Girls, How do you feel about guys who probably wouldn't be able to get you pregnant, the natural way?

[Anonymous]

I have to choose if I'm to have a surgery in January. This surgery would be to remove the damaged and dead portion of the lower intestine, so that I can learn how to poop naturally again, instead of through something called a stoma. It's called Hirschsprung disease, if you'd like to look up what it entails and all that. As with all surgeries, some side effects are possible. While, minuscule, they are still possible (1% chance). One of those MAJOR side effects is something called "retrograde ejaculation". Essentially what that is, is, cum, that goes back up inside you, instead of out and in to the vagina, thus rendering me infertile. This makes me feel horrible that I wouldn't be able to do it naturally, and would have to resort to either adoption, or artificial insemination from another man. Since I'm an only child, and I happen to be male, I need to keep the family name going, so, how am I supposed to be able to do that, with an adopted kid, or A. I. from another man.

I have some time to think about if I'm to do this surgery but, I need opinions on what women would think about this sort of thing

Oh, by the way, the reason for the side effects that are possible is that with the surgery being so close to the penile nerve ending, the cut and or incision on the intestine, could rupture that nerve, causing it to break. Another side effect would be that if this nerve breaks, I would have to catheterize myself, in order to pee. If you've never been catheterized or don't know what it is, look it up

[mjz00]

hi and wow i honestly feel for you, you are going through a great deal and it is lovely to still hear that you are thinking positively of a great future with children in mind. From my perspective if i imagine meeting you as a person and potential partner in the future self who lets say couldnt make a baby the old fashioned way, if after a short while and we were getting close you disclosed this information to me and it was real love, i think a great deal of women would be ok with this. you haven't mentioned and my first thought was, you storing your own sperm in a bank for future use, has this not been discussed with you, as i assume at this point this is a possibility. if so in the future your partner and you can have children together? xx

[mjz00]

so im a bit confused you mention adoption or sperm from another man, if there is the best chance for you to freeze your own dna baby making self self surely this is the best option for you and your future partner. if i met a man lets say your future self and he could offer the potential of his own sperm to make our baby together this of course would be the best option after that would be a donor then adoption. if its true love a woman who wants a family with you would do anything but surely you can imagine for her sake and your own two people in love creating a child between them to raise together in an ideal world would love it to come from the both of them, so if you have the chance to preserve your sperm this is the best starting option before you have to go through your ordeal xx

[Asker]

"true love"'s a little cliche, ain't it?

[kaylaS91]

I wouldn't want to be involved with them as I definitely do want to have children in the future. I could be friends with them, nothing more.
(If they are cool with being non-eligible as possibilities that many women would consider as life partners and wouldn't complain about that endlessly after the fact, I think nothing more of them.)

[Kaylyne]

Have you considered the possibility of having your sperm frozen?