How rough is too rough?

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i was talking about this with one of my cousins just now and I don't know I do like kind of rough sex occasionally (def not on a regular basis at least not if the person I'm sleeping with is my bf/gf). she was saying that she likes it when a guy is brutally rough with her. like spitting in her face, crazy jack rabbit fast f***ing, beating her with a whip type of rough. I know how she is and that's cool its her thing. I always ask wtf is the appeal but I know she is into bdsm sh*t too so idk. i like things some girls might not like *sometimes* like as long as he asks me first ill let certain guys slap me in the face. like hard slapping. no punching or anything but like a firm slap. its hot sometimes. or also light choking. its been hard to get guys to get that dominant with me because I'm usually a dominant person and so they don't know wtf to think and then they generally don't want to do it at first, but I kind of ask them to try it for me and they get into it at least a little bit. actually only two guys got into the choking thing. the rest didn't like that or wouldn't even try it. then there's the standard spanking my bum and hair pulling. what do you think is too rough? or do you not like rough sex at all? opinions from guys and girls please! :)

clovisx · Accepted Answer

I've never had rough sex, always been intrigued by it though. I've been rougher to my wife than she has to me, never hitting though. I've tied her up and tickled her, which for her is torturous and I have used 3-4 fingers in her which is a lot for her body to take.

As long as you are both into it and there is a safe word, something you both agree on that will let you know you have gone too far, then the sky is the limit. If you are into rough play, you really need to do it with someone you trust and someone who trusts you. I came across this link a couple of years ago and it deals with the BDSM lifestyle - link If you're interested, there is a lot of information about what is accepted/acceptable and not there.

Jonny_ · Accepted Answer

I don't mind rough, as in jack rabbit fast... But I'm not into slapping, choking or scratching. I had a few girls who were really into biting, they'd want me to bite them as hard as possible... I did it, but always worry, you know... You do it, but you don't want to actually hurt them. I like the dominant side of girls like being pinned down, but I'm not into the whipping and slapping game. I play along if my partner is into it, even if it means I have my lip chewed off lol

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

i love it when guys take control and are rough, not always, but sometimes. the best I ever had was a guy who was kind of a psycho and I didn't really like or anything but would hook up with sometimes. he would slap my boobies around til they were red, and would slap my p**** till it was kinda swollen. I know it sounds bad but it felt so good. he's slap his d*** on my face and would have really rough sex whenever. he'd just grab me and do it. then he got into sh*t like 3somes and had me eat his come out of another chicks pussy.

Amber68lbc · Accepted Answer

If you like it rough, the hurt is actually pleasure for you. So there should not be any real pain, if so then maybe it's going too far.

There are no limits to how rough is too rough it depends on the person, but like I said if you enjoy rough sex, most likely because the pain is not pain, it is actually making you hornier, excited, and you come harder.

If it gets to a pint where you are not experiencing pleasure anymore, and your feeling real pain, maybe you need to stop and start again.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I only like rough sex. If I have sex with a guy and he's being really slow and gentle I'm like barely turned on. I'm into spanking, biting, light choking and a guy being really dominant with me and pushing me down. Not so much the really hardcore BDSM stuff. It kind of just freaks me out. I wouldn't want to be whipped, have a ball gag in my mouth or anything with nipple clamps...

NewYorkCity · Answer

I think it is little bit to rough but hey we live in 2010 so society is Fuc... Up in the head all the way. I think for our generation it is OK. I like my self hardcore sex BUT not what you just mentioned.  Slapping ass hard and very gently V yes I love it ,but face or spitting in face or choking it is TOO MUCH for me. After all this is sex not raping interrogation thing.

l-hedoniste · Answer

Fine, just fine. You're into it, you're talking them into it, it's all good.

DirtFarmer · Answer

Love it, was strange the first time a girl asked me now I can't get enough of it choking slapping spitting General domination I don't know if it's the act or the fact that she likes it that is hot about it but whatever it is perfect

LīgaLakstīgala · Answer

As far as I'm concerned, there is no such thing as too rough. If you cannot walk the next day, that means your man did the job well. A dominant man must be able to put you in your place through consensual activities like this.

Anonymous · Answer

nothing is too rough for me

Anonymous · Answer

The other night my lady and I were "trying" some new things starting with me being tied up. Then she started yelling at me about sleeping with he sister and cousins.

At first I thought she was just role playing because of course she knows I'd never do something like that.

So, I went with it. I started telling her how it was pretty much a family reunion and how her sister did the things she wouldn't (she has always been in competition with her sister. so I thought this would really bring out that angry sex in her).

Well, she got a lighter and a can of bug spray and set me on fire. It hurt and I was so p*ssed I would have killed her...or at least stop, dropped, and rolled, but I was tied up.

I would like to say that I personally believe that was too rough and will never allow anyone to tie me up in bed again...or bring a lighter.

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