My girlfriend wants a three-way with another guy, but she doesn't do fellatio and double penetration; is that even, by definition, a three-way?

[MrTheMan]

I had a MMF three-way in a previous relationship. It was nerve-racking at first, seeing my [past] girlfriend pleasuring another man, but I wasn't a spectator either. In the bed room, I plowed her poon while she kept blowing our guest, and I almost lost my nerve when they wanted to me to switch places with our guest. Somehow, I kept my composure and obliged... and I'm so glad I did, something about watching her get dominated by me and another guy really got me going. The second MMF, she wanted to try double penetration, and we had a ton of fun.

So my current girlfriend told me that she wants to try it, and she knows about my past, but she won't try a DP and doesn't do blowjobs. She'll give a handjob while she gets fucked, but that bothers me for some reason; I feel like getting a handjob while another guy fucks her isn't really a threesome, more like a cuckold, and that idea makes me feel jealousy and heartache.

Am I overreacting? Is this arrangement not uncommon? What are your thoughts?

[VirginiaBeachBum]

I don't see it as not being a threesome. Like you said about your previous one, you weren't a spectator then. It sounds like you'll still be involved if you do this one. Cuckolding tends to lean more towards the husband being humiliated and "forced" to watch. That doesn't sound like that's the case here. At some point, won't he be getting a hand job while you are fucking her? I agree, it's not optimal for someone who is into full action MFMs, but that appears to be the hand you're dealt. That said, if either of you don't feel comfortable doing it, then it shouldn't happen.

[MrTheMan]

I know, it's not really a cuckold, I just don't feel that a hand job is generally fun, pleasing, or exciting, and I don't feel like I'm really part of the experience... maybe it's just me, but I wouldn't want to invite a 3rd if he's only getting a hand job when I'm banging my girl, seems like a serious let down.

[VirginiaBeachBum]

Have you asked her why that's a problem for her? If it were me, I'd be fine with only getting a hand job because I'd be participating in some way. Remember, it's your relationship, your rules. I'm sure any other guys would be OK with it, too.

[MrTheMan]

she says her gag reflex is awful, and she has a particularly sharp sense of smell, so no BJs; she's afraid of discomfort or pain in any form of DP... and I don't blame her, she's quite inexperienced in bed

[VirginiaBeachBum]

Ah, then it may be something she'll need to work her way up to. I'd just give her time and keep any involvement with other people at a level she can handle for now, then reassess later. The fact she's willing to go through with any of it at all should be a plus to you. Good luck with things!

[AlphaMale1]

What does she expect from a three way? I have been in about seven of them with MMF and at first it is a bit difficult watching another guy with his cock in her and her enjoying it. When it finally hit me this is about erotic sex and not love I let go of the hangup stuff and really began to enjoy it.

Now with your girlfriend, why does she want two cocks at her disposal if she is not willing to please them both at the same time? That is the point of a three way with two cocks.

I think she wants to fuck a different cock with your approval.

[MrTheMan]

Well put sir! I thought it was a bit unusual. I told her I've never heard of a threesome where 1 guy just watches and waits for his turn, and she says she'll please him with her hand... more like a tease, and not the good kind.

[10dsw]

Nope you're not overreacting at all. Isn't the whole point of a monogamous relationship to stay monogamous?

As a matter of fact if my girlfriend brought this up, she would be out of my house by sunrise.

And before your girlfriend says "Oh you're just jealous", may I remind you what would happen if you suggested a FFM to her?

[MrTheMan]

I already know what would happen, she gave me the option before I could even ask. Besides, I never mentioned monogamy, I'm not against sharing my partner as long as she and I consent to the terms per encounter.

[10dsw]

Well my advice: you're setting yourself up for cuckery by not standing your ground. The more you comply with her demands, the more she's going to disrespect you. Not to be a dick but you should be against sharing your partner.