My ex girlfriend raped me, help!

I'm a bit confused. The other night my ex came over late. I didn't know why she showed up. She's a very strong girl, softball player who works out a lot. And when she was there we got into an argument. She kicked me in the stomach and floored me instantly. While I was on the ground she started to yell at me telling me I'm a weak little ***** and can't even handle a girl. I got up and swung at her, but she leveled me with a punch to the face leaving me dazed. She made me kiss her boots to get her to stop while degrading me. Then pulled my pants off and had sex with me. She said that I'm her slave for now on. I'm not sure what to do.

I don't understand how I was overpowered by a girl.


Most Helpful Girl

  • well that's a little scary! Id say smack her on the ass so hard she almost bleeds grab her by the hair make her get on he knees and tell her to suck it. just to see if she like to be treated like how she treated you... then you will know by her reaction whether or not the sex life is going to be abusive (not healthy) or really good!
    Otherwise you could always find another girl that's into rough play an being in control but still cares about you in a relationship so you don't feel like a weirdo...
    Sorry if that's a bit full on :)
    Good luck!

    • The thing is I'm dating another girl who I really like a lot. And I honestly don't think I can take her.

    • Sounds like an excuse to be "raped" by you ex but enjoy it without calling it cheating. I'm sure that if you really didn't want it to happen you would have done some physical damage to her anyway you could to get her to leave you alone. What happened right after the sex?

    • Well I actually tried getting up after she knocked me down and took a swing at her. But I missed and she cracked me in the face. I tried. I'm really embaressed. The initial kick took me by surprise too. She really did overpower me. She held me down during the sex, then afterwards, she got up told me that I'm pretty much her property, and then she left.

What Girls Said 8

  • Oh please you were not raped! if she held you down what made you get an erection? you were both willing participants in this event, and you are now trying to clear your conscious, I just feel sorry for your poor girlfriend...Bad boy!

    • That would be her hand rubbing me. I was afraid of her at that point. I didn't want to fight back since she already kicked my ass. Getting beat up and humiliated and having to beg at her feet for her to stop is not being willing. It's extremely pathetic, and emasculating though.

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    • Toulouse, I wasn't speaking to you, make your comment and leave others alone! you are so naive! who died and made you Head -psychiatrist? and please no response.

    • ... You disgust me

  • wow you poor thing, if I were you I'd get e restraing order, if your turned on by that, WTF?

    • I don't know. I was hard, but scared. I'm really confused on what any of this means.

  • Report her to the police! Rape is a serious crime and she can't get away with it!

  • Only you can really tell if you were raped. But don't listen to yeths... rape victims, especially men, do get turned on because it's just how their bodies react. And as far as not hurting her back, that's simple. Men are taught not to hit women all of their lives to the point it becomes instinct...
    I can't give you a sure answer since I don't know what you wanted, but if you do feel violated (and not just in a fun, kinky way) don't be afraid to press charges because of how your body reacted.

  • Call the cops

  • are you a troll?

  • personally I don't know how you were raped by your ex either. how would you even have an erection after she kicked the sh** out of you?

    • Erections are involuntary.. Open up a text book .

    • Involuntary when someone kicks the sh*t out of you? I'm just saying I imagine it would be hard to get and maintain an erection when you're feeling fear and the "fight or flight instinct" kicks in.

What Guys Said 14

  • Call the cops. Press charges. Just because she's a girl doesn't mean she gets away with rape.

  • Stand up to her next time. >__> Don't let your guard down. You don't have to take self-defence classes to at least be able to tell when the other person's gonna pull some sh*t like that.

    Tell her to stop coming over to your house because you don't want to see her anymore. If she shows up again, don't let her in. I doubt she'll start anything outside your house.

  • Police and restraining order. I know a woman that's a corrections officer and she's a tough woman. Served in the military for 8 years and can kick the snot out of most men. Just because she's a woman doesn't mean it's ok to assault people and then as you stated rape you.

    (This is a rare occasion for a woman to assault a man and rape them, but I'll give you the benefit of the doubt.)

    Secondly, all these women saying, "How were you raped and you had an erection." If you don't have a penis of your own ladies... don't pretend that you know how they work. An erection is very possible in a man being raped. If he was afraid of her and didn't want to be assaulted again, he's going to get an erection pretty fast so that she isn't upset with him not being hard.

  • wow, you're in a tough spot, I don't even know what to say :(.

  • Keep us updated, would like to know what happened after.

  • I must say I can't stop laughing after reading this, but coming back to the topic. If you feel she is stronger than you and you can't take her, than ignore her at all costs. If she shows up to your house, just don't open the door or better yet call the Police if you feel your life is being threatened. There are plenty of things you can do to avoid her, if you feel this is getting out of hand than the best solution would be to file charges against her. But make sure you have proof or at least a witness, Police tends to favour females in cases like these.

  • You got beat up by a girl and now she made you her bitch, that's pretty funny. I highly doubt this is a real question, but if it is lol.

  • Say what ?
    Hell, was that a movie script,? y would be a boyfriend for such a girl? strong !

    i really suggest that you through her out of the window, find you a gs looking small cute girl.

    • Dude have you ever heard about FEMDOM ??

      I doubt you ever heard of it ............

      she is just like that and she likes to dominate.......its called female domination

  • I don't understand how guys get raped by women. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but I just don't understand it. If someone is beating the sh*t out of me and degrading me, I'm not going to get an erection. It just isn't going to happen, no matter what they're doing otherwise.

    I dunno, I don't get it.

    • Maybe you aren't as virile as the guy who posted the thread.

    • LOL, virile? It's got nothing to do with being "virile."

  • yu need a bodyguard, hws she beet year aszz nd rape yu, this sound lik a porno I seen ...

  • next time kick her right in the taco

  • I have mixed feelings of your story. Cause one time my girlfriend of a few weeks, wanted to have sex with me after I got out of the shower. I said no cause I was really really tired from work, and I already had sex with her and came before I went to work, and just wanted to sleep. But then she got super forceful and threw me on the bed and pinned me down, and then she said in a very serious voice "i'm not going to take no for an answer, and I'm just going to rape you!". And then she started grinding on me until I was up, and then shoved me deep in her and just f***ed my brains out, until she cam a good 4 times. At first I thought omg I'm getting raped, and it was shocking and scared me at the moment, but then I totally noticed how aroused and and thrilled I was because she was doing this to me. Ever since that night, I would occasionally say no to her just so she can be really rough and forceful, and have her ways with me. I think she is beginning to notice how much I like her super aggression, so that's why now a days she's always hella rough with me in bed. So its kinda hard for me to understand how you could have not liked it when this girl "raped" you. I think it's flattering that a girl would want you bad enough to force you to have sex with her. But probably not everyone is like me, and if you really didn't like it I hope you never have to go threw that again. The reason I'm telling you all this, is maybe if you think hard and deep about it, you might have liked what she did to you. Maybe that's why you couldn't get away.

  • Domestic violence is not okay.( It was hot to think about) Not okay. Get in touch with a crisis council.

  • If you're comfortable with it call the cops, she raped you and might rape other people if youdont stop her, if you dont want that tell you current girlfriend and get here to protect you. If neither of those sound good just work out and take self defense training until you can kick her ass.