My boyfriend takes a while to cum and it hurts me?

Question

My new boyfriend takes 15 to 30 mins to cum each time. And tbh at the start it's great but about 10 mins in I'm in pain and tired. We usually go 3 to 5 times a night and it leaves me the day after feeling very raw. Now I have a slight tear on my opening and the pain is that bad I'd rather just not have sex. We have a lot of foreplay and he is amazing but I still can't dry after a while.

I was always used to the guy that only lasted a few minutes. Do you girls have any tips or have you ever been in this position?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My boyfriend is also like that so usually what we do is - lot of foreplay, I love giving extensive orals, I ride him, we go doggy or me lying down and in the end I go down on him again and he cums by masturbating. I like that you could try this. Also if you don't like to go for 30 minutes or more just tell him that you'd rather go down on him or you could try riding him in a squatting position, it's very pleasurable!

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miamigirl1970 · Accepted Answer

The more he does it the more stamina he builds and the longer he will probably go each time. Personally 3-5 times a night? Wow you guys are super hero's... I would say take a break a bit. Talk to him about it. See if your pain doesn't subside, but the more you do it with soreness, the more sore you will be. Take time to heal and just pleasure him if he needs it that often. Best of Luck

Coffinspire · Accepted Answer

This actually happened to me when my husband and I first started dating. I just told him what was going on, and obviously he doesn't want to hurt me so he understood. We still messed around but didn't have sex for like a week and when we finally did he was very gentle about it, bless his soul lol If you tell him what's going on he'll understand.

SovereignessofVamps · Accepted Answer

Just tell him what you want instead. Does he know it hurts?

madhatters4 · Accepted Answer

well i think the first thing you need to do is cut back the amount of sex. of course after even the first time it is going to take longer and longer ejaculate. you can only produce so much lubrication naturally so after the 1st time and each subsequent act you will have less and less lubrication

so one thing is to use more lube
the second is to cut down on the amount of times you are having sex so your body can re-build it's natural lubricants

TaureanBull81 · Accepted Answer

I'm like your new boyfriend and last 30 minutes before I cum as well. Some men like myself don't cum quickly very often and so have the stamina to keep going until our body reaches the point of no return to orgasm!

Read this article link below:
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joemm · Answer

You should use more lube. And you can always stop him during intercourse to apply more as well. He could use one of those penis health cremes too.. these are made to moisturize and improve the texture of the penis skin. I use one and my girlfriend loves it. Hope this helps.

XRabbitHeartX · Answer

You need to lube. Try Durex. I think that will solve a lot of your problems.

AthleticMom · Answer

He may have  NO alcohol NO cumming within a day of sex w/you LOTS of foreplay on him

Drooogie4 · Answer

3 to 5 times a night lololol

RachelBrigs · Answer

Try lube

Pearl85 · Answer

Maybe he is waiting for you to cum?

jman46241 · Answer

Well I take a very long time and sometimes don't get off at all. Most women that I've been with have felt like it was their fault and would get upset, no matter how many times I would try to explain. It usually depends on the amount of foreplay and what's done during. Sometimes I have gotten myself close beforehand. Some girls love having a guy that goes a long time..

zeeko · Answer

I think your boyfriend has a huge penis or your vagina is not that wet during sex..

neoagent1 · Answer

I never heard of a woman complaining about a guy that takes too long but I agree with some of the ladies. You need lube and if you want him to cum faster get him close before he goes inside you.