If you have sex with a guy you barely know just because you NEED to get laid are you still a slut?

[Anonymous]

I mean like really NEED to get laid. I pretty much forget what sex feels like, that's how long it's been and I just need to get laid. One night stands aren't really my thing but at this point I want sex so bad it's ridiculous. So is it wrong for me to go out, find a random guy, and have sex with him? Or have a friend hook me up with a guy just for sex? I haven't had sex that much before but I just really want to have sex but I don't want people to think I'm a slut but I want to have sex and I don't have a boyfriend and I'm probably not going to have one any time soon and I just want to get laid. I'm not looking for some deep meaningful connection I just want sex! Is that wrong? Would I be a slut if I just went out and slept with some guy to satisfy my own needs?

[sa230e]

Personally I don't even think in those terms. I hate the concept of the "slut". I even wrote a featured article about it. I think it's unfair to women. Personally, I don't see a moral problem with it. So to me I wouldn't pass judgement but to others I don't know. I get the impression the "slut" is something women have more disdain for than men but I have seen men take surprisingly narrow-minded views on female sexuality so I could be wrong.

I'm assuming here that you've tried masturbation and it's not working out for you. Personally I don't understand that since besides that close physical connection both sex and masturbation take care of your sexual needs but then again I've never had sex so what the hell do I know...

So I guess your options boil down to:

1) Do it but with the utmost secrecy in the hope no one finds out.

2) Do it and give society the finger. You don't have to feel ashamed just because they say so.

3) Don't do it. Find another outlet. Invest in a Magic Wand or a Sybian, maybe?

Ultimately the choice is yours. You have to weigh up the pros and cons.

[SmoothBlue17]

I couldn't agree more with guy. good answer!

[Asker]

I've never been able to get the hang of masturbation, I just get bored, it doesn't feel like anything, and then I get frustrated with being bored and not feeling anything and go do something else like watch TV or try and get some work done.

[sa230e]

Which techniques have you tried? Have you tried any toys? Might be worth it to get a cheap vibrator. If it works then it's money well spent, if it doesn't well at least it wasn't expensive. There's lots of good (not shady) websites out there where people share tips and techniques. Solotouch is a good site and it has links to other good sites. https://solotouch.com/ Don't give up on masturbation. It's a good thing to not have to depend on someone else to give you an orgasm.

[l-hedoniste]

You're dead right about the "slut" thing. It's getting to be like the N-bomb--found only in the mouths of lowbrow, knuckle-dragging *ssholes. I think your options are off, though: Option 1 Is just chickensh*t, unacceptable. Live your life, f*ck the world. Option 3 is a good idea, but likely not what she's looking for; we have sex as much for the company as the orgasm. We can (and should) have solo sex anytime we want. Option 2 is the only winner here, by leagues.

[ArizonaRX]

It's interesting that you'd consider going out to find a random guy just to have sex and satisfy your own needs, yet you'd care if people considered you a slut if you did.

I say if you want sex, go get it. If that's going to make you happy and you can properly protect yourself against various negative circumstances surrounding a random hook-up, why not?

I wouldn't think you are a slut if you randomly hooked up with me to satisfy your needs. As long as you told me those were your intentions. If I was single, found you attractive and generally liked you, I'd make sure your toes curled, hair was a mess and were paralyzed from the neck down for 20 minutes or so. (Hypothetically Speaking)

[SmoothBlue17]

LMAO! (paralyzed from the neck down for 20 minutes or so). How about the whole day? loll xD

[ArizonaRX]

You want to take care of a vegetable for a whole day? Could get messy.

[strawberrry]

Yeah. I'd say so but I'm not a girl who needs sex.

It's socially acceptable to have many one night stands these days it seems. Go for it if you want. But also think, it will probably get easier doing it again so you might do this all the time after.

[gravygirl]

I don't think it'd make you a slut, but a lot of people would.

[nawtyjay]

That really depends. What do you think makes a girl a slut? If you're horny, and you want physical contact, then why can't you go out and have a so-called one night stand. If you're smart about it, then there isn't anything wrong with it at all. It seems like anytime a girl actually accepts her own sexuality, she's labeled a slut like its a bad thing. So I guess what it comes down to is how will YOU feel having a one night stand to satisfy your needs?

[Benson01]

No not really slutty but I'm guessing most people will call it that haha. Just make sure the dude got protection you don't want diseases.

[l-hedoniste]

A LOT of guys do this automatically: "It's about time I had some sex. It's been a while."

If they can do it, you can do it. And don't think so much; we don't.

[slingblade180]

nope I don't think your a slut you have to get your rocks off somehow just don't get vd

[john3383]

Who cares what other people think? Do what's going to make you happiest.

Men are far bigger sluts than women anyway.

[Citizen_Snips]

In my book, yes. The guys that do that are too.

[Robertcw]

Yes. But only because guys will be jealous at how privileged and easy it will be for you. Meanwhile some guys have tried years just to be able to do what you are going to be able to accomplish effortlessly.

[JennieF]

Maybe.

[pa13sc08al06]

personally I don't find that being a slut. sex is something I find we all need, sum of us need it more than others there's absolutely nothing wrong with that, I don't understand y people make such a big deal of out that! so don't worry just listen to ur needs lol. btw if you live in or near montreal we should hang out somtimes;) lol

[DreamlessV]

If you think you will be the person to have regret about hooking up with a guy for one night maybe its not the thing for you. If you can handle sex without love then it probably is the thing for you.. but sleeping with someone your not in a relationship doesn't make you a slut. Sleeping with a different guys why your are dating someone makes you a slut, in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

yes you would be considered a slut.

[Anonymous]

I have a random slut on either side of me as we speak in bed. Whores need love too. Hangon my silk PJ's are getting wrinkled and I need a fresh glass of champagne.

[Anonymous]

NO! Make some guy lucky!

[Anonymous]

Sex is not a necessity it's a luxury, you don't NEED to have sex to survive (other than reproduction lol), so it's your own fault you have such weak self-control

[Anonymous]

Yep. You didn't need to get laid.

[Asker]

I didn't get laid, I want to get laid but don't want to be considered a slut for just picking some guy. My lack of sex is starting to make me feel good about myself. Everyone else is getting laid and I haven't had sex in well over a year and I want to but I don't have a boyfriend and I won't have one anytime soon and I'd rather not be constantly sexually frustrated

[Tyler1234]

Go for it.

[Robertcw]

Welcome to life as a man. We all go through exactly what you are going through. And we go through it often. So often that everyone accepts it as normal, in fact.

[Anonymous]

Whore. Go buy a dildo or something. Do you live in Erie PA by any chance? I know a whore there

[Asker]

1) I haven't actually done it yet 2) no, I don't live and I've never been near erie

[Opinion Owner]

Don't go there. Ever. That's where the whores live. Shallow whores.

[Anonymous]

whore