probably doesn't bother you all that much that he's married.. so I'm not sure what the problem is.

If you want to hook up with the married guy, seems like he's open. If you don't like that he's doing wrong to his wife.. stop enabling it and giving him what he wants.

[Anonymous]

So you don't respect teen moms, but you have no problem kind of messing around with a married man? No offense but are you retarded? Sending sexy pics to a man you know is married is wrong. If you had any class you would have told him no and not sent him anything. You know full well what you're doing is wrong, you're just trying to justify it because you like him.

[Lucky1227]

I don't like him he's just a friend I am talking to a guy right now who is super hot, and... no I don't respect teen moms and no I have no problem if he did want to mess around

[Opinion Owner]

So you don't even like him but you're sending him sexy pics....and you have no problem if he did want to mess around but you don't like him...WTH

[Lucky1227]

I mean he's an attractive guy but no I don't like him

[Opinion Owner]

Standards....get some

[Lucky1227]

I have standards... its the self respect part that I lack haha

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah that's your problem. Why do you think you don't have self respect? If you don't respect yourself nobody else is going to. Don't let this married man use you for nude pics don't you think you're better than that?

[Lucky1227]

He tells me I'm pretty

[Opinion Owner]

So if any guy tells you you're pretty you're gonna send him nude pics? Why do you feel the need to do that? You should already know you're pretty, pretty enough that you don't have to do that to get some guy's approval. Guys will say anything to get what they want from a girl..dont be that girl that he clowns to his friends about how she falls for anything.if you're pretty then you can find your own man.

[Irrelevance]

The word to describe the situation would be "naughty" which makes it sound appealing. There's harm because this is all laying the foundation for something to happen. A good rule of thumb for infidelity is ask yourself if you'd be alright if you found yourself in their situation, so here would you mind if your husband had photo's of a different woman?

If not then stop it.

[Longshot]

Two aspects to this one: 1) physical and 2) emotional. His intentions may be to phsically cheat (sex) on his wife with you and he is already emotionally cheating on her. You are enabling the emotional cheating and you may be headed towards physical cheating.

I would suggest you take part in neither. It can only end up BADLY either way.

[veectoria]

How would you feel if your husband was accepting 'sexy' pictures from another woman? Would you still not see the harm in it? Think before you act. You could be ruining this marriage. He is in the wrong, too. You need to knock it off and respect the fact that he is with his wife--who you've met?!

I believe in karma very much. This will come back on the both of you ten-fold. Remember this when you get married.

[slingblade180]

This is going to turn into a bad situation I would stop everything now...trust me drama is written all over this

[jwbjimmy23]

Yes it wrong he using you for dirty pictures
are you having sex with him or giving him blowjobs

[Anonymous]

You're a bad lifetime movie waiting to happen.

[Anonymous]

but you do realize that he very likely would jerk off to your pics and probably did so, right?