Why did he want to 69 our first time together?

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So I'm in my 30s and have plenty of sexual experience, but I recently met a guy who is younger than me (he's 24) and he's from Korea (so cultural difference) and we met on vacation and hung around for a few days and then hooked up. When we hooked up, we went from kissing to a little petting and then straight to 69'ing and while I've done that before, I was surprised he wanted to do that our first time together. Not only that, but he was on top...which was also unusual for me. He came in about 5 minutes, but kept working on me until I finished 15 minutes later (poor guy LOL) so we did not have intercourse. Due to the fact I had to leave the next morning, I was only able to hook up with him the one time. My question is, why 69 the first time you're with someone? and why was he on top!? (I am about 4 inches shorter than him) Thank you in advance for any input ~

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Edit: I guess I should revise my question a little. I want to know why a guy would want to go down on a girl the first time they hook up? It's a pretty intimate act.

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katiesmuff Master
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What hot blooded guy no matter what the race doesn't want to taste the p**** of a first date girl. Probably hadn't had sex in awhile would be a reason for him popping so quickly and you might be very good doing your part. Was a gentleman though to keep going to finish you off.
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- Asker
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  Well that's the thing, I've been with plenty of guys and none of them have gone down on me the first time out ~ so my experience is that guys shy away from that until they feel more comfortable or know the girl better. And yes, he was a total gentleman :)
- katiesmuff
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  Take the view that he knew going in that he wanted to be sure you were pleasured before the date was over and he knew from experience that oral was the only way that was happening. Again showing the gentleman side of him.

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TheAnswerer Explorer
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I just read somewhere that "to spice it up for both of you, you should try new positions". He was probably used to regular 69, and wanted to try something new.
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- Asker
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  Hmmm, that makes sense, but since it was our first time doing anything sexual together, it just seemed like an odd choice and we had nothing to spice up ~ he also seemed a little inexperienced.
- TheAnswerer
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  Hmm... Well, then ignore my entry. =)
only-lonely-me Xper 3
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He likes 69 & to make the move he went on top?
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- only-lonely-me
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  Mhhhh why not? If sex is implied then where does one start? Just hit the bulls eye or have some foreplay. None has started with oral before? Seems to me like the right thing or right place to start.
- Asker
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  Plenty of foreplay is oral, just not on the first time being sexual with someone. In all my years, I've honestly never had a guy go down on me the first time we hooked up. And this foreplay did not lead to sex, it was just that one thing and it was over.
- only-lonely-me
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  Well did you feel that it was wrong? Or too soon? Maybe he just wanted to get off on oral like you wrote that you both did. I think that it would be odd not to go down on a girl, first time or not. What were you expecting? Did the others just go for the home run? I would find that strange.
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- Asker
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  I don't think it was wrong, just an odd choice, especially when he got on top. A guy being on top isn't exactly the best position for that due to the angles and what not. We both enjoyed it, so I'm not complaining, I'm more so trying to understand why he would want to go for that right after kissing rather than using hands or something. When I say after kissing, I mean like 3 minutes after we started kissing we were 69ing... it just seemed like a lot and fast.
- only-lonely-me
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  Your correct about angles. I must have misunderstood you original question I thought there was some petting. We also have different meanings about oral. Foreplay to me is kissing & hands, oral is just that your mouth. I can't tell you why it was so fast I can only tell you that I have made the 1st move & go on top for 69. Sometimes I feel that the girl may be shy/reluctant so that's why I make that move. Your right I would have spent more time with some finger action.
- Asker
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  Thanks for all your comments :) Yeah, there was some petting, but only during the 3 min of kissing & only above the waist. To me oral is mouth only and that is all we did after kissing, which prompted my question. Foreplay is everything and anything with hands, kissing, oral, etc that leads to sex (by my definition). I guess I didn't expect that position (and for that to be all we did) after knowing someone for a few days. I more so expected sex than that.
- Asker
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  So you said you have gotten on top before because the girl might be shy... well I kissed him first, so I'm not shy nor did I act shy... so what other reason would there be for the guy to be on top? Do you think maybe he thought he was being polite by doing all the work? LOL
- only-lonely-me
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  All turned out OK. Don't over analyze it. There are a lot of what ifs' Pregnancy or maybe he thought sex was too quick. Only he knows why. Again I would have done a little more foreplay (hands figuring) maybe kissed my way down but he did what he did. He was gentleman enough to at least make sure that you got off too. Night. Sleep well
- only-lonely-me
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  I'm just not sure. I know that I have gotten on top for 2 reasons. I was kind of horned up & it of course makes it more exciting one outdoing the other but then that's the whole point of 69. He just did so that's one for the books. You can't honestly say that none has ever gone down before when you were just expecting sex?
- Asker
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  Guys have gone down on me before when I was expecting sex, yes, just not the very first time we hooked up sexually ~ if I had hooked up with him before he did that, I wouldn't be wondering why. I was just surprised the very first thing he wanted to do was straddle my face ~ LOL I guess I would have liked more face to face time before doing that.
- Asker
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  But you are right, I'm over analyzing! It was a fun experience and that's what matters :)
- only-lonely-me
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  Thanks, You have a very good point. More face to face time! For my own info. do you find it strange if a guy works his way down the first time for oral? I try to be a giver so maybe that's why I didn't find it that strange. I will admit a great BJ is always welcome but sometimes we just need to get laid & not finishing with that aspect can be disappointing. You stated "it was fun" but would you rather have had more?

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l-hedoniste Master
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Maybe he's into 69s?
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- Asker
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  Maybe. It was just an odd choice, especially since he seemed a little inexperienced in that particular position.
- l-hedoniste
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  When face with our fantasy, we adjust quickly.
ThatGuy69 Xper 5
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First of 69 is awesome that's why. and he wanted to be on to to gag you probably
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- Asker
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  Hahaha ~ well, he came too fast if his goal was to gag me ~ lol