I can't turn my girlfriend on anymore?
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a year and a half now, and over the past month or so her sex drive has dramatically dropped.
Update Judging by some of the replies, on "I'm not good enough anymore." I'm just going to confront her asking her if she just doesn't feel it anymore and give her an excuse to leave if she wants.
Most Helpful Guy
This sounds like what happened to me & my EX-wife. It started where you are at now, eventually sex stopped completely, she'd give me oral once in awhile to shut me up. Eventually oral stopped too. Then things like kissing, touching, even being together.
Eventually I had enough. Hired a private detective and he provided me with evidence that she was having an affair. She claimed she was going to work a part time bartending job about 40 miles from where we lived, in fact she was going to be with him. I filed for divorce the next day. There is much more to that store, but that's enough for now.
There is either someone else for her, she's not in love with you anymore or there is a really deep emotional thing going on with her that you don't know about. Whichever way it is, you need to lay down the law right away and let her know, if she can't change her ways and give you want you need. IT'S OVER!
What Girls Said 2
well what I will suggest is that you guys should hav sum changes in ur regular sex life I mean try exprimenting new things what I will suggest is ask ur girlfriend for a threesum with another gal or guy any thing ur girlfriend likes its always fun
You should talk to her about this...it sounds like she lost the connection with you, and you're just hanging on. It sounds like you live together, too. You have the right to know because you have to see her everyday.
What Guys Said 3
Doesn't sound like a sex issue, but a deeper relationship problem.
It could be there are some relational needs she isn't having met. See books like "The Five Love Languages" or "His Needs, Her Needs". It is easy for guys and girls to not intrinsically know what they need.
At age 20, she could also be trying to figure out what to do with her life when she grows up. That can be a difficult time for people, especially in a long term relationship. It could just be the stress of life that has sapped her passion.
I'd just sit down with her, let her know you have detected some distance, let her know you wan to work with her, and talk it out. It won't likely get better immediately, but might be the first step to developing a deeper longer lasting relationship.
Are you coming on too strong? Perhaps she's grown tired/bored of you? Maybe you two just drifted apart?
You need to have a conversation with her about your relationship. Figure out what's going on and why, otherwise you'll just have several more months of unhappiness before the relationship eventually ends.
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