can't cum from her oral or handjobs?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend gives good head I think and she tries hard but I can't seem to cum from her mouth. It's like her mouth isn't giving enough friction but also I think I need to be in control of my dick to cum. She lets me jerk off until I cum in her mouth which is awesome but why can't I cum from just her hand/mouth? It isn't a problem of maintaining an erection as I get hard and stay hard easy, it's just a problem with finishing. Am I too used to jerking off and do I go too hard when I masturbate? I've masturbated since a really young age (like 6) and I only humped until I was like 12 when I switched to doing it by hand. I have trouble jerking off with lube because of the lack of friction. Is there any way I can reverse this so I don't need so much friction?

[summiter]

I have a few guy friends who in confidence said that they can't or are slow to have an orgasm from a blowjob. I would say try a lot more foreplay. Have her get you real close several times and then back off. Have her give you a handjob and use some lube or lotion... it really helps. Teach her what feels good and show her how you jerk off so she know what you like. Some of it probably has to do with nerves. Have you had orgasms with other girls? Are you having sex? Can you cum during sex?

[Asker]

Lube makes it worse when I jerk off at least because the lack of friction. I've never orgasmed with other girls this is my first girl and we aren't haveing sex yet so I don't know. Good to know I'm not alone though. She will mix it up with a handjob but usually it hurts when she does that even though it's attractive. Thanks for the tips though.

[summiter]

Why does the handjob hurt? Anyway don't focus on the orgasm, just focus on what feels good and enjoy the experience and being naked with her. Again I would suggest you show her how you do it and give her feedback on what feels good and what does not... have patience it is all not about a fast orgasm it is about having fun with her.

[Anonymous]

I was the same way, you should grab her head and try to control the rythm this will make you feel like you're more in control and like you're kind of musterbaiting using your gf's mouth... lol that sounds so fucking derogatory

[Opinion Owner]

wtf is wrong with me hahahaha I can't believe I soelled masturbating like that

[Asker]

I'd be afraid of offending her by doing this but I might try it. Sounds like it could work, but still there might be a lack of friction.

[Asker]

Have you ever tried this on a girl? Did she get mad?

[Opinion Owner]

Then tell her to use her tongue more or suck harder, tell her exactly what you want, she's not a mind reader. Girls want to be dominated in bed, trust me. They love it when the man is the man in the bedroom, she's not going to mind, hell she'll probably think it's sexy. Remember your girlfriend wants to get you off just as badly as you want to get her off and sucking dick gives girls lock jaw and it's tiring to them so the faster you cum the happier she'll be. So do whatever you feel necessary to get you off faster.

[Opinion Owner]

also I'm not talking about full on face fucking her lol, just giving her about 30% of the tempo you know?

[Opinion Owner]

yea I have on multiple girls and none of them cared.

[Opinion Owner]

I think this speaks for itself www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2154898-how-dominant-do-girls-want-their-guy-to-be

[Asker]

Ight thanks. I'll probably ask before I try anything because I'm a pussy but definitely something needs to change. She's pretty controlling when I give her head so I can't see her caring that much.

[Opinion Owner]

think about it, would you be offended if a girl grabbed your head while you're eating her out or started thrusting with her hips? I doubt it, hell I love it when girls do that to me because it tells me they're really into it.

[Asker]

True and my girl does do that

[Opinion Owner]

see, it's basically the same exact thing

[Opinion Owner]

best of luck busting some nuts bro hahaha

[Asker]

cheers

[kaylaS91]

A good way to 'fix' or hopefully lessen the effect of having what is known as 'death grip' syndrome is to just stop jacking off. Stop jacking off entirely, or do it less and less frequently so that your sensitivity levels will increase.

[mostwomenshouldstfu]

^^^This, in combo with focus, and she has good technique.

[Asker]

Ok I'll try this I definitely won't be able to stop entirely but I'll try doing it less

[Asker]

@mostwomenshouldstfu wdym by focus?

[kaylaS91]

yeah, you can decrease frequency just a bit. Like if you normally jack off 3x/day, cut it down to just 2x/day every other day or something. In addition to making a conscious effort to grip your dick a little less tight each time. Good luck!

[Asker]

Would using lube when I jerk it help at all? Since the grip and friction won't be as strong? thanks.

[kaylaS91]

yeah, probably? not sure. That'd be pretty messy though so.. it's your choice how you want to go about it.

[mostwomenshouldstfu]

Naww, cut that frequency to twice a week spaced out.

[mostwomenshouldstfu]

Focus man, a girl has your d*** in her mouth, she's trying to suck the masculine out of you. A girl... has her lips... wrapped around your c***. Ta fuq, focus.

[Jondozer]

Tell her to man handle your penis and to keep the rythem even and constant to help you get your orgasm

[Asker]

When she gives me handjobs it hurts so I don't know if I want to tell her to "man handle" it really

[Jondozer]

Use lube and take it like a man

[Asker]

Rather not have pain for no reason, I'd rather just do what's currently working and jerk off into her mouth, better than getting a shitty handjob. As soon as someone uses be a man to validate anything it becomes invalid for me.

[Anonymous]

Try to ask her about focusing on your tip.