What are your thoughts on unprotected sex?

[Anonymous]

Say a girl has unprotected sex with a guy she met at the club three hours ago, of whom she had the impression of being clean, and another girl just ended a three-year relationship in which she had unprotected sex with her boyfriend. People are far more likely to criticize the girl from the club, but let's think logically. Bear in mind that this is all hypothetical.

The reason the other girl left the three-year relationship is because her boyfriend cheated on her twice: the first time he did it was two years into the relationship, and let's say he had sex during the relationship with a different girl every couple of months (12 girls). THEN she decided to give him another chance, as many people do with cheating partners, and he had sex with another 6 girls in the last year of the relationship. He had sex with 18 girls, all while cheating on his girlfriend - let alone the even higher number (which only he and God know) of girls he had sex with *before* the relationship. It took a lot of trust to have unprotected sex with him, as it did in the case of the girl and the club guy.

When you have unprotected sex with someone, you're metaphorically having sex with every other person (s) he's ever had sex with. Even if you do use protection, condoms are inefficient (according to statistics) 2 out of every 100 times you have sex if used correctly - or if not used correctly, which happens to be the typical efficiency rate, they'll fail 18 out of every 100 times. In all likelihood, the average relationship couple has sex more than 100 times each year.

[Anonymous]

I don't know what you're trying to convey with that kind of example.
Whether the girl was incredible stupid or not in "trusting" her cheating boyfriend enough to have unprotected intercourse, she still knows him better than the girl at the club knew that guy she never met before. After the amount of comments I've read here on GAG, strangely enough it seems people in a relationship feel more scared about demanding protected sex after they were already engaging in unprotected sex, even if the partner was cheating. Emotional coercion, crazy stuff.

Anyway, I cannot vote on your pole. Since I don't really use birth control, the only time I'm having unprotected sex is when I'm trying to conceive, married or not.

[Asker]

You just said that she "knows him better", and she knows that she cheated on him. It takes a lot of trust to trust him at that point to not have something.

[Opinion Owner]

I didn't say it wasn't stupid, but perhaps her decision was emotional - she or he have that excuse. More emotion and fear of speaking up sometimes than actual trust. Someone who engages in one nigth stands without protection are most of the times if not always doing it deliberately and rationally. There's no trust nor nothing envolved, just wanting to enjoy themselves. That was my point.

[Anonymous]

I voted E, because I wanted to vote "none of the above". I go unprotected with people who can prove they're clean through a test and who then only have intercourse with others who are clean. As long as they know Im okay with them having multiple partners, I don't expect them to lie about it. I got tested once and may do so again, but due to a chlamydia case somewhere in my social circles (a girl I'd done nothing with) everyone got tested so now I know for sure they're all clean which means Im clean.

Don't trust your gut, it's always the sweet attractive people who have std's because they get sex easily.

[Luv2run]

I think that it's funny how in High school during the sex classes they always show cautious towards STDs like they are supper common and if you have sex if someone you don't know well then you WILL catch it. IN reality i know guys who have had sex with almost everyone while using a condom every time and don't have an STD. it's surprising but also how life works. Also getting and Std isn't even a big deal, i've never had one , but really all you do is take medicine for it... and then sometimes it will go away.

[Anonymous]

If a person is in a monogamous relationship with both partners being tested and STI free, then it's fine having unprotected sex with one another 😊👌

[kaylaS91]

My thoughts are... unprotected sex increases your risk of catching an STI, as well as falling pregnant. If someone is down to risk things like that for a ONS, so be it. It's their body/life,- they can do whatever the fuck they want with that. I personally wouldn't but... different folks for different strokes. Nobody is really in a position to judge.

[vonasaurus]

if you are monogamous, and you know that the person is loyal/doesn't have herpagonasyphillAIDS, then go for it.

if you're sleeping with more than one person, one of you has an std, or you suspect that your partner is cheating, wrap that tool (or insist that he do so).

[tues_clues]

i have unprotected sex w my boyfriend every single time. because we know each other so well, i can tell when he's going to cum and vice versa so we don't have accidents.

[Faith18letsgo]

I have unprotected sex with girls but not guys.

But I’ve always known the person for at least a year. And I’ve always asked about if they’ve gotten tested or not etc. and I get tested between each person.

I should say I do unprotected hand stuff with guys but other then that there’s a test (mouth) or a condom (vaginal/anal)

[Anonymous]

If by "unprotected" you mean no forms of birth control, then I would say marriage, which is what I voted for. Average couples (normal ovulation and normal sperm count) have about a 20% chance to conceive every month if they are having sex regularly. If you just meant no condoms, but the woman can be on some other kind of birth control, then I am comfortable with no condoms in a monogamous relationship. Although, I won't ever ditch the condoms in any circumstance until we both get tested.

[Anonymous]

In my opinion it's a risk more people take than they should. I'm not totally against it. I just think you should be more careful about it especially if you have sex with more than 1 person. To each their own. If you have faith in the situation then hey I can't stop you. If it were my best friend or something I would urge them to get some kind of protection unless the relationship is very serious.